Amy; Re: - 3 emails./Dave

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> >Great idea but he doesn't understand rewards. Even if he did

> understand, I don't think it would help because he's so dang

stubborn.

>

> Wouldn't be anything like his mother, would he?

>

> (Would have to be, or else you wouldn't be surviving!

Yep! Alot like his mom! Gotta be insane to stay sane!

> Well, let's see. There must be _something_ he likes, something

that you could

> give him right away. How does he communicate what he wants? Are

you able to

> work with him at all on communicating, you do this, I'll give you

that? Is he

> verbal at all? Do you use PECS? My guess is that underneath all

this, he's

> not a dumb kid. If you figure out how to work with him (I know

that's the hard

> part), he's going to begin to pick something up.

He jabbers but it doesn't have any significant meaning to the words.

He doesn't say dada because he wants his dad, it's just jabbering.

We've tried PECS but he'd rather eat the pics. If he wants something

he takes us to it. If we try to make him do X to get X, he walks

away, it's not worth it to him. (Did I mention he was stubborn!) I've

figured out, he's definitely not dumb, he's pretty dang smart and

knows how to get his way.

Before he turned 3, a speech therapist and another woman came to the

house to work with him. They told me it would take a few weeks but he

would get use to it and be fine. For a year and a half, he would run

when he saw them and scream. They couldn't get him to do anything. In

the end, he had one of the women crying because she felt like a

failure!

We tried him in the pre-k class but he got sick everytime he went.

Also, whatever toys they used that resembled something we had at

home, he would quit playing with ours. The school even lied to me and

acted like things were going fine. One of his therapists called me

and said she didn't think school was the best place for him because

it upset him so bad. He wouldn't eat at school and then he wouldn't

eat at home. Very high anxiety child! Of the 5 therapists that's

worked with him, only one listened to me and she could work with him.

The others treated him like a job they had to do. The good therapist

doesn't work at our school anymore.

>

> But anyway, from your previous emails, it does sound like you might

be able to

> work with him for one night, perhaps once or twice a week. The

hope is, with a

> little chelation, your ability to work with him might begin to

improve.

I'm going to keep trying chelation. Even if I can't make it past a

full day. I have seen improvements after chelation.

Thanks!

Amy