Guest guest Posted September 1, 2009 Report Share Posted September 1, 2009 Anyone have any ideas on how to help my 9yo son (Aspergers, and likely ADHD also), STOP swearing??? He NEVER swore before we moved here, and the kids here swear all the time – but so does everyone else. COMPLETE culture change. However, I am NOT ok with my children swearing. I know it was an issue at school, and where the other kids wouldn’t do it loud enough to get caught… my boy, and his Aspie-ness, was likely copying them to be cool, and not realizing that saying it too loud would get him into trouble. At home, my husband washed his mouth out with soap one day… that wasn’t a pretty sight And I DON’T think that’s an effective way of helping him. Advice? Anyone else deal with this? =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2009 Report Share Posted September 1, 2009 Have you talked to him about it and asked him why he has started swearing, is he doing it to get attention, my Aspie boy cannot tell the difference between good and bad attention, I have to explain to him when he is getting bad attention because of what he is doing.. I would try giving him guidelines, ie definately not to do it infront of his Dad or in class, cause with the best will in the world kids will swear at some point. I would also have a chat with your husband he doesn't sound like he gives your son the positive support that he needs, my husband would be out the house for a long time if he ever done anything like that to my son. Home is supposed to be the safe place where they feel secure and people are accepting of their behaviour. From: O'Brien <nicole.obrien@...>Subject: ( ) Swearing... Date: Tuesday, 1 September, 2009, 2:10 PM Anyone have any ideas on how to help my 9yo son (Aspergers, and likely ADHD also), STOP swearing??? He NEVER swore before we moved here, and the kids here swear all the time – but so does everyone else. COMPLETE culture change. However, I am NOT ok with my children swearing. I know it was an issue at school, and where the other kids wouldn’t do it loud enough to get caught… my boy, and his Aspie-ness, was likely copying them to be cool, and not realizing that saying it too loud would get him into trouble. At home, my husband washed his mouth out with soap one day… that wasn’t a pretty sight And I DON’T think that’s an effective way of helping him. Advice? Anyone else deal with this? =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2009 Report Share Posted September 1, 2009 My son curses too...he also learned it from everyone else...as we don't normally swear in our house. It has become to common place in homes....and yes, our children want to copy to be "cool" and don't know how to handle situations ...so they are the ones who get caught .... Give your son some other made-up words to say....I say Sugar Jets instead of Shxx. Maybe you could make up a cool word or let him make one up. Everytime he swears ...make him put a quarter in the jar....(from his piggy bank). Tell him it really isn't "cool" to curse....and why ....etc. etc. I know it is hard...my son curses and I was told he had a filfty mouth...but where did he get it...not at home. It is just that our kids don't have the "social skills" to know how to handle this...and they then are the ones that get caught. Just keep trying..... I never used soap...but when my son learned the word "idiot" and starting calling everyone an "Idiot" I told him if he didn't stop I would put tobassco sauce on his tonque. Well, I did one day...just a tiny tiny bit....man did he cry and I felt so horrible I gave him bread ....but he still cried ...he slowly stopped ....calling people idiots. Jan Janice Rushen "I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope" From: O'Brien <nicole.obrien@ eastlink. ca>Subject: ( ) Swearing... Date: Tuesday, 1 September, 2009, 2:10 PM Anyone have any ideas on how to help my 9yo son (Aspergers, and likely ADHD also), STOP swearing??? He NEVER swore before we moved here, and the kids here swear all the time – but so does everyone else. COMPLETE culture change. However, I am NOT ok with my children swearing. I know it was an issue at school, and where the other kids wouldn’t do it loud enough to get caught… my boy, and his Aspie-ness, was likely copying them to be cool, and not realizing that saying it too loud would get him into trouble. At home, my husband washed his mouth out with soap one day… that wasn’t a pretty sight And I DON’T think that’s an effective way of helping him. Advice? Anyone else deal with this? =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2009 Report Share Posted September 3, 2009 My son, just turned 11, started swearing around the same age. I believe that he does it purposely to try to get a reaction. He is angry and therefore wants to push the envelope. If I react negatively, he wins (since that is what he wants). I have learned to just ignore it. If he uses a swear word when he is not angry, more just in conversation, I just remind him not to swear. It has gotten better in some ways. Vickie > > Anyone have any ideas on how to help my 9yo son (Aspergers, and likely ADHD > also), STOP swearing??? He NEVER swore before we moved here, and the kids > here swear all the time - but so does everyone else. COMPLETE culture > change. However, I am NOT ok with my children swearing. I know it was an > issue at school, and where the other kids wouldn't do it loud enough to get > caught. my boy, and his Aspie-ness, was likely copying them to be cool, and > not realizing that saying it too loud would get him into trouble. At home, > my husband washed his mouth out with soap one day. that wasn't a pretty > sight And I DON'T think that's an effective way of helping him. > > > > Advice? Anyone else deal with this? > > > > =) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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