Re: Eventual Outcome OT

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This is #1 as you put it. Notice I started adding my last name

to avoid confusion. Feel free to email me personally to vent or

whatever. I would also love to hear more about Jordan. My husband is

dying to go over there and to the Holy Land, but there's NO WAY I am

bringing my kids to a war zone right now. Email me personally and we

will talk.

In @y..., " ranoush84 " <ranoush84@y...> wrote:

> For both and (the 1st one...),

>

> I really appreciated both of your responses... it really made me

> feel so much better knowing you both had just the right things to

say

> to me. My husband is great, we've known each other since we were

> teenagers, for almost 25 years now... I have no doubt that he loves

> me, but as you both pointed out men tend to be 'problem solvers'

and

> PA can not always be solved. PA is hard for anyone else to 'see'

> like in other diseases. This is why this particular site has given

> me so much comfort, I feel I can help others in little ways and

also

> benefit from others (such as both of you)greatly... making me less

> likely to 'dump' so much on those around me. PA is always on my

> mind, but not on those minds of all around me... this site is great

> for venting out our feelings and share with one another. Thank you

> both so much. I know my husband wants me to feel better... even

> tonight we attended a Santa Lucia event, where I sang the usual

> Swedish songs with the children (I am not Swedish, but have been

> participating in this event for the past 15 years... long

story...),

> he said I looked great and wanted to take me out to dinner. Well,

> I 'looked' great, but felt so nauseated and was dying to go home

and

> crawl into bed... instead, I knew he wanted to go out and I went

> along. It was a great evening for him and our guest... but I felt

> like I was just 'holding myself together' just to get through the

> dinner and back home... into my pj's. I don't want to ruin things

> for him, I couldn't possibly turn him down every time I felt bad...

> we would never go anywhere if my 'feeling well' was a

prerequisite.

> I am so sick of being sick. Everywhere I go people have a glass of

> wine, beer, or whatever... I have to turn it down because I can't

> handle the after effects... more nausea and faintness after only a

> sip or two. People think I am against drinking, so I

> try 'minimally'to explain why I can't drink... usually using my

meds.

> as the excuse...or being hypoglycemic. I think my explaining my

> situation to others annoys him, reminding him that I am sick. Oh

> well, I have gone on and on, sorry. Thank you so much.

>

> (#2)

>

>

> > In a message dated 12/13/2001 4:24:39 AM Eastern Standard Time,

> > ranoush84@y... writes:

> >

> >

> > > I suppose my husband, in some way, made me feel that I would

get

> > > better. I think he has no idea how serious it is, how

> frustrating it

> > > is, and how it effects us every day

> >

> > - I understand how this can make you feel worse and not

> better - but I

> > can also see (I think) where he is coming from. Most men

> are " problem

> > solvers " . They don't understand how to deal with something or be

> supportive

> > when there isn't a solution. He wants to " fix " you and make it

all

> better.

> > Take that a sign of his love and support. It's hard for anybody

> without PA

> > to understand how you feel and how to support you which is, I

hope,

> something

> > this online group can help provide. Remember, your husband, I'm

> sure, loves

> > you very much and would do anything in his power to take this

away

> from you

> > if he could.

> > Take care,

> >

> > P.S. Sorry if I went over my 3 posts today - I missed reading

posts

> > yesterday. Does that mean I get 6 today?? )

> >

> >

> >