Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Ugh, I am having the school starting blues myself. It is so hard to get motivated. I tend to just wallow in depression myself - my personal choice of "what to do when I'm overwhelmed." I hate it. I can only say that I try to steer through it and take care of as many of the "must do's" as possible. Here my kids are all going to school but one is e-schooled by me at home. So a lot of my time is spent dealing with him and all his special needs. I still play "chauffer" and drive kids here and there - one to career center, one to work and back, one to therapies...I just get so tired of having every moment of my life taken and no time to just relax. sounds like the TSS is causing problems yet again. I would not put up with him claiming his time when your ds is not even home yet! How rude! What is the point after all - that your ds gets his services or that the TSS gets his hours in? Because those two things (supposed to be related but not!) are not happening. He needs to cut back the hours during the week, especially if your ds is so exhausted and so are you. You have to figure out what you can handle and if it means less hours right now from the TSS, then it does. He could do more hours on the weekends during the school year. Or the TSS can do things around your neighborhood or house - not things that cause you to do more. Iron out what you want from this program and let them know. You are the boss! Make the TSS do more creatively - play games at home, help with homework, take walks, play ball in the driveway, ride bikes, etc. Then you don't have to run them all over. Can you call the doc's office and perhaps fax them a form to fill out and have it faxed back? The school would have a fax machine if you don't, I'm sure. They don't probably need to see him to say he really has asthma and really needs his meds at school. So that can be over the phone/fax. I've done that before when they lose the paperwork. One thing I do to try and get a handle on things is to make lists. For instance, if the house is a mess (and it sure is today!) I will make a list of things that really have to get done around this place. Then I will assign whatever I can to the kids so that takes a few things off my back. Then I will just start at the top and do what I can. I will promise myself a movie later on tv or spend some time crocheting or both! But I just keep moving forward and maybe I will get enough done to make things feel better. Also, getting the kids to help - just seeing other people doing something around here! - can often make me get more energized myself. And making a list helps me organize myself because I can see what "has" to be done and I don't forget something important. Also, try to get things ready for the next day the night before as much as possible. Starting the day off missing the bus and looking for shoes (my youngest does this a few times a week on me!!) just puts me in a rotten mood!!! So I am trying to avoid that when I remember. lol. ugh. Oh yeah, and I found a great secret place to hide - the bathroom! lol! I can go in there and read a book for a good amount of time before I hear screaming in the house. Don't think I don't use that bathroom more than the average person! <GG> I think spending 10 minutes quiet and doing something fun like reading really helps me recharge a little bit. And caffeine - lots and lots and lots of caffeine. RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... ( ) So tired and burnt Hi everyone....is it just me or the fact i must be getting old...but we went back to school....my son is LOvin it so far...but he is very tired...he falls asleep when he gets home and doesn't want to go anywhere and then goes to bed before 9 p.m. I am counting my blessing about that. But I went back to school too. I work in a high school and I am so drained. I too could fall asleep when I get home and have been going to bed at 9 since I am up at 5 a.m. I have never been like this. I am exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed. My house is a wreck, the TSS wants to come at 3:30 and my son doesn't get home till 3:40 or 3:45. I am just pulling in the driveway and he pulls in. The dogs need to go out, I want to change...then my son's bus pulls up and I feel like I am going in all kinds of directions. I asked the TSS to come at 4 but he says he can't and he won't get the hours in. On friday,he came at 3;30 and when my son got home ...we cahnged and then I had to run him to the mall. they were going to the movies at 5. But in the meantime...the TSS puts down the hours of 3:25 to 7 when we had to go back down to the mall to pick him up. Now from 4- 4:30 ...he was in his car drivng to the mall and we could not find him....and he counts that too. I am so disgusted with him but there are many male TSS around. My son wants his old TSS back....And, beside the trouble with the TSS, the school is making us stay later ...I use to leave when my student left but now we have to stay till 3 another 45 min. longer. And, of top of it they want us to file. ...do the secretary's jobs....I am upset with this. And, my son's school lost the paperwork filled out by the doctor to have his asthma medicine in school ...so I get a call that he can't have it there ...and she says I can drop it off....and if they can't find the doctor form ...I have to have it done over..his doctor is in NJ 20 min away. I am meeting his great teacher...but they would like me to come in early ...I don't get out till 3 ....the school won't let me leave early ....I have to take 1/2 day. My house is a mess...and I am overwhelmed by it all. How do you all do it ....are any of you feeling it like me? How do you cope...help me before I take off for the hospital. 