Should you point plagio out?

February 26, 2001

Hello to everyone:

Had an interesting experience today and really could use some

feedback. The receptionist at my office has been keeping up with my

daughter's treatment for plagiocephaly and has been a wonderful and

supportive person. She is friends with a girl in our office who

recently had a baby. (The baby is almost 4 months) Today she told me

that her friend's baby's head is very flat in the back. She seemed

genuinely concerned about the situation. I discussed with her how

difficult it could be to try and tell someone something like that. I

asked her if she was close enough to the girl to find a diplomatic

way to approach her about it. She said that she was sure that she

could. So I printed off information from the CAPS webpage (thanks

Jaya) and gave it to my friend to pass along if she felt comfortable

about it. I also offered to talk to her about it if she wanted

someone to talk to. (Promised I wouldn't preach or judge!) Well, my

friend apparently went straight back there and told her what she

thought about her baby. I have no idea how it was presented, but I

think she probably was as gentle about it as she could be. My friend

and the girl with the baby came to talk to me. This girl was pretty

upset and couldn't understand why her ped wouldn't have pointed it

out to her. She also wasn't sure if she had ever really noticed that

is was flat. (Later my friend told me she had no idea how she could

have missed it!)I told her some things to look for and told her some

ideas about repositioning. I also suggested that she might mention it

to her ped and to be specific. I have no idea what she will do, but

she was pretty upset. What does everyone here think? Better to let it

go without saying anything or better to try to find a way to approach

the person as gently as possible? I sure did hate to see her upset,

but will she be more upset down the road if nothing is done? I know

that I could not have approached her myself because I don't know her

that well. My friend knows her very well (they visit each other

outside work, etc). Anybody have some words of wisdom about this kind

of situation?

Thanks,

Marci (Mom to )

Oklahoma

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