Guest guest Posted April 6, 2010 Report Share Posted April 6, 2010 It helped us to go to a family therapist. She gave us family-oriented activities to help our son. She also listened to us "vent" and was a voice of reason. Sometimes, my husband's way of handling things was better, and sometimes mine was. It helped us both to see that. It also made us realize that working together as a team was better for our son than working against each other. We didn't really go that long to see benefits. I think any therapist will agree that dealing with an AS kid, you have to have structure, routine and some rewards system in place. You also have to practice social skills with him. The therapist did help with that, but it is something you can do at home too. You can use a workbook like this: http://www.amazon.com/Knowing-Yourself-Others-Aspergers-Social-Skill/dp/1572246642/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8 & s=books & qid=1270577473 & sr=8-7Hope this helps. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Suzanne suzmarkwood@... From: spm1720 <spm1720@...>Subject: ( ) Hi! New to group Date: Tuesday, April 6, 2010, 6:21 AM Hi!I have a 6 year old son that was diagnosed with apergers and tourettes this year. We always knew that something wasn't right ever since he was about 3. He is very bright, very high functioning, but has the need to have a routine, has a very hard time with transitions, and obsesses about certain things to the point of a melt down. Also has a lot of sensory issues. My question is, does anyone know of any information for couples raising an asperger child...I have heard that this can really put a strain on marriages for example: disagreeing on discipline, ie, husband thinks I am too easy on him.... if anyone has any information on this aspect of it, I would really appreciate that. Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2010 Report Share Posted April 6, 2010 Hi Sheri. WelcomeI don't have specific knowledge of where you can get that kind of information, but I can relate to the question. My dd is 13 and we have just started the eval process. Since we learned she likely as AS, I have tried to change the way I deal with her. I don't let her get away with things, but I try to be more understanding of why she did or did not do something. My husband thinks I am being too easy on her. He prefers to be tough on her, but just yelling at an AS kid is not going to help them change (At least I don't think it will. I'm new at this) From: spm1720@...Date: Tue, 6 Apr 2010 13:21:16 +0000Subject: ( ) Hi! New to group Hi! I have a 6 year old son that was diagnosed with apergers and tourettes this year. We always knew that something wasn't right ever since he was about 3. He is very bright, very high functioning, but has the need to have a routine, has a very hard time with transitions, and obsesses about certain things to the point of a melt down. Also has a lot of sensory issues. My question is, does anyone know of any information for couples raising an asperger child...I have heard that this can really put a strain on marriages for example: disagreeing on discipline, ie, husband thinks I am too easy on him.... if anyone has any information on this aspect of it, I would really appreciate that. Sheri The New Busy is not the too busy. Combine all your e-mail accounts with Hotmail. Get busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2010 Report Share Posted April 6, 2010 Yes, I am new at this too.. no, yelling doesn't seem to help with either. I'm like you, I don't let him get away with acting up, but I do try to understand what could be triggering behavior problems. Sometimes it is really hard to tell. Thank you for your post, I don't feel so alone anymore. Sheri From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckney@...>Aspergers Treatment Sent: Tue, April 6, 2010 2:53:59 PMSubject: RE: ( ) Hi! New to group Hi Sheri. WelcomeI don't have specific knowledge of where you can get that kind of information, but I can relate to the question. My dd is 13 and we have just started the eval process. Since we learned she likely as AS, I have tried to change the way I deal with her. I don't let her get away with things, but I try to be more understanding of why she did or did not do something. My husband thinks I am being too easy on her. He prefers to be tough on her, but just yelling at an AS kid is not going to help them change (At least I don't think it will. I'm new at this) From: spm1720@...Date: Tue, 6 Apr 2010 13:21:16 +0000Subject: ( ) Hi! New to group Hi!I have a 6 year old son that was diagnosed with apergers and tourettes this year. We always knew that something wasn't right ever since he was about 3. He is very bright, very high functioning, but has the need to have a routine, has a very hard time with transitions, and obsesses about certain things to the point of a melt down. Also has a lot of sensory issues. My question is, does anyone know of any information for couples raising an asperger child...I have heard that this can really put a strain on marriages for example: disagreeing on discipline, ie, husband thinks I am too easy on him.... if anyone has any information on this aspect of it, I would really appreciate that. Sheri The New Busy is not the too busy. Combine all your e-mail accounts with Hotmail. Get busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2010 Report Share Posted April 6, 2010 From: Suzanne Markwood <suzmarkwood@...