Hoildays, Special Diets and Relatives

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My 5 year old son cannot have corn or corn products, artifical colors or flavor

or preservatives. My husband's family (one of two sisters and his parents) do

not seem to really respect this and refuse to keep forbidden candy and cookies

and corn chips out of holiday celebrations where he is. All this stuff is out

for the other 6 grandchildren and he is just supposed to watch them eat it. We

try to provide alternatives but it just is not enough. They also insist we

bring him his own food rather than try cook with ingredients he can eat.

Are we expecting too much for them to put these aside for one or two days?

Cannot the other 5 cousins, who can eat this anytime they want, skip it for one

day? Can't my SIL and MIL work iwht me to make items he can eat?

I hosted Thanksgiving last year just to avoid this. My SIL showed up with red

heart shaped Jello things with whip topping which she served to all the other

kids. At Christmas we took his own food and treats, but all hte stuff he would

love to have but can't was out there in full view. It does not help him dealing

iwth the sensory overload of the holidays.

My MIL is hosting Thanksgiving this year. I am to the point of asking my

husband to call her and tell her if they insist on having candy, cookies and

corn chips our son can't have, and if she can't make mashed potatoes iwth real

butter, that we will nto be able to come. I just do not think it is fair to ask

a 5 year old watch all his cousins eat it in front of him. Not to mention his

little sister, who will have a tantrum if she can't have it but I don't feel it

is fair for her to eat it in front of her brother.

How do you all handle these situations with close family member? My family is

so very good at working with our son's special dietary needs I just can't

understan why my husbands family won't do it?

TIA for any input.

denice

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