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Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Thank you Roxanna....I think part of the problem is getting use to being around the kids and nosie all day and not having any time to myself or being able to make a quick call or whatever. In that respect, I miss my old job working for a licensed psychologist. I could make the quick call to the dentist or doctor or my husband if needed....I could fax something to the school etc. And, I had time to myself..doing my work...I didn't have to be on guard 24/7....now I am with the kids from 7-2:15 and when my student gets on the bus ...I can't wait to go to lunch for 1/2 hour jsut for down time. But then i try to make some calls. I am jsut pissed that we can't leave ...I am really done...but no we have to stay till 3 p.m. Waste of tax money. Who ever knew our lives would be like this....I really need to start to simplfy things. I don't want any extra stuff or jobs that will only increase the anxiety. thanks for listening...and you do have good suggestions...We have always gotten ready the night before, shower, clothes out, lunches made....medicine on counter, tooth bruses out....etc. I could never just go in my closet and grab something...I do it the night b4 and then iron it if it needs it, pick out myshoes, jewlery etc. At 5 a.m. my brain is not thinking. Thanks Jan Jan Rushen Smile because it is contagious!!!! From: Roxanna <madideas@...>Subject: Re: ( ) So tired and burnt Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 11:59 AM Ugh, I am having the school starting blues myself. It is so hard to get motivated. I tend to just wallow in depression myself - my personal choice of "what to do when I'm overwhelmed. " I hate it. I can only say that I try to steer through it and take care of as many of the "must do's" as possible. Here my kids are all going to school but one is e-schooled by me at home. So a lot of my time is spent dealing with him and all his special needs. I still play "chauffer" and drive kids here and there - one to career center, one to work and back, one to therapies... I just get so tired of having every moment of my life taken and no time to just relax. sounds like the TSS is causing problems yet again. I would not put up with him claiming his time when your ds is not even home yet! How rude! What is the point after all - that your ds gets his services or that the TSS gets his hours in? Because those two things (supposed to be related but not!) are not happening. He needs to cut back the hours during the week, especially if your ds is so exhausted and so are you. You have to figure out what you can handle and if it means less hours right now from the TSS, then it does. He could do more hours on the weekends during the school year. Or the TSS can do things around your neighborhood or house - not things that cause you to do more. Iron out what you want from this program and let them know. You are the boss! Make the TSS do more creatively - play games at home, help with homework, take walks, play ball in the driveway, ride bikes, etc. Then you don't have to run them all over. Can you call the doc's office and perhaps fax them a form to fill out and have it faxed back? The school would have a fax machine if you don't, I'm sure. They don't probably need to see him to say he really has asthma and really needs his meds at school. So that can be over the phone/fax. I've done that before when they lose the paperwork. One thing I do to try and get a handle on things is to make lists. For instance, if the house is a mess (and it sure is today!) I will make a list of things that really have to get done around this place. Then I will assign whatever I can to the kids so that takes a few things off my back. Then I will just start at the top and do what I can. I will promise myself a movie later on tv or spend some time crocheting or both! But I just keep moving forward and maybe I will get enough done to make things feel better. Also, getting the kids to help - just seeing other people doing something around here! - can often make me get more energized myself. And making a list helps me organize myself because I can see what "has" to be done and I don't forget something important. Also, try to get things ready for the next day the night before as much as possible. Starting the day off missing the bus and looking for shoes (my youngest does this a few times a week on me!!) just puts me in a rotten mood!!! So I am trying to avoid that when I remember. lol. ugh. Oh yeah, and I found a great secret place to hide - the bathroom! lol! I can go in there and read a book for a good amount of time before I hear screaming in the house. Don't think I don't use that bathroom more than the average person! <GG> I think spending 10 minutes quiet and doing something fun like reading really helps me recharge a little bit. And caffeine - lots and lots and lots of caffeine. RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... ( ) So tired and burnt Hi everyone.... is it just me or the fact i must be getting old...but we went back to school....my son is LOvin it so far...but he is very tired...he falls asleep when he gets home and doesn't want to go anywhere and then goes to bed before 9 p.m. I am counting my blessing about that. But I went back to school too. I work in a high school and I am so drained. I too could fall asleep when I get home and have been going to bed at 9 since I am up at 5 a.m. I have never been like this. I am exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed. My house is a wreck, the TSS wants to come at 3:30 and my son doesn't get home till 3:40 or 3:45. I am just pulling in the driveway and he pulls in. The dogs need to go out, I want to change...then my son's bus pulls up and I feel like I am going in all kinds of directions. I asked the TSS to come at 4 but he says he can't and he won't