Re: Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

[Guest guest]

PamMy 9 year old boy is like that but not to that extreme. He will throw things at me or just hit my arm or hit his brother. And he hits hard. It hurts. He is very aggressive towards me. Not his dad or peers or teachers. Me and my younger son is who he aims toward. Sometimes my mom who is very close to him feels it too. He is also verbal. He says more cuss words than I know. hope that makes you feel some better. We are on abilify and keppra. I really don't feel the keppra works but I do feel the abilify does. scottSent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryFrom: "Pamela" <susanonderko@...>Sender: Date: Tue, 19 Oct 2010 18:46:22 -0000< >Reply Subject: ( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)when they lock into an idea of something they have to have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twicea week. If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm andshe doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow willshe punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry. There is a consequence of no assess to the laptopshe likes to use. She still has assess to the desktopin the kitchen. She earns computer time every dayfor going to school (she often refuses to go to school). If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet storeand I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair andwon't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feelsentitiled to something to lift her mood since she says schoolis so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definatelytrying to get me back for saying no. I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we tryAbilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hatethe idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of mood stabizers. I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostlywithdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving socialskill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.She is really addictive about her special interestsof collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but thingsfor them etc. I appreciate any feedback.Pam

[Guest guest]

Pam,

Our son is 9 and was diagnosed AS this past school year. We are having a HORRIBLE time with him because of aggression! And, yes, I have been the target (but he will be aggressive with almost anyone). He has learned that if he gets aggressive with me that I will take him down and put him in a hold. He may be 9, but he's over 90 lbs. and very strong. He is on Abilify and we just uppped the dose to 5mg. I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still looking too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone.

Beth

( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)when they lock into an idea of something they have to have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twicea week. If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm andshe doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow willshe punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry. There is a consequence of no assess to the laptopshe likes to use. She still has assess to the desktopin the kitchen. She earns computer time every dayfor going to school (she often refuses to go to school). If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet storeand I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair andwon't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feelsentitiled to something to lift her mood since she says schoolis so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definatelytrying to get me back for saying no. I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we tryAbilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hatethe idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of mood stabizers. I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostlywithdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving socialskill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.She is really addictive about her special interestsof collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but thingsfor them etc. I appreciate any feedback.Pam

[Guest guest]

I feel for you. This is one of the hardest thing we have dealt with with our

children. We also went through the same thing with my son. In addition we went

through this with his twin. I was kicked, spit at, scratched, pinched, bit,

punched, you name it. I had so many bruises and scratches. I remember when

they were 3, that's when the aggression started, holding my son's door closed to

protect us. While I held the door closed so he couldn't get out his twin

brother sat behind me just watching all this. That is etched in my brain! I do

have to say that please be careful, get trained on how to do a hold. I would

also recommend notifying your Dr./psychologist and school of what is happening.

Both my husband and I were trained due to jobs we held. During one of these

incidents my son got a bruise and I got a call from the school who was going to

report me to CPS (my son was in 2nd grade I think). I couldn't believe this.

Not only would I not hurt my child, I am a social worker who worked with DV

victims. My son's pediatrician and psychologist were aware of what we were

doing, knew we had the training, so that helped us in dealing with the school.

With my AS child we got to the point that we would no longer hold him for fear

of his strength that he would get hurt by twisting, etc. We got to the point

that he was put on notice that if he was unsafe or we felt unsafe that we would

have to call the police. Again, this was all with the advice of his

psychologist. With the right medications, doing journal when he was that upset

and the threat of the police (which we never had to use, thank God) we were able

to work through this. Not sure if this helps but know that you are not alone in

this. Hang in there and keep yourself safe.

---- Beth & Dave Schmidt <bethndave@...> wrote:

> Pam,

>

> Our son is 9 and was diagnosed AS this past school year. We are having a

HORRIBLE time with him because of aggression! And, yes, I have been the target

(but he will be aggressive with almost anyone). He has learned that if he gets

aggressive with me that I will take him down and put him in a hold. He may be

9, but he's over 90 lbs. and very strong. He is on Abilify and we just uppped

the dose to 5mg. I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still

looking too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone.

>

> Beth

>

> ( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

>

>

>

> Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> a week.

>

> If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

>

> If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> trying to get me back for saying no.

>

>

> I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> mood stabizers.

>

> I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

>

> She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> She is really addictive about her special interests

> of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> for them etc.

