Re: details of messages on internet

November 19, 2008

I think if you make the group private, it doesn't show up. I have a Shaklee

team group, which is a private group, and I have Googled things before I

know were posted..just to check....and haven't seen it come up.

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 4:59:49 P.M. Central Standard Time,

mercurybabies2@... writes:

Not that I know of. It does come as quite a shock sometimes to know

that what you post online is not private. Anything and everything you

post online becomes publicly accessible to some degree. This is why we

don't use our real full names.

It is not entirely bad that your posts come up, this is how other

people get the same help we are all giving/getting. Just keep your

childrens real names and your personal information out of posts and no

one can track you. We save anything like that for emails off list.

Also the reason we don't' usually say what city we live in or what

state, or our last names.

But sadly, all forums are this way, as are most all email/internet

communications. There is no real privacy online. Or on phone lines or

anywhere else these days. Just like I can go to onibasu and find posts

I made on this board three years ago. They are archived.

I don't mind though, that information helps tons of other parents.

But I don't know of any way you can retract what has already been

posted. You can go delete all your posts but they are probably backed

up somewhere on some server and may still come up on google.

>

> I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

>

> Emma

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November 19, 2008

My word why is everybody so scared? So what if your message is listed.

Most of the time you can Google your name and find out more info than a message

from a group. Goodness. Google your phone # and see what comes up.

If you are on the internet, rest assured there is record of it.

Just calm down. No need to get in such a tizzy over it.

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:04:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

thinkingheads@... writes:

I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

join again?

On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

> Hi Emma,

>

> This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> read

> messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on Onibasu.

> I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages also.

> This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete all

> your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> are

> open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you are a

> member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> accessed.

>

> Sorry for the frustration.

> P

>

> emma273524 wrote:

> >

> > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> >

> > Emma

> >

>

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November 19, 2008

Yeah well I am not a 16 year old girl nor am I THAT scared of things.

Kudos to you for being able to keep everything so secret, but my word, it's

a bit ridiculous sometimes how scared people are. Maybe just the different

places we live.

It's a group for goodness sakes! Do you really think stalkers are

looking for people on an autism group? ly they are browsing chat rooms,

myspace, and facebook where it's much easier to find people.

Sorry, but to me it's ridiculous to get all worked up about group messages

showing up in Google. ((rolling eyes))

As I posted before. I beileve that if the owner would put this group on

private, it wouldn't be searchable. I may be wrong on that, but that's what I

am thinking. If it is able to go private and the group messages are not

shown, is that a big deal? You can see the group description on the home page.

People can leave the group if they feel it's not for them.

I just don't worry myself with what others MAY do.

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:27:36 P.M. Central Standard Time,

the.great.zambini@... writes:

Actually, I keep things private enough so you can't find any of that -

no phone, etc., for me without having to pay a service fee for it.

Google maps can't even accurately locate our house!!! :-) One map did

get within 4 miles of our house - good luck!!! We also don't put our

name on our mailbox - at the recommendation of our postman, just the

number, and the mailbox is not visible from the main road. Does make it

difficult for those who are potential buyers trying to get an anonymous

look at it though.

Those services that charge for your info you can't get rid of. But, the

free sites, you can keep your info from. People who thought internet

identity disclosing was safe are now mostly changing their minds.

Stalkers can and will find you via the internet, and many people have

been hurt by giving too much info on the internet. I do think that

internet safety is something to get in a tizzy over. It has been

mentioned here in the past not to identify your children, or yourself,

for security reasons. It is good to keep the board open to passers-by

who may benefit from the info. But, too much info is never a good thing.

They did a recent news article where a 16 yo girl volunteered to let a

policeman try to trace her from her MySpace or FaceBook account (can't

remember which). She thought she was being very careful, no last name

or identifying info. It took him exactly 20 minutes to come up with her

last name, school, home address AND picture of her in a bikini!!!! He

used no special police programs or anything, but followed her online

trail like a stalker or predator would . Boy, mom and daughter were both

shocked!

As for changing your name so you are using an alias, you can do that

through the identities option at and without having

to unsub and resub to your groups. I've done it many times and use

three different aliases. Sometimes I even switch between them within a

group randomly. I always sign the same though, so as not to confuse

list members.

P.

_happybrats3@happybr_ (mailto:happybrats3@...) wrote:

>

> My word why is everybody so scared? So what if your message is listed.

