Re: On the down side of the Rollercoaster

September 17, 2010

Jan, I can so relate to your situation. It gets so very hard. Here's mine

DS has Asperger's and capd. Divorced. Dad has crazy girlfriend. Dad doesn't go to any doctor appointments and refuses to even acknowledge this situation. He has me going back to court trying to take son away because he says I'm not telling the truth. I have 6 different doctors with the same diagnosis. My son doesn't play well with anyone unless they play his way and what he wants. He's 12, acts about 7 but the intelligence of 16 with books but can't walk around the block without getting lost. School refuses to accomodate him so I had to quit my job to homeschool him. Dad is 18k behind in child support. The last time he visited his dad he let him drive his vehicle now my son is convinced he can drive. He does very annoying things. If I critize anything he does I don't love him. Girl, we should start our own club. Maybe all of us get online on Friday nights and drink a beer. lol

Hang in there. It can always be worse. As my grandmother told me, darkest hour is just before dawn. Shirley

From: jan <jrushen@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 4:32:42 PMSubject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 17, 2010

How were you able to recount my day to the world? I think we take turns with having the same day over and over. Some days I feel the pain of everyone in my life that I've reached my maximum absorbency--like a sponge--wring me out I'm done. Wake up, repeat.

On Fri, Sep 17, 2010 at 7:32 PM, jan <jrushen@...> wrote:

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...

Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too????

Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he " hates " this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.

Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...

I am a total wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.

I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.

jan

September 17, 2010

Sorry Jan, you are having a rotten day. At least where I am, the day is almost over. And tomorrow is Saturday, so you don't have to deal with school issues then. Take a deep breath, get through today and tomrrow will have to be somewhat better, right?

If all else fails, have a glass of wine.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Suzanne

suzmarkwood@...

From: jan <jrushen@...>Subject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster Date: Friday, September 17, 2010, 4:32 PM

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 17, 2010

maybe a nice mixed drink....and pretend I am on a sunny island...

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Suzanne Markwood <suzmarkwood@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 8:53:21 PMSubject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

Sorry Jan, you are having a rotten day. At least where I am, the day is almost over. And tomorrow is Saturday, so you don't have to deal with school issues then. Take a deep breath, get through today and tomrrow will have to be somewhat better, right?

If all else fails, have a glass of wine.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Suzanne

suzmarkwood@...

From: jan <jrushen@...>Subject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster Date: Friday, September 17, 2010, 4:32 PM

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 18, 2010

Yeah...that would be the excitment of my life...what life. Your husband sounds like a "JERK". Oops...ex-husband. He can't see the symptoms? He doesn't believe 6 doctors? He just doesn't want to accept it.

How is your son with homeschooling? Mine would not do the work! Mine hates school, hates learning...all he focuses on is being with other kids....that is why when the two friends he has stop talking to him he gets so so so so so moody. He is moody and very very very angry. I have an appt. with the therapist on Monday. I am not giving him a choice.

My son fights me on everything.

Now in math...he had a packet due....on Thurs. ...he has to testify in court that day....so I told him...when you go back to school on Tuesday ....hand it in. Well, he didn't. I didn't hear anything. Now they are telling me he is failing math. I told him to hand it in. He SCREAMS LOUDLY "IT WON'T COUNT...THE TEACHER ALREADY TOLD ME. AND, IF I HAND IT IN NOW I WILL GET IN TROUBLE AND I AM NOT GOING TO LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT." No one called or emailed me about this...although they claim they did. I spoke with his guidance counselor. I guess I will email his math teacher and try to explain the situation.....why can't she make an exception...I would if I was a teacher...it is just the beginning of the year and I hate them starting off on the wrong foot and he has math for 90 min. all year long!

