Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 In a message dated 4/11/2003 1:01:05 AM Eastern Daylight Time, kenanngerb@... writes: > Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? Hi Ann, My friend had this problem with her son. He has so many sensory issues. She finally changed his underwear to silky boxers and hasn't had a problem with him since. It may be worht a try experimenting with diffrent underwear and also pants that aren't too tight. Charlyne Mom to Zeb 10 DS/OCD ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2003 Report Share Posted April 10, 2003 At 09:59 PM 4/10/2003 -0700, you wrote: >Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? right now we cue Andy with a gesture to get his hands out of his pants. He response well. Then we give him something to do as soon as we can. j Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 In a message dated 4/11/2003 1:12:21 AM Eastern Standard Time, joan@... writes: > right now we cue Andy with a gesture to get his hands out of his pants. He > response well. Then we give him something to do as soon as we can. > > j > > Yea, same here, cept we actually take Maddie's hands out ourselves since she doesn't take cues well. It's a constant problem,especially if she's done her business and we don't know it yet...;-( When she was much younger and would do it, usually a pair of overalls did the trick. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 In a message dated 4/11/2003 1:12:21 AM Eastern Standard Time, joan@... writes: > right now we cue Andy with a gesture to get his hands out of his pants. He > response well. Then we give him something to do as soon as we can. > > j > > Yea, same here, cept we actually take Maddie's hands out ourselves since she doesn't take cues well. It's a constant problem,especially if she's done her business and we don't know it yet...;-( When she was much younger and would do it, usually a pair of overalls did the trick. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 > > From: Gerber <kenanngerb@...> > Date: 2003/04/11 Fri AM 12:59:53 EDT > > Subject: hands in the pants > >>>Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? Thanks so much in advance... Ann with >>> Ann, when you get the answer let me know. smile. Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 > > From: Gerber <kenanngerb@...> > Date: 2003/04/11 Fri AM 12:59:53 EDT > > Subject: hands in the pants > >>>Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? Thanks so much in advance... Ann with >>> Ann, when you get the answer let me know. smile. Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 Verbal prompt and like Joan says, get something else in his hands... We have put belts on Ben's pants on occasion, which may or may not be possible for you depending on toileting issues. Lately Ben has been enjoying using a little plastic hair brush to brush his own hands- he does this on his own, and kinda zones out when he does it. So we have been handing him a brush when he is starting to wind up in public. Just increasing some brushing and sensory stuff for 's hands, whatever it is that works for *him*, could be helpful. (Whether you uses the surgical brush that is typically used for the Walberger (sp?) protocal for the formal brushing technique, complete with finger-joint compression, or something else.) Giving him something that *feels* good to hold onto, or something heavier such as handweights, are all some things that can help with giving him alternative and more socially acceptable things to do, as well as deal with sensory issues. You know, I also suspect that kids (meaning boys) just probably need to do adjusting " down there " . Whether the underwear is not right, or something is itchy, or whatever. One of PB's teachers used to always " report " to me that he was m...bating when he was 6 and 7 years old. I told her there was a very big difference in touching yourself to get adjusted or reassure yourself things are still where you thought they were and m.....bating. While I am not naive about our kids as sexual beings, I think it is unfair to assume that a pants check is the same as m.....bating. And going into a neutral tone of voice when saying " hands out of pants. Let's go and do... " is helpful to adults and kids. I think our kids can pick up on heightened emotional stuff even if it's not explicit. Then the likelihood of " gee, Mom gets all wound up when I do this....!!! OK!!! " gets put into the equasion and there is no turning back the clock. PB was saying " feck " (yep, that's how if came out) a year ago- when he was frustrated. Don't know where that came from, but we gave him some other catch phrases (Ah, doggone it! Oh, shoot!) to use instead and went into neutral when the f word came up. It faded out over a week or so hand has never returned, So far... Good luck. ! Beth Mum to Ben, age 12 > >Message: 8 > Date: Thu, 10 Apr 2003 21:59:53 -0700 (PDT) > From: Gerber <kenanngerb@...