> Most of the time you can Google your name and find out more info than

> a message

> from a group. Goodness. Google your phone # and see what comes up.

>

> If you are on the internet, rest assured there is record of it.

>

> Just calm down. No need to get in such a tizzy over it.

>

> Tracey

>

> In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:04:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

> _thinkingheads@thinkinghethi_ (mailto:thinkingheads@...)

<mailto:thinkingheamailto:thinkingmai> writes:

>

> I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

> join again?

> On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

>

> > Hi Emma,

> >

> > This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> > read

> > messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on Onibasu.

> > I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages also.

> > This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> > anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> > messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete all

> > your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> > are

> > open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you are a

> > member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> > accessed.

> >

> > Sorry for the frustration.

> > P

> >

> > emma273524 wrote:

> > >

> > > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> > > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> > > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> > >

> > > Emma

> > >

> >

>

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November 19, 2008

LOL...I am not arguing. I am laughing at how silly it is. (AND as I stated

before, that's just my opinion)

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:46:42 P.M. Central Standard Time,

evbru68@... writes:

Its also rediculous why you cant leave well enough alone. Why bother

arguing on this thread? I dont think a concerned Mom should be

ridiculed or made to feel like an idiot. Lay off already.

EB

...

> > > >

> > > > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the

internet and

> > > > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with

this and

> > > > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here.

Please if

> > > > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> > > >

> > > > Emma

> > > >

> > >

> >

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November 19, 2008

LOL......that was funny.

ly I am more worried about treating my child than I am someone reading

about how I am treating him from a group message. Plus, they'd have to be

specifically looking for me to get any info, don't you think? I doubt we are

worth THAT much effort! LOL!

I belong to over 150 and numerous message boards and have for

over 5 years. (most of them are wahm and business groups) My business has a

website and it has my picture and phone #! Here check it out..

_http://www.wellnessiseasy.com_ (http://www.wellnessiseasy.com) (click about

me to see

our picture) I also have a myspace page.

Haven't had a problem yet and I am certainly not going to say I will never

have a problem. I just don't worry about the silly stuff when I have more

important issues to deal with.

I just moved into this house and I had to laugh. Every window and door had

a stick or pole holding it shut...on top of locks and a burglar alarm! (I

rarely even set the alarm) I just rolled my eyes as I threw the sticks and

poles away. Paranoia gets carried away sometimes and interferes with other

important stuff. Now this also depends on where you live, your neighborhood

and

such and also your age. I know my mother is paranoid over every little

noise! (she also has a burglar alarm)

So I will worry more about my child more than I am going to worry about a

group message showing up on Google! Which by the way, someone would have to

specifically be looking for you to get info this way. I for one am not THAT

interesting! LOL!

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 8:34:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

Ladyshrink111@... writes:

===>Interesting voyage into the world of paranoia. There are two thoughts on

paranoia, there is the famous saying " Perfect paranoia is perfect awareness "

and the other that the paranoia can get so out of control that the person's

perceptions are distorted. I have seen both of these scenarios played out.

I never thought I was so important that people would go out of their way to

want to find me, otoh, I am freaky careful with my patients' records.

----- Original Message -----

From: _happybrats3@happybr_ (mailto:happybrats3@...)

My word why is everybody so scared? So what if your message is listed.

Most of the time you can Google your name and find out more info than a

message from a group. Goodness. Google your phone # and see what comes up.

If you are on the internet, rest assured there is record of it.

Just calm down. No need to get in such a tizzy over it.

Tracey

In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:04:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

_thinkingheads@thinkinghethi_ (mailto:thinkingheads@...) writes:

I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

join again?

On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

> Hi Emma,

>

> This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> read

> messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on Onibasu.

> I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages also.

> This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete all

> your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> are

> open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you are a

> member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> accessed.

>

> Sorry for the frustration.

> P

>

> emma273524 wrote:

> >

> > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> >

> > Emma

> >

>

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November 19, 2008

Not that I know of. It does come as quite a shock sometimes to know

that what you post online is not private. Anything and everything you

post online becomes publicly accessible to some degree. This is why we

don't use our real full names.

It is not entirely bad that your posts come up, this is how other

people get the same help we are all giving/getting. Just keep your

childrens real names and your personal information out of posts and no

one can track you. We save anything like that for emails off list.