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Shirley <shirleycarter80@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 8:09:09 PMSubject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

Jan, I can so relate to your situation. It gets so very hard. Here's mine

DS has Asperger's and capd. Divorced. Dad has crazy girlfriend. Dad doesn't go to any doctor appointments and refuses to even acknowledge this situation. He has me going back to court trying to take son away because he says I'm not telling the truth. I have 6 different doctors with the same diagnosis. My son doesn't play well with anyone unless they play his way and what he wants. He's 12, acts about 7 but the intelligence of 16 with books but can't walk around the block without getting lost. School refuses to accomodate him so I had to quit my job to homeschool him. Dad is 18k behind in child support. The last time he visited his dad he let him drive his vehicle now my son is convinced he can drive. He does very annoying things. If I critize anything he does I don't love him. Girl, we should start our own club. Maybe all of us get online on Friday nights and drink a beer. lol

Hang in there. It can always be worse. As my grandmother told me, darkest hour is just before dawn. Shirley

From: jan <jrushen@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 4:32:42 PMSubject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 18, 2010

You are not alone. My son has ADHD and Asp. and it is very tiring. My husband does what he can, but it's not enough. We women are the stronger of the two lol. It's a very tiring lifestyle. I also have 2 other children I have to focus on, it can't be all Dylan all the time. Dylan remains the circle of attention no matter how hard we try.

Good luck and hang in there.

Cathleen

From: Shirley <shirleycarter80@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 5:09:09 PMSubject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

Jan, I can so relate to your situation. It gets so very hard. Here's mine

DS has Asperger's and capd. Divorced. Dad has crazy girlfriend. Dad doesn't go to any doctor appointments and refuses to even acknowledge this situation. He has me going back to court trying to take son away because he says I'm not telling the truth. I have 6 different doctors with the same diagnosis. My son doesn't play well with anyone unless they play his way and what he wants. He's 12, acts about 7 but the intelligence of 16 with books but can't walk around the block without getting lost. School refuses to accomodate him so I had to quit my job to homeschool him. Dad is 18k behind in child support. The last time he visited his dad he let him drive his vehicle now my son is convinced he can drive. He does very annoying things. If I critize anything he does I don't love him. Girl, we should start our own club. Maybe all of us get online on Friday nights and drink a beer. lol

Hang in there. It can always be worse. As my grandmother told me, darkest hour is just before dawn. Shirley

From: jan <jrushen@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 4:32:42 PMSubject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 19, 2010

Hi Jan, how old is your son. Your life right now sounds a lot like mine except the husband thing. If you don't mind me asking, what state are you in? My son'e issues and his Aspergers has concumed my life. I'm glad I discoved this group. I hope it becomes theraputic for me. Otherwise I have no one else to talk to about all this stuff except my husband and I'm sure he gets tired of it. Hope to hear back from you!ne

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 20, 2010

My husband is just like yours, sitting in front of the TV like a zombie and not talking... doctor says he has to be an aspie too! I guess we will just have to get used to it as no matter what you do, they will never change unless you give them specific directions on what to do. They do not have initiative to help. It is very tiring indeed!!!! Your are not alone. From: cathleen.veloria@...Date: Sat, 18 Sep 2010 15:15:17 -0700Subject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

You are not alone. My son has ADHD and Asp. and it is very tiring. My husband does what he can, but it's not enough. We women are the stronger of the two lol. It's a very tiring lifestyle. I also have 2 other children I have to focus on, it can't be all Dylan all the time. Dylan remains the circle of attention no matter how hard we try.

Good luck and hang in there.

Cathleen

From: Shirley <shirleycarter80@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 5:09:09 PMSubject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

Jan, I can so relate to your situation. It gets so very hard. Here's mine

DS has Asperger's and capd. Divorced. Dad has crazy girlfriend. Dad doesn't go to any doctor appointments and refuses to even acknowledge this situation. He has me going back to court trying to take son away because he says I'm not telling the truth. I have 6 different doctors with the same diagnosis. My son doesn't play well with anyone unless they play his way and what he wants. He's 12, acts about 7 but the intelligence of 16 with books but can't walk around the block without getting lost. School refuses to accomodate him so I had to quit my job to homeschool him. Dad is 18k behind in child support. The last time he visited his dad he let him drive his vehicle now my son is convinced he can drive. He does very annoying things. If I critize anything he does I don't love him. Girl, we should start our own club. Maybe all of us get online on Friday nights and drink a beer. lol

