Any books on dating etiquette.....

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Hi, are there any books that kids on the spectrum can read to help them

understand what behaviors attract others? My son had decided he wants a

girlfriend, but has no clue how to get one. I can talk to him, but reading has

always seemed to be the way he has learned.

Thanks,

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How old is your son?

Mine has just turned 7 and seems to get by just treating them like friends, I took him to a school disco and there was a queue of girls asking him to dance, he wouldn't dance with any of them, he seemed to think it was more fun to bop them on the head with a glow stick, and they didn't seem to mind!

You need to find something age appropriate.

From: laura6307 <laura6307@...>Subject: ( ) Any books on dating etiquette..... Date: Wednesday, 17 March, 2010, 13:46

Hi, are there any books that kids on the spectrum can read to help them understand what behaviors attract others? My son had decided he wants a girlfriend, but has no clue how to get one. I can talk to him, but reading has always seemed to be the way he has learned.Thanks,

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He's nearly 12. His younger brother now has a 'girlfriend' (and trust me I am

treating this very lightly since the kids know my stance that they will be much

older before they are allowed to have privacy). I think it is great that he is

noticing that many of the other kids his age are forming bonds based on 'like'

in only that - he is noticing, LOL. He wants the end-product, but I'm not sure

he understands the steps involved, or what he would do once he had a girlfriend.

His younger brother is much more mature in this arena than he is.

I so agree on a book that is designed for his age. I know there is a book out

there talking about Aspergers and teens - maybe I need to search for it and see

if it has a chapter on this.

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> Hi, are there any books that kids on the spectrum can read to help them

understand what behaviors attract others? My son had decided he wants a

girlfriend, but has no clue how to get one. I can talk to him, but reading has

always seemed to be the way he has learned.

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http://www.amazon.com/Guide-Dating-Teenagers-Asperger-Syndrome/dp/1934575534

This book looks good. I am going to get it for my boys....

JoAnn in CO

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Does your son have a cell phone? That is an important tool in todays kids

arsenal not only for social acceptance but also for communications.

Your child is going to learn through trial and error probably more than any

other method. I have sat down with my son and coach him on a few things but he

is so independent, I think it goes in one ear and out the other.

My theory is that asperger kids are already at a disdvantage in forming social

relationships. So I try not to further disadvantage my son by not equipping him

with a cellphone and a texting package.

Not all kids are ready for a phone and some parents look at this as a risk and a

loss of control. So everyone will probably have an opinion here. But I think

you can monitor your child and take a bit of risk with the benefit of helping

out a child in an area where they are historically and characteristically

challenged in.

Marc

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Thanks, JoAnn -I will look at it.

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Not yet. It will be part of his 12th birthday celebration next month. We DO

allow him to email and chat (via gmail) with friends. I can't agree with you

more on the importance of this tool. Thanks!

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