>

> I appreciate any feedback.

>

> Pam

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I wanted to just make a suggestion on the computer issue your daughter is having. I don't want you to think I am giving her an excuse, but I would look at how much screen time you are giving her. I know with my AS son we have struggles with the computer and TV, this is mostly due to sensory issues. Screen time can get any kid over stimulated and then add AS on top of that, WOW. AS kids do have sensory issues, some more sensory sensitive like my son, and some not so much.

You could try to limit screen time, and give or remind your child to take a sensory break while they are having screen time. I have my son do something that takes about 30 seconds, longer if I notice he is really overstemed. Cutting down on the screen time has helped a lot. Also give your daughter warnings or even set a timer and when the timmer goes off, that's it. If my son does not follow through with his timmer and getting off the PC, I do take away computer time.

I would defiantly not put up with the hitting and disrespect to you, I am currently working on this with my son. I do though take into consideration what is going on at the time he becomes aggressive, this way I am able to see if it could be related to being over stemmed or just do to being 13 and wanting to get his way.

Also you might want to ask the behaviorist to help you work on coping skills for the home, this way you can correct the behavior and then work on teaching the coping skill at the same time.

Dawn

[Guest guest]

Have you tried Feingold Diet?-- Sent from my Palm PreOn Oct 19, 2010 16:16, Beth & amp; Dave Schmidt <bethndave@...> wrote:

Pam,

Our son is 9 and was diagnosed AS this past school year. We are having a HORRIBLE time with him because of aggression! And, yes, I have been the target (but he will be aggressive with almost anyone). He has learned that if he gets aggressive with me that I will take him down and put him in a hold. He may be 9, but he's over 90 lbs. and very strong. He is on Abilify and we just uppped the dose to 5mg. I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still looking too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone.

Beth

( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)when they lock into an idea of something they have to have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twicea week. If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm andshe doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow willshe punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry. There is a consequence of no assess to the laptopshe likes to use. She still has assess to the desktopin the kitchen. She earns computer time every dayfor going to school (she often refuses to go to school). If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet storeand I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair andwon't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feelsentitiled to something to lift her mood since she says schoolis so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definatelytrying to get me back for saying no. I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we tryAbilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hatethe idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of mood stabizers. I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostlywithdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving socialskill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.She is really addictive about her special interestsof collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but thingsfor them etc. I appreciate any feedback.Pam

[Guest guest]

Thank you Beth for sharing what you are trying. I really appreciate hearing from

others.

>

> Pam,

>

> Our son is 9 and was diagnosed AS this past school year. We are having a

HORRIBLE time with him because of aggression! And, yes, I have been the target

(but he will be aggressive with almost anyone). He has learned that if he gets

aggressive with me that I will take him down and put him in a hold. He may be

9, but he's over 90 lbs. and very strong. He is on Abilify and we just uppped

the dose to 5mg. I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still

looking too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone.

>

> Beth

>

> ( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

>

>

>

> Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> a week.

>

> If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

>

> If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> trying to get me back for saying no.

>

>

> I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> mood stabizers.

>

> I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

>

> She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> She is really addictive about her special interests

> of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> for them etc.

>

> I appreciate any feedback.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you Beth for sharing what you are trying. I really appreciate hearing from

others.

>

> Pam,

>

> Our son is 9 and was diagnosed AS this past school year. We are having a

HORRIBLE time with him because of aggression! And, yes, I have been the target

(but he will be aggressive with almost anyone). He has learned that if he gets

aggressive with me that I will take him down and put him in a hold. He may be

9, but he's over 90 lbs. and very strong. He is on Abilify and we just uppped

the dose to 5mg. I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still

looking too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone.

>

> Beth

>

> ( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

>

>

>

> Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> a week.

>

> If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

>

> If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> trying to get me back for saying no.

>

>

> I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> mood stabizers.

>

> I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

>

> She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> She is really addictive about her special interests

> of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> for them etc.

>

> I appreciate any feedback.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you all for your responses and suggestions. I had

not read much about AS and aggressive behaviors so it helped.

It is very upsetting to think about how when stress goes up

in her life she takes it out on me. Today again she hit

me repeatedly in the car when I said we could shop for a

picture day dress but not go looking for more fish tanks.

She wouldn't stop till I started yelling out of the car for the police. That

scares her too. When she calmed down she blamed school.