> >Subject: hands in the pants > >Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? >Thanks so much in advance... >Ann with > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 I sent this message yesterday but it hasn't shown up on the list. Odd! Verbal prompt and like Joan says, get something else in his hands... We have put belts on Ben's pants on occasion, which may or may not be possible for you depending on toileting issues. Lately Ben has been enjoying using a little plastic hair brush to brush his own hands- he does this on his own, and kinda zones out when he does it. So we have been handing him a brush when he is starting to wind up in public. Just increasing some brushing and sensory stuff for 's hands, whatever it is that works for *him*, could be helpful. (Whether you uses the surgical brush that is typically used for the Walberger (sp?) protocal for the formal brushing technique, complete with finger-joint compression, or something else.) Giving him something that *feels* good to hold onto, or something heavier such as handweights, are all some things that can help with giving him alternative and more socially acceptable things to do, as well as deal with sensory issues. You know, I also suspect that kids (meaning boys) just probably need to do adjusting " down there " . Whether the underwear is not right, or something is itchy, or whatever. One of PB's teachers used to always " report " to me that he was m...bating when he was 6 and 7 years old. I told her there was a very big difference in touching yourself to get adjusted or reassure yourself things are still where you thought they were and m.....bating. While I am not naive about our kids as sexual beings, I think it is unfair to assume that a pants check is the same as m.....bating. And going into a neutral tone of voice when saying " hands out of pants. Let's go and do... " is helpful to adults and kids. I think our kids can pick up on heightened emotional stuff even if it's not explicit. Then the likelihood of " gee, Mom gets all wound up when I do this....!!! OK!!! " gets put into the equasion and there is no turning back the clock. PB was saying " feck " (yep, that's how if came out) a year ago- when he was frustrated. Don't know where that came from, but we gave him some other catch phrases (Ah, doggone it! Oh, shoot!) to use instead and went into neutral when the f word came up. It faded out over a week or so hand has never returned, So far... Good luck. ! Beth Mum to Ben, age 12 > >Message: 8 > Date: Thu, 10 Apr 2003 21:59:53 -0700 (PDT) > From: Gerber <kenanngerb@...> >Subject: hands in the pants > >Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? >Thanks so much in advance... >Ann with > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2003 Report Share Posted April 11, 2003 I sent this message yesterday but it hasn't shown up on the list. Odd! Verbal prompt and like Joan says, get something else in his hands... We have put belts on Ben's pants on occasion, which may or may not be possible for you depending on toileting issues. Lately Ben has been enjoying using a little plastic hair brush to brush his own hands- he does this on his own, and kinda zones out when he does it. So we have been handing him a brush when he is starting to wind up in public. Just increasing some brushing and sensory stuff for 's hands, whatever it is that works for *him*, could be helpful. (Whether you uses the surgical brush that is typically used for the Walberger (sp?) protocal for the formal brushing technique, complete with finger-joint compression, or something else.) Giving him something that *feels* good to hold onto, or something heavier such as handweights, are all some things that can help with giving him alternative and more socially acceptable things to do, as well as deal with sensory issues. You know, I also suspect that kids (meaning boys) just probably need to do adjusting " down there " . Whether the underwear is not right, or something is itchy, or whatever. One of PB's teachers used to always " report " to me that he was m...bating when he was 6 and 7 years old. I told her there was a very big difference in touching yourself to get adjusted or reassure yourself things are still where you thought they were and m.....bating. While I am not naive about our kids as sexual beings, I think it is unfair to assume that a pants check is the same as m.....bating. And going into a neutral tone of voice when saying " hands out of pants. Let's go and do... " is helpful to adults and kids. I think our kids can pick up on heightened emotional stuff even if it's not explicit. Then the likelihood of " gee, Mom gets all wound up when I do this....!!! OK!!! " gets put into the equasion and there is no turning back the clock. PB was saying " feck " (yep, that's how if came out) a year ago- when he was frustrated. Don't know where that came from, but we gave him some other catch phrases (Ah, doggone it! Oh, shoot!) to use instead and went into neutral when the f word came up. It faded out over a week or so hand has never returned, So far... Good luck. ! Beth Mum to Ben, age 12 > >Message: 8 > Date: Thu, 10 Apr 2003 21:59:53 -0700 (PDT) > From: Gerber <kenanngerb@...> >Subject: hands in the pants > >Ok, anybody know a way to stop this? >Thanks so much in advance... >Ann with > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2010 Report Share Posted February 26, 2010 My son does it too! When he's watching TV, he always has his hands down his pants.. I tell him that is private and he can only do it in his room. AND when mommies not around....he does it when I'm reading to him at night. He is 12 and so going through puberty. He is not masturbating he just puts his hands down his pants! Definatley a guy thing.. Marcia ( ) Hands in the Pants My son did/does this as well. He's 10, and when he is stressed, he still goes exploring south of the equator. It has minimized though, and I have a feeling that by the time he goes off to college, it will be a purely private thing. He simply doesn't care that others find it gross. But, every time I see him do it, I ask him to stop. And, if I see him do it while he is using something of mine (ipod, computer), I ask him to wash his