Hang in there. It can always be worse. As my grandmother told me, darkest hour is just before dawn. Shirley

From: jan <jrushen@...> Sent: Fri, September 17, 2010 4:32:42 PMSubject: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 22, 2010

I hope you think of some of us as your friends, at least. I know it's not the same as being there in real life.

You should get something in his IEP written up for turning things in. We always did this!! He has enough to deal with without punishing him for his lack of organizational skills. Our ds had a 1-1 aide or the sped teacher and they were in charge of making sure he got his work turned in. They worked with him on it too - he never really paid attention to what was going on around him so they started prompting him, "What are the other kids doing?" and helping him go through the motions. Eventually, he was able to do it all himself. But not until late high school.

You need to find ways to make school go better so that you can relax more at home. And he can have less stress from his day. I hear you on the air guns, too. My ds (hfa) also broke his after he had it for just a few hours. It happens. I don't know why but my ds has a way with anything - he manages to break or damage so many things. He just doesn't think it through often. But that's part of the disability.

Try to hang in there! It can be hard some days. But give yourself a break and don't expect so much from yourself! I know when I get discouraged with life, I tend to walk around muttering, "I need a real life" to myself. lol. Doesn't help much, really. But it lets off a little steam. Jog, crochet, read a book, train your dog, do something you can escape to when things are getting overwhelming. And when things break, shrug and realize that is just the way life goes. For us anyway. When going down on the rollercoaster, HANG ON TIGHT! lol.

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...

Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too????

Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.

Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...

I am a total wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.

I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.

jan

September 22, 2010

Roxanna and everyone else...thank you ...thank you. And, yes, I do consider all of you my friends...I was speaking about the ones that live around me...you know.

I spoke with the Asst. Principal, his casemanager and the Sped.Teacher in his math class. They are all going to prompt him about his homework. His case manager will make sure all his teacher know this and I will have it put in writing in his IEP.

He is on block schedule (90 min) classes. Usually they have a subject for only 1/2 year....but he will be having math and English all year long. The only subject he is switching is History/Science. He has history now and will have science in the Spring. His last block is split between Reading and Band (and both of these will be all year long too). They waivered health/gym. I had them put that into his IEP so that when he goes to graduate...they can not say he is missing credits.

But, all in all, it turns out he is doing well. He has a 85 in math, 87 in English and 89 in History. All done by himself. He got 2 94's on math tests and didn't even study. He gets points off for the homework. But hopefully we solved this.

The Asst. Principal said he has matured and come a long long long way. And, his teachers say he is sweet, funny and pleasant. Are they talking about my kid?????? LOL. Well, I guess I rather have him good in school and angry at home. I think he holds it together at school and when he comes home he just wants to chill. With these 90 min. classes I really don't see why they should have homework anyways.

I started him in therapy....he is very angry...of course the therapist can not talk about it ....but he did say he thinks he can help him. I think he is angry that he is the way he is and that kids made fun of him in the past and his self-esteem is low. Keep your fingers crossed for him.

I am currently working with an intermediate school student with Aspergers. Because of my knowledge I was selected out of all the paras. It is working out and the mom is very happy with me. I hope I can make a difference in this child's life. So, far the student says the school days are GREAT! I sit with my student at lunch along with some other kids...it is hard to talk as it is so noisy ....but at least I know what is going on. And, no one picks on my student. I already told 3 girls that they were rude and I had the lunch monitors speak to them. They know better now. I can't force them to be a friend....but they moved tables when my student tried to sit with them. It was so obvious. I went over and told the 3 of them how rude they were and how dissapointed I was in them. Now, they try to buddy up with me and are at least kind to

my student. And, the kids can be cute at this age...I have a bunch that come up and walk the halls with us and talk. I hope all this helps. We also take walks at times and practice social skills or talk about things such as anxiety or friendships or how to speak to adults, etc.

