Girls with Asperger's symptoms

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My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am wondering

about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was diagnosed

with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive behaviors or as

many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the symptoms are

often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a LOT of

aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible twos.

She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people look at

her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is very

controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first and

takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what sorts of

things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her evaluated.

[Guest guest]

I would appreciate being copied on replies to this post as I'm in a very similar

situation (5 1/2 year old son and almost 2 year old daughter).

Thank you,

Colleen

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> My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am wondering

about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was diagnosed

with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive behaviors or as

many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the symptoms are

often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a LOT of

aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible twos.

She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people look at

her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is very

controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first and

takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what sorts of

things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her evaluated.

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I don't see the harm in having her evaluated and yes - AS in girls can be much more subtle than in boys... I just went to a workshop today called "Is it ADHD or Aspergers" and the psychiatrist who led the meeting told of a girl - a teenager, who was considered popular because she was so pretty - but girls didn't like her because she was so controlling and irritable... From: cteitgen@... <cteitgen@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Girls with Asperger's symptoms Date: Monday, January 25, 2010, 6:11 PM

I would appreciate being copied on replies to this post as I'm in a very similar situation (5 1/2 year old son and almost 2 year old daughter).

Thank you,

Colleen

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> My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am wondering about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was diagnosed with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive behaviors or as many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the symptoms are often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a LOT of aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible twos. She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people look at her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is very controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first and takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what sorts of things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her evaluated.

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[Guest guest]

I would have her evaluated by your county's Early Intervention program

or whatever they call it by you? She might be on the spectrum and they

probably will not call it AS even if that's what she has. She would

probably get PDDNOS like my daughter did at 2. I knew something was

wrong way before that. Huge tantrums over nothing, aggressive...

basically autistic behaviors. She is now 5 and is Asperger's and doing

well. Have her evaluated by a developmental pediatrician.

Jen

jm.smoldt wrote:

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> My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am

> wondering about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms

> and was diagnosed with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the

> obsessive behaviors or as many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I

> am reading that the symptoms are often different and harder to

> recognize in girls. I am seeing a LOT of aggressive behaviors but had

> just chocked that up to maybe late terrible twos. She seems rather

> moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people look at her and

> when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is very

> controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at

> first and takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just

> wondering what sorts of things I should be looking for and whether or

> not I should have her evaluated.

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks, I She was already evaluated by early intervention when her sensory

problems were causing eating and failure to thrive problems at 19 months. She

was only diagnosed with sensory integration disorder as her aggressive behaviors

were written off as terrible twos. She has since phased out of early

intervention as it only goes up until age three. Our school district literally

does nothing for sensory integration disorders so she was given no referalls.

The same thing happened with my son initially and it took us three more years to

find a doctor that would listen. Now we have a really good pediatric

psychologist that has just recently diagnosed my son with AS, so we are

considering going to him with our daughter as well. I think that will be what

we will eventually do. However, this dr. isn't completely covered by our

insurance, only partially, so I think we may have to wait a little while as we

just spent a LOT of money trying to get my son figured out. Income tax returns

aren't too far away.....

Any suggestions in the meantime to deal with a very aggressive three year old??

Also, and maybe I should post this separately, any potty training advice?

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> My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am wondering

about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was diagnosed

with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive behaviors or as

many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the symptoms are

often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a LOT of

aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible twos.

She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people look at

her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is very

controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first and

takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what sorts of

things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her evaluated.

>

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I used a technique for potty training that worked really well for both my

daughters. The basic idea is that you want to reward them for staying clean and

dry while teaching them to use the potty. So I started on a day when we would

be home all day. You would want them to use the potty and I recommend using

underwear not pull ups. After they have gone potty set a timer for 1/2 hour or

an hour. The rule is that when the timer goes off the child needs to come and

try to use the potty. If they try and they are still clean/dry they get a

reward (I used candy, something small like a starburst). The key is to reward

them for staying dry not for using the potty. Then I would reset the timer

adding 15 minutes to 1/2 hour. If they make a mistake and have an accident have

them go potty and reset the timer (no reward). If there is an older sibling

they can help by reminding the child to go potty. I rewarded the older sibling

also to give an incentive for him to help his sisters. Don't worry about bed

time until they have been day potty trained for a while. We used pull ups at

night and when we started to notice the pull ups were dry in the morning

consistently we got rid of the pull ups. Using this technique both my daughters

were completely day potty trained in two or three days.

Vickie

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> > My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am

wondering about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was

diagnosed with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive

behaviors or as many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the

symptoms are often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a

LOT of aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible

twos. She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people

look at her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is

very controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first

and takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what

sorts of things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her

evaluated.

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Thanks, we have actually taken from your idea and combined it with a sticker

chart, and she is doing really well. Just one accident yesterday. It had

occurred to me after thinking about it that a sticker chart with a reward was

the one thing we tried with her older brother that I totally hadn't tried at all

with her. So I have been giving her a sticker at time increments for staying

dry, and she seems to finally be grasping the concept!! Thanks so much!!

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> > > My 6 year old son was just recently diagnosed with AS, and now I am

wondering about my 3 year old daughter. She has many sensory symptoms and was

diagnosed with spd at 19 months. She doesn't seem to have the obsessive

behaviors or as many anti-social behaviors as my son, but I am reading that the

symptoms are often different and harder to recognize in girls. I am seeing a

LOT of aggressive behaviors but had just chocked that up to maybe late terrible

twos. She seems rather moody and defensive. She doesn't like it when people

look at her and when things don't go her way. She plays well with others but is

very controlling and wants everyone to play her way. She is very shy at first

and takes about an hour to warm up to social settings. Just wondering what

sorts of things I should be looking for and whether or not I should have her

evaluated.

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