Also the reason we don't' usually say what city we live in or what

state, or our last names.

But sadly, all forums are this way, as are most all email/internet

communications. There is no real privacy online. Or on phone lines or

anywhere else these days. Just like I can go to onibasu and find posts

I made on this board three years ago. They are archived.

I don't mind though, that information helps tons of other parents.

But I don't know of any way you can retract what has already been

posted. You can go delete all your posts but they are probably backed

up somewhere on some server and may still come up on google.

>

> I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

>

> Emma

>

November 19, 2008

Hi Emma,

This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can read

messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on Onibasu.

I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages also.

This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete all

your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they are

open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you are a

member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be accessed.

Sorry for the frustration.

P

emma273524 wrote:

>

> I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

>

> Emma

>

November 19, 2008

Yikes. This is not good!

On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:11 PM, emma273524 wrote:

> Thanks

>

> I am a member of other forums and nothing has come up from those

> ones. It is just this forum. I will see if the moderator can get rid

> of it.

>

> Emma

>

> > >

> > > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet

> and

> > > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please

> if

> > > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> > >

> > > Emma

> > >

> >

>

November 19, 2008

I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

join again?

On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

> Hi Emma,

>

> This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> read

> messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on Onibasu.

> I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages also.

> This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete all

> your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> are

> open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you are a

> member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> accessed.

>

> Sorry for the frustration.

> P

>

> emma273524 wrote:

> >

> > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the internet and

> > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here. Please if

> > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> >

> > Emma

> >

>

November 19, 2008

I am not in a tizzy for myself... just for my daughter.... she

certainly doesn't need any more stress in her life!

On Nov 19, 2008, at 7:08 PM, happybrats3@... wrote:

> My word why is everybody so scared? So what if your message is listed.

> Most of the time you can Google your name and find out more info

> than a message

> from a group. Goodness. Google your phone # and see what comes up.

>

> If you are on the internet, rest assured there is record of it.

>

> Just calm down. No need to get in such a tizzy over it.

>

> Tracey

>

> In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:04:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

> thinkingheads@... writes:

>

> I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

> join again?

> On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

>

> > Hi Emma,

> >

> > This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> > read

> > messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on

> Onibasu.

> > I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages

> also.

> > This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> > anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> > messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete

> all

> > your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> > are

> > open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you

> are a

> > member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> > accessed.

> >

> > Sorry for the frustration.

> > P

> >

> > emma273524 wrote:

> > >

> > > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the

> internet and

> > > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here.

> Please if

> > > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> > >

> > > Emma

> > >

> >

>

November 19, 2008

I am not in a tizzy for myself... just for my daughter.... she

certainly doesn't need any more stress in her life!

On Nov 19, 2008, at 7:08 PM, happybrats3@... wrote:

> My word why is everybody so scared? So what if your message is listed.

> Most of the time you can Google your name and find out more info

> than a message

> from a group. Goodness. Google your phone # and see what comes up.

>

> If you are on the internet, rest assured there is record of it.

>

> Just calm down. No need to get in such a tizzy over it.

>

> Tracey

>

> In a message dated 11/19/2008 7:04:28 P.M. Central Standard Time,

> thinkingheads@... writes:

>

> I used my full name. How do I change that? Should I unsubscribe and

> join again?

> On Nov 19, 2008, at 5:00 PM, P. wrote:

>

> > Hi Emma,

> >

> > This is an open forum. That means that anyone just stopping by can

> > read

> > messages without being a member. Posts are also referenced on

> Onibasu.

> > I've some some sites actually steal and reference these messages

> also.

> > This is all reason to not use your real name, name your kids, or

> > anything else you want kept private. The only way to delete the

> > messages from this site I believe is to have the moderator delete

> all

> > your open messages. When you join a group you can see if they

> > are

> > open messages or not by whether you can read messages before you

> are a

> > member. If you can, than anything you post on that board can be

> > accessed.

> >

> > Sorry for the frustration.

> > P

> >

> > emma273524 wrote:

> > >

> > > I have just googled my name to see what comes up on the

> internet and

> > > messages from this forums are on it. I am not happy with this and

> > > thought that messages posted on this forum remained here.

> Please if

> > > there are anyways to delete these please let me know.

> > >

> > > Emma

> > >

> >

>

November 19, 2008