Anyways, thanks for your thought, your words and your kindness. I think my roller coaster is on the up climb again.

jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Roxanna <MadIdeas@...> Sent: Wed, September 22, 2010 9:33:33 PMSubject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

I hope you think of some of us as your friends, at least. I know it's not the same as being there in real life. You should get something in his IEP written up for turning things in. We always did this!! He has enough to deal with without punishing him for his lack of organizational skills. Our ds had a 1-1 aide or the sped teacher and they were in charge of making sure he got his work turned in. They worked with him on it too - he never really paid attention to what was going on around him so they started prompting him, "What are the other kids doing?" and helping him go through the motions. Eventually, he was able to do it all himself. But not until late high school. You need to find ways to make school go better so that you can relax

more at home. And he can have less stress from his day. I hear you on the air guns, too. My ds (hfa) also broke his after he had it for just a few hours. It happens. I don't know why but my ds has a way with anything - he manages to break or damage so many things. He just doesn't think it through often. But that's part of the disability. Try to hang in there! It can be hard some days. But give yourself a break and don't expect so much from yourself! I know when I get discouraged with life, I tend to walk around muttering, "I need a real life" to myself. lol. Doesn't help much, really. But it lets off a little steam. Jog, crochet, read a book, train your dog, do something you can escape to when things are getting overwhelming. And when things break, shrug and realize that is just the way life goes. For us anyway. When going down on the

rollercoaster, HANG ON TIGHT! lol.

Roxanna"I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too???? Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it. Now he "hates" this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of his own stuff.Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...I am a total

wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing in the towel. Can take this any more.I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.jan

September 22, 2010

Jan â€“ I admire what you do for a living.Â I just donâ€™t think I could

do it (Iâ€™m a nurse so I like blood and guts â€“ LOL!!).Â Seriously, I commend

you.Â You really want to make a difference in these kids lives and you are.Â I

have a friend who is an aide for special ed students and works with kids that

have physical and developmental problems â€“ last year she had a 14 year old boy

who was in diapers.Â You are special people!!Â (Glad to hear you got a good

report when you spoke to your sonâ€™s team.)

From:

[mailto: ] On Behalf Of rushen janice

Sent: Wednesday, September 22, 2010 8:57 PM

Subject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

Roxanna

and everyone else...thank you ...thank you. And, yes, I do consider all

of you my friends...I was speaking about the ones that live around me...you

know.

I

spoke with the Asst. Principal, his casemanager and the Sped.Teacher in his

math class. They are all going to prompt him about his

homework. His case manager will make sure all his teacher know this and I

will have it put in writing in his IEP.

He

is on block schedule (90 min) classes. Usually they have a subject for

only 1/2 year....but he will be having math and English all year long.

The only subject he is switching is History/Science. He has history

now and will have science in the Spring. His last block is

split between Reading and Band (and both of these will be all

year long too). They waivered health/gym. I had them put that

into his IEP so that when he goes to graduate...they can not say he

is missing credits.

But,

all in all, it turns out he is doing well. He has a 85 in math, 87 in

English and 89 in History. All done by himself. He got 2 94's

on math tests and didn't even study. He gets points off for the

homework. But hopefully we solved this.

The

Asst. Principal said he has matured and come a long long long way. And, his

teachers say he is sweet, funny and pleasant. Are they talking about my

kid?????? LOL. Well, I guess I rather have him good in school and angry

at home. I think he holds it together at school and when he comes home he

just wants to chill. With these 90 min. classes I really don't see why

they should have homework anyways.

I started

him in therapy....he is very angry...of course the therapist can not talk about

it ....but he did say he thinks he can help him. I think he is angry that

he is the way he is and that kids made fun of him in the past and his

self-esteem is low. Keep your fingers crossed for him.