So I drove back to our special ed school. Our behaviorist may not like that I

said I would take her to get a jar for her fish if she got of the car and talked

to the school. She did get out and talked over

issues that have made her feel overwhelmed.

I don't think she realizes how hard and how many times she hits me.

Today she seemed more remorseful perhaps because of going back to the

school. I could try therapy for her again on just the issue

of her anger and how to control it. She was not cooperative at

all in the past. Our behaviorist does not ever

talk to our daughter or see her due to my daughter

being oppositional about it. It is all parent training.

Usually she blames me for triggering her but today was the

first time she said she was a bad person. I don't want her to

think that either.

I appreciate all the support.

Pam

>

> Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> a week.

>

> If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

>

> If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> trying to get me back for saying no.

>

>

> I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> mood stabizers.

>

> I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

>

> She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> She is really addictive about her special interests

> of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> for them etc.

>

> I appreciate any feedback.

>

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

I had the same problem with my daugther but I found out by myself some strategies ...

My daugther is eleven and she used to kick me in front of people. I reviewed myself, I asked other people to tell me how they see me. My 23 years son asked me to modify my behavior toward her, that I look too demanding and bossy.

so I try to say "no" to her without sounding "no". I gave her options instead..

..

Medicine did not work so much for her I felt at time as running away myself...LOL, thanks God thinks are better now..

She was not interested on dressing or taking care her of herself, she was very unhappy with her look but I kept taking her with me to shop and I made appointments to try cosmetics at the stores.. Finally she got the message...

She is learning to love herself and she is happier...

We go to and Nobles and read books about aspergers together. Sometimes she exclude me from her world, but it is ok, I learned to respect those moments that she disconnect from reality.

I know that I will never win the battle, but at this time I have a break...

Sometimes she still gets rude and aggressive, but it is getting much better..the therapy helped her more than the medicine..

( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in> > > > Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)> when they lock into an idea of something they have to > have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice> a week. > > If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and> she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is > just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry. > There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop> she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day> for going to school (she often refuses to go to school). > > If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store> and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school> is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately> trying to get me back for saying no. > > > I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is > on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try> Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate> the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of > mood stabizers. > > I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?> > She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly> withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social> skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.> She is really addictive about her special interests> of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things> for them etc. > > I appreciate any feedback.> > Pam>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much! I do want to try not to escalate her

so much. Her triggers are predictable. And I really want to

avoid abilify.

Pam

> >

> > Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> > when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> > have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> > a week.

> >

> > If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> > she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> > she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> > so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> > just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> > There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> > she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> > in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> > for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

> >

> > If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> > and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> > won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> > entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> > is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> > trying to get me back for saying no.

> >

> >

> > I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> > on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> > Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> > the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> > mood stabizers.

> >

> > I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

> >

> > She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> > withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> > skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> > She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> > She is really addictive about her special interests

> > of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> > for them etc.

> >

> > I appreciate any feedback.

> >

> >

> > Pam

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much.

Pam

-- In , tfitzge134@... wrote:

>

>

>

> I had the same problem with my daugther but I found out by myself some

strategies ...

>

> My daugther is eleven and she used to kick me in front of people. I reviewed

myself, I asked other people to tell me how they see me. My 23 years son asked

me to modify my behavior toward her, that I look too demanding and bossy.  

>

> so I try to say " no "   to her without sounding " no " . I gave her options

instead..

>

>

>

> .

>

> Medicine did not work so much for her  I felt at time as running away

myself...LOL, thanks God thinks are better now..

>

> She was not interested on dressing or taking care her of herself, she was very

unhappy with her look  but I kept taking her with me to shop and I made

appointments to try cosmetics at the stores.. Finally she got the message...

>

>

>

> She is learning to love herself and she is happier...

>

>

>

> We go to and Nobles and read books about aspergers together. Sometimes

she exclude me from her world, but it is ok, I learned to respect those moments

that she disconnect from reality.

>

> I know that I will never win the battle, but at this time I have a break...

>

> Sometimes she still gets rude and aggressive, but it is getting much

better..the therapy helped her more than the medicine..

>

>

>

>

> ( ) Aggressive toward Mom, when locked in

> >

> >

> >    

> >   Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> >   when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> >   have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> >   a week.

> >

> >   If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> >   she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> >   she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> >   so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> >   just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> >   There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> >   she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> >   in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> >   for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

> >

> >   If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> >   and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> >   won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> >   entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> >   is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> >   trying to get me back for saying no.