hands so that he doesn't get germs on my stuff. It is just as tedious for me as it is for him, but it seems to have a "hands free" effect. Take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 26, 2010 Report Share Posted February 26, 2010 my 55 year old aspie husband doesn’t put his hands downs his pants, but holds on to his penis from the outside of his clothes whenever he is relaxing—watching tv, laying in bed. He also rubs himself in public with the excuse that athletes do it all the time. with two daughters, I have asked him repeatedly not to do this, but he denies it or makes a joke out of it. The best I can hope for is he covers his lap with a throw. melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2010 Report Share Posted February 27, 2010 My son doesn't put his hands in his pants but he does grab himself a lot. He is six and didn't potty train until age 5 and it started right around when he was potty training, so for the longest time we thought he just needed to pee. But he does it all the time and I ask him to stop. He usually laughs and stops when I mention it, but doesn't seem to get it when I explain that it is inappropriate. He is still little so it doesn't matter right now people just ask him if he needs to go potty a lot, but I do hope he quits before he is old enough to get teased about it. > > My son did/does this as well. He's 10, and when he is stressed, he still goes exploring south of the equator. > It has minimized though, and I have a feeling that by the time he goes off to college, it will be a purely private thing. He simply doesn't care that others find it gross. > But, every time I see him do it, I ask him to stop. And, if I see him do it while he is using something of mine (ipod, computer), I ask him to wash his hands so that he doesn't get germs on my stuff. It is just as tedious for me as it is for him, but it seems to have a " hands free " effect. > Take care, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2010 Report Share Posted February 27, 2010 My husband, too!!!! I look at my aspie son (5) and my aspie hubby (52) and think, how can I tell my son it is not appropriate when he sees his Dad doing it all the time. I, of course, correct my son, but my hubby laughs at me saying, " it feels good. If you had a penis, you would do it too! " I just think....this is who I chose to marry! LOL. -- > > my 55 year old aspie husband doesn't put his hands downs his pants, but > holds on to his penis from the outside of his clothes whenever he is > relaxing-watching tv, laying in bed. He also rubs himself in public with > the excuse that athletes do it all the time. with two daughters, I have > asked him repeatedly not to do this, but he denies it or makes a joke out of > it. The best I can hope for is he covers his lap with a throw. > > melody > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2010 Report Share Posted February 27, 2010 How about giving them a stress ball or someother soft object to squeeze...it is probably stress related...we have all kinds of stress balls in shapes like hearts, stars, balls, etc. One of our students uses it all day long and seems to help. I know it isn't funny...but the way you guys talk about it ...I get a chuckle...just don't get "annoying about it"....i know the more i told my son to stop picking his nose ...the more he did it. At school ...we just call the students name and shake our head... Jan From: jm.smoldt <jm.smoldt@...> Sent: Sat, February 27, 2010 10:32:47 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Hands in the Pants My son doesn't put his hands in his pants but he does grab himself a lot. He is six and didn't potty train until age 5 and it started right around when he was potty training, so for the longest time we thought he just needed to pee. But he does it all the time and I ask him to stop. He usually laughs and stops when I mention it, but doesn't seem to get it when I explain that it is inappropriate. He is still little so it doesn't matter right now people just ask him if he needs to go potty a lot, but I do hope he quits before he is old enough to get teased about it.>> My son did/does this as well. He's 10, and when he is stressed, he still goes exploring south of the equator.> It has minimized though, and I have a feeling that by the time he goes off to college, it will be a purely private thing. He simply doesn't care that others find it gross.> But, every time I see him do it, I ask him to stop. And, if I see him do it while he is using something of mine (ipod, computer), I ask him to wash his hands so that he doesn't get germs on my stuff. It is just as tedious for me as it is for him, but it seems to have a "hands free" effect.> Take care,> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2010 Report Share Posted March 1, 2010 Yes, I find correcting the girls for behaviors they see aspie father do has had more success as they have gotten older. As the girls got older, “they got it”. the best lesson is when they have seen the reaction of classmates when some other child at school touched their own privates or some other socially unacceptable behavior. My husband scolded our youngest aspie daughter because she was touching her privates while watching tv so she was quick to point out when he was doing the same thing—he told her what he was doing is not the same thing (because he has a penis and she doesn’t). BUT this is when he started using the throw. Kids are great teachers too. Yah! Regards, melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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