I

am currently working with an intermediate school student with

Aspergers. Because of my knowledge I was selected out of

all the paras. It is working out and the mom is very happy with me.

I hope I can make a difference in this child's life. So, far the student

says the school days are GREAT! I sit with my student at

lunch along with some other kids...it is hard to talk as it is so noisy ....but

at least I know what is going on. And, no one picks on my

student. I already told 3 girls that they were rude and I had the lunch

monitors speak to them. They know better now. I can't force them to

be a friend....but they moved tables when my student tried to sit with

them. It was so obvious. I went over and told the 3 of them

how rude they were and how dissapointed I was in them. Now, they try

to buddy up with me and are at least kind to my student. And, the kids

can be cute at this age...I have a bunch that come up and walk

the halls with us and talk. I hope all this helps. We

also take walks at times and practice social skills or talk about things such

as anxiety or friendships or how to speak to adults, etc.

Anyways,

thanks for your thought, your words and your kindness. I think my roller

coaster is on the up climb again.

jan

" In the Midst of Difficulty lies

Opportunity " Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles

one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Roxanna

<MadIdeas@...>

Sent: Wed, September 22, 2010 9:33:33 PM

Subject: Re: ( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

I hope you think

of some of us as your friends, at least. I know it's not the same as

being there in real life.

You should get something in his IEP written up for turning things in. We

always did this!! He has enough to deal with without punishing him for

his lack of organizational skills. Our ds had a 1-1 aide or the sped

teacher and they were in charge of making sure he got his work turned in.

They worked with him on it too - he never really paid attention to what was

going on around him so they started prompting him, " What are the other

kids doing? " and helping him go through the motions. Eventually, he

was able to do it all himself. But not until late high school.

You need to find ways to make school go better so that you can relax more at

home. And he can have less stress from his day. I hear you on the

air guns, too. My ds (hfa) also broke his after he had it for just a few

hours. It happens. I don't know why but my ds has a way with

anything - he manages to break or damage so many things. He just doesn't

think it through often. But that's part of the disability.

Try to hang in there! It can be hard some days. But give yourself a

break and don't expect so much from yourself! I know when I get

discouraged with life, I tend to walk around muttering, " I need a real

life " to myself. lol. Doesn't help much, really. But it

lets off a little steam. Jog, crochet, read a book, train your dog, do

something you can escape to when things are getting overwhelming. And

when things break, shrug and realize that is just the way life goes. For

us anyway. When going down on the rollercoaster, HANG ON TIGHT!

lol.

Roxanna

" I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the

government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking

care of them. " - Jefferson

( ) On the down side of the Rollercoaster

School just started...son is

failing math...they say he is not turning in homework...he says he is...he said

he didn't turn in one packet because he was out of school when teacher

collected....of course he never handed it in when he went back to school...

Lost two friends again...won't tell us...but it is obvious..he says they are

busy with soccer and band...but every day and on the weekends too????

Finally invited an old friend over and then went to his house. He left his air

gun outside his house and some other older kids played with it and broke it.

Now he " hates " this boy. Can't take responsbility for taking care of

his own stuff.

Took off on us for about an hour...said he wasn't coming home...when he

did...he and his dad tried to fix the new airgun but couldn't..so he went to

his room...slammed the door so hard and went to bed...lights out ...shades

down...and i know he won't come out till tomorrow...

I am a total wreck...head hurts...husband is a zombie sitting in the living

room chair not talking ( I swear he has aspergers too) and I feel like throwing

in the towel. Can take this any more.

I basically don't have any friends....no life...and I am tired...really tired.

jan

September 22, 2010

Roxanna â€“ You are so darn funny.Â OMG, I was ROFLMBO when I read

this:

When going down on the rollercoaster, HANG ON TIGHT!

Too bad you live so far away, we could really have a fun time!

From:

[mailto: ] On Behalf Of Roxanna

Sent: Wednesday, September 22, 2010 8:34 PM