> >

> >

> >   I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> >   on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> >   Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> >   the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> >   mood stabizers.

> >

> >   I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

> >

> >   She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> >   withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> >   skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> >   She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> >   She is really addictive about her special interests

> >   of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> >   for them etc.

> >

> >   I appreciate any feedback.

> >

> >   Pam

> >

>

[Guest guest]

No we have not. I will take a look.

Pam

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> & nbsp;

> & nbsp; & nbsp; & nbsp; Our son is 9 and was diagnosed

> AS this past school year. & nbsp; We are having a HORRIBLE time with him because

> of aggression! & nbsp; And, yes, I have been the target (but he will be

aggressive

> with almost anyone). & nbsp; He has learned that if he gets aggressive with me

> that I will take him down and put him in a hold. & nbsp; He may be 9, but he's

> over 90 lbs. and very strong. & nbsp; He is on Abilify and we just uppped the

dose

> to 5mg. & nbsp; I'm not sure what the answer is here because we are still

looking

> too, but I thought I'd tell you that you are not alone. & nbsp;

>

>

> Beth

> & nbsp;

>

> ( ) Aggressive

> toward Mom, when locked in

>

> & nbsp;

>

>

> Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> when they lock

> into an idea of something they have to

> have or have to keep doing. This

> happens once or twice

> a week.

>

> If I ask my 13 year old daughter to

> get off the computer at 9pm and

> she doesn't I turn off the box for the

> internet. Wow will

> she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and

> 4'5''

> so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> just so

> out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> There is a consequence of

> no assess to the laptop

> she likes to use. She still has assess to the

> desktop

> in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> for going to

> school (she often refuses to go to school).

>

> If after school my

> daughter wants to go to the pet store

> and I say, not today but on Friday

> ...she pulls my hair and

> won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She

> feels

> entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> is

> so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> trying to get

> me back for saying no.

>

>

> I am working with a behaviorist and my

> daughter is

> on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> Abilify

> to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> the idea it opens the

> door to trying all sorts of

> mood stabizers.

>

> I was wondering how

> common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

>

> She is not the least bt

> aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> withdrawn from her peers at

> school. She is receiving social

> skill training at her school. She is in a

> special needs school.

> She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic

> tendencies.

> She is really addictive about her special interests

> of

> collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> for them etc.

>

>

> I appreciate any feedback.

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Beth,

You mentioned that your child's school has a sensory room. I have been trying

for some time for my son's school to create one of these. Besides the

trampoline, what does the school provide in the room? Any other suggestions

would be appreciated. My son uses an exercise ball at home to bounce on to help

regulate himself. I like the thermometer idea!

> >

> > Do any of your AS kids get aggressive toward you (Mom)

> > when they lock into an idea of something they have to

> > have or have to keep doing. This happens once or twice

> > a week.

> >

> > If I ask my 13 year old daughter to get off the computer at 9pm and

> > she doesn't I turn off the box for the internet. Wow will

> > she punch and hit me repeatedly. She is only 60 lbs and 4'5''

> > so I am not really seriously injured but the behavior is

> > just so out of control. Afterward she says she is sorry.

> > There is a consequence of no assess to the laptop

> > she likes to use. She still has assess to the desktop

> > in the kitchen. She earns computer time every day

> > for going to school (she often refuses to go to school).

> >

> > If after school my daughter wants to go to the pet store

> > and I say, not today but on Friday ...she pulls my hair and

> > won't let go unless I somehow pull her off me. She feels

> > entitiled to something to lift her mood since she says school

> > is so boring. Once I say no, I don't give in. She is definately

> > trying to get me back for saying no.

> >

> >

> > I am working with a behaviorist and my daughter is

> > on zoloft (75mg). Her psychiatrist suggested we try

> > Abilify to lessen the obessiveness and reasctions. I hate

> > the idea it opens the door to trying all sorts of

> > mood stabizers.

> >

> > I was wondering how common this beahvior is and how you have coped?

> >

> > She is not the least bt aggressive with anyone else. She is mostly

> > withdrawn from her peers at school. She is receiving social

> > skill training at her school. She is in a special needs school.

> > She is not bipolar. Does not have any manic tendencies.

> > She is really addictive about her special interests

> > of collecting fish and just keeps wanting to but things

> > for them etc.

> >

> > I appreciate any feedback.

> >

> >

> > Pam

> >

>