> Sent: Tue, April 6, 2010 1:13:49 PMSubject: Re: ( ) Hi! New to group It helped us to go to a family therapist. She gave us family-oriented activities to help our son. She also listened to us "vent" and was a voice of reason. Sometimes, my husband's way of handling things was better, and sometimes mine was. It helped us both to see that. It also made us realize that working together as a team was better for our son than working against each other. We didn't really go that long to see benefits. I think any therapist will agree that dealing with an AS kid, you have to have structure, routine and some rewards system in place. You also have to practice social skills with him. The therapist did help with that, but it is something you can do at home too. You can use a workbook like this: http://www.amazon.com/Knowing-Yourself-Others-Aspergers-Social-Skill/dp/1572246642/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8 & s=books & qid=1270577473 & sr=8-7Hope this helps. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Suzanne suzmarkwood@... From: spm1720 <spm1720@...>Subject: ( ) Hi! New to group Date: Tuesday, April 6, 2010, 6:21 AM Hi!I have a 6 year old son that was diagnosed with apergers and tourettes this year. We always knew that something wasn't right ever since he was about 3. He is very bright, very high functioning, but has the need to have a routine, has a very hard time with transitions, and obsesses about certain things to the point of a melt down. Also has a lot of sensory issues. My question is, does anyone know of any information for couples raising an asperger child...I have heard that this can really put a strain on marriages for example: disagreeing on discipline, ie, husband thinks I am too easy on him.... if anyone has any information on this aspect of it, I would really appreciate that. Sheri Thank you so much for the link, I'm going to check it out. I have an appointment with a school based therapist next week, I am going to ask her about family therapy. We do have a "smiley face" sticker chart for certain tasks like getting dressed, eating dinner, picking up toys, etc. His aid does this with him in school and suggested this to us. So far it works pretty well. Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2010 Report Share Posted April 7, 2010 Good, I'm glad I helped. I am so new to this whole thing that I don't generally have a lot of advice to share, but like to reach out when I find a kindred spirit! From: spm1720@...Date: Tue, 6 Apr 2010 19:52:01 -0700Subject: Re: ( ) Hi! New to group Yes, I am new at this too.. no, yelling doesn't seem to help with either. I'm like you, I don't let him get away with acting up, but I do try to understand what could be triggering behavior problems. Sometimes it is really hard to tell. Thank you for your post, I don't feel so alone anymore. Sheri From: Barbara Pinckney <b-pinckneyhotmail>Aspergers Treatment Sent: Tue, April 6, 2010 2:53:59 PMSubject: RE: ( ) Hi! New to group Hi Sheri. WelcomeI don't have specific knowledge of where you can get that kind of information, but I can relate to the question. My dd is 13 and we have just started the eval process. Since we learned she likely as AS, I have tried to change the way I deal with her. I don't let her get away with things, but I try to be more understanding of why she did or did not do something. My husband thinks I am being too easy on her. He prefers to be tough on her, but just yelling at an AS kid is not going to help them change (At least I don't think it will. I'm new at this) From: spm1720 Date: Tue, 6 Apr 2010 13:21:16 +0000Subject: ( ) Hi! New to group Hi!I have a 6 year old son that was diagnosed with apergers and tourettes this year. We always knew that something wasn't right ever since he was about 3. He is very bright, very high functioning, but has the need to have a routine, has a very hard time with transitions, and obsesses about certain things to the point of a melt down. Also has a lot of sensory issues. My question is, does anyone know of any information for couples raising an asperger child...I have heard that this can really put a strain on marriages for example: disagreeing on discipline, ie, husband thinks I am too easy on him.... if anyone has any information on this aspect of it, I would really appreciate that. Sheri The New Busy is not the too busy. Combine all your e-mail accounts with Hotmail. Get busy. The New Busy think 9 to 5 is a cute idea. Combine multiple calendars with Hotmail. Get busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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