Complaints about people meaning well !

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I am so tired of people saying oh everyone has arthritis. I get tired

of going into detail about PA. I also have Sjorgen's (so I have 2x the

fatique). I wish I could spell. Anyway they say I'm just lazy. Anyone

else going thru this?????

[Editor's Note: , I think most of us understand all too well. For me,

the best way to deal with this is not to give a darn what other people say.

They don't understand my disease and I don't understand what their lives are

like either. Unless we have been in an abusive relationship, we don't really

understand why people stay in one. Unless we are African-American, we don't

really understand the many subtle ways blacks are treated differently in the US.

Unless we are substance abusers, we don't really understand the pull of

addiction. So, just as I don't really understand what other people are going

through, I have no right to expect others to understand what it is like to live

with my disease. Understanding THAT has made all the difference for me. I

don't get my validation from others - I get it from myself. Kathy F.]