Anyone with an somewhat independent teen

[Guest guest]

I have gotten through more of the relationship development intervention training

and I wanted to share what was presented in a brief summary.

First our kids need to be emotionally somewhat stable to teach

dynamic social skills. Because they have to calmly learn to cope

with change.

Once the child is stable and able to cope with some change we

can move to RDI. The idea of RDI is to develop a dialogue with the

child (not a monologue), help them cope with things breaking and

not being predictable (as this is how life is) and help them accept

that things are not perfect (so be more flexible).

My daughter is 12 and I would say only recently is she stable

enough to be able to accept some changes. I am still relying

on a special needs school, a behavior plan, point charts and rehearsing and

scripting.

Does anyone have a teen that can manage more independently? What do you

attribute to this?

Pam