Re: The passing of my girlfriend.

[Guest guest]

Dearest Marty,

Thank you for sharing. You brought tears to my eyes. It is so difficult to

feel so helpless, I know. Your girlfriend sounds like a special spirit

indeed...as, I'm sure, are you.

Words are just not enough...

Eternal blessings to you both.

Lynnette

[Guest guest]

Amen. God Bless You, Marty.

Alan

" MartyWho <martywho@...> " <martywho@...> wrote:Hello everyone. Some

of you may remember having conversations with me

over the last year and a half. My girlfriend was diagnosed with

A rare form of Ewing's Sarcoma and chose to follow her doctor's

advice using the usual methods of chemo etc. She passed away at the

age of 26 in the hospital on Friday more from congestive heart

failure than anything else. The doctors admitted the chemo agents

damaged her heart. Just a week before they sent her home to " recover "

from what they we calling pneumonia. I didn't think she should be

released, sicne they just finished draining gallons of fluid from

her, never gave her any intravenous nutrition even though she wasn't

eating, didn't want to give her an enema when she was constipated for

several days. Before they released her, they gave her a one more dose

of a different chemo that has no track record for her cancer. After

having her home for only a couple of days and watching her retain

fluids and have no strength to lift her own body at all, it became

obvious that she has heart failure, not pneumonia. We took her back

to the hospital where they informed us that her heart was working on

15% and 90% of her liver was replaced by tumor!

She died a few days later. never complained, worked 50 hour

weeks at her store well into December, many people never even knew

she had cancer. In December, she was still singing Italian operas at

her recitals! I did everything I could to explain the effects and

damage and danger of chemo but she trusted her doctors and was

concerned about insurance not covering the options I wanted to

explore.

At the end she died a horrifying death but she was surrounded by her

friends and family the entire time. While we were trying to tell her

it was OK to go, she later explained that she appreciated what we

were trying to do, but that she didn't want to die, that it was all

bullshit and unfair, and that she won't leave willfully.

I just wanted to thak all of you who offed advice to me. It help

greatly and was a source of support for me. I know that she wouldn't

have made it this long if I didn't follow your advice and the advice

of great minds like Ralph Moss. My life will never be the same and my

distrust for doctors is only rivaled by lawyers and insurance people

and politicians.

God bless all of you and I pray you all have the strength to make

good decisions.

Sincerely,

Marty Deering

[Guest guest]

Hi Marty,

I remember you from this list. I am so sorry about your girlfriend.

I hope you have the time and space to care for yourself after all you

have been through with her.

She was one of the lucky ones to have someone like yourself there for

her. To continue to be there for her even though you knew in your

bones that her decisions were not the ones you would have her make,

is a true act of love.

Her story is so tragic. And she sounds like such a determined

person...what a strong spirit she must have had.

You have my deepest sympathies,

> Hello everyone. Some of you may remember having conversations with

me

> over the last year and a half.

[Guest guest]

Marty, Marty...what a shame! You have been such a beacon of light

for this group. How tragic it is that you are never " a prophet in

your own home town. " Know that you tried and that her soul just

wasn't ready for your message. Give to others in her memory. It

works. I know.

Bill