Help for my son?

April 23, 2006

I have a very unusual situation. My son is 35 and I have supported

him most of his adult life as he has had mental health problems

(panic disorder, agoraphobia, specific phobia, etc. for which he was

treated a long time ago but he refused further treatment many years

ago) Over 2 years ago in the fall he noticed he was having severe

problems with his bowels and pains that he attributed to a possible

hernia, without telling me until a year later he decided he must have

colon cancer, his lymph nodes are the size of grapefruits and he has

other symptoms such as bouts of coughing (mets to lungs?) and brown

spots on his skin. He barely leaves his bed, hasn't left the house in

almost 2 years. His vision has deteriorated, he is in severe pain all

the time and is drinking A LOT for the pain. I cannot get him to go

to a doctor he just wants to make the best of it for as long as he is

here and intimates that he will kill himself if I force the issue. I

guess what I would like is to be able to tell him that since he is

stil alive after all this time that this might be a strong indication

that he was way off in his diagnosis. He is around 300# at 6' so

maybe this indicates that he has something else besides cancer as I

would think he would have lost a lot of weight if he were stage 4 for

2 years. There is a really good chance that he is diabetic as it runs

in the family on both sides and with the drinking this could quite

likely be the cause of many of his symptoms (he also did steroirds

for weight lifting several months shortly before this problem

developed). He has 2 sons and although he has been really miserable I

hope they give him something to live for.

I have tried a few alternatives but he only does them for a time and

then quits, although he did do cesium for 90 days and would probably

try it again but now I am in dire financial straits so it would be

difficult to afford now.

Can anyone give me something positive I can pass on to him, he

doesn't trust my opinion on anything.

Thanks,

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