get the hours in. On friday,he came at 3;30 and when my son got home ...we cahnged and then I had to run him to the mall. they were going to the movies at 5. But in the meantime...the TSS puts down the hours of 3:25 to 7 when we had to go back down to the mall to pick him up. Now from 4- 4:30 ...he was in his car drivng to the mall and we could not find him....and he counts that too. I am so disgusted with him but there are many male TSS around. My son wants his old TSS back....And, beside the trouble with the TSS, the school is making us stay later ...I use to leave when my student left but now we have to stay till 3 another 45 min. longer. And, of top of it they want us to file. ...do the secretary's jobs....I am upset with this. And, my son's school lost the paperwork filled out by the doctor to have his asthma medicine in school ...so I get a call that he can't have it there ...and she says I can drop it off....and if they can't find the doctor form ...I have to have it done over..his doctor is in NJ 20 min away. I am meeting his great teacher...but they would like me to come in early ...I don't get out till 3 ....the school won't let me leave early ....I have to take 1/2 day. My house is a mess...and I am overwhelmed by it all. How do you all do it ....are any of you feeling it like me? How do you cope...help me before I take off for the hospital. Please ............ ..jan No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg. com Version: 8.0.169 / Virus Database: 270.6.17/1655 - Release Date: 9/5/2008 7:05 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 LOL, my brain doesn't work in the morning either. Maybe you could get a job at a different school? They are always looking for aides (good aides!) and you would get better hours? RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... ( ) So tired and burnt Hi everyone.... is it just me or the fact i must be getting old...but we went back to school....my son is LOvin it so far...but he is very tired...he falls asleep when he gets home and doesn't want to go anywhere and then goes to bed before 9 p.m. I am counting my blessing about that. But I went back to school too. I work in a high school and I am so drained. I too could fall asleep when I get home and have been going to bed at 9 since I am up at 5 a.m. I have never been like this. I am exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed. My house is a wreck, the TSS wants to come at 3:30 and my son doesn't get home till 3:40 or 3:45. I am just pulling in the driveway and he pulls in. The dogs need to go out, I want to change...then my son's bus pulls up and I feel like I am going in all kinds of directions. I asked the TSS to come at 4 but he says he can't and he won't get the hours in. On friday,he came at 3;30 and when my son got home ...we cahnged and then I had to run him to the mall. they were going to the movies at 5. But in the meantime...the TSS puts down the hours of 3:25 to 7 when we had to go back down to the mall to pick him up. Now from 4- 4:30 ...he was in his car drivng to the mall and we could not find him....and he counts that too. I am so disgusted with him but there are many male TSS around. My son wants his old TSS back....And, beside the trouble with the TSS, the school is making us stay later ...I use to leave when my student left but now we have to stay till 3 another 45 min. longer. And, of top of it they want us to file. ...do the secretary's jobs....I am upset with this. And, my son's school lost the paperwork filled out by the doctor to have his asthma medicine in school ...so I get a call that he can't have it there ...and she says I can drop it off....and if they can't find the doctor form ...I have to have it done over..his doctor is in NJ 20 min away. I am meeting his great teacher...but they would like me to come in early ...I don't get out till 3 ....the school won't let me leave early ....I have to take 1/2 day. My house is a mess...and I am overwhelmed by it all. How do you all do it ....are any of you feeling it like me? How do you cope...help me before I take off for the hospital. Please ............ ..jan No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg. com Version: 8.0.169 / Virus Database: 270.6.17/1655 - Release Date: 9/5/2008 7:05 PM No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - http://www.avg.com Version: 8.0.169 / Virus Database: 270.6.17/1657 - Release Date: 9/6/2008 8:07 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 I work in my district...the district is so large that they split it into the east and west....my son goes to the east campus and I work at the West Campus. I have been trying but it is hard. i actually like the teachers better in the west campus...they for some reason are so much friendlier .....maybe becuase the 2 schools I worked in are pretty new...the Jr. Hi and now the High school.....It is very interest and I learn a lot .....especially from the special ed. teachers. Hmmmmmmmmmmmm! Jan Jan Rushen Smile because it is contagious!!!! From: Roxanna <madideas@zoomintern et.net>Subject: Re: ( ) So tired and burnt Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 11:59 AM Ugh, I am having the school starting blues myself. It is so hard to get motivated. I tend to just wallow in depression myself - my personal choice of "what to do when I'm overwhelmed. " I hate it. I can only say that I try to steer through it and take care of as many of the "must do's" as possible. Here my kids are all going to school but one is e-schooled by me at home. So a lot of my time is spent dealing with him and all his special needs. I still play "chauffer" and drive kids here and there - one to career center, one to work and back, one to therapies... I just get so tired of having every moment of my life taken and no time to just relax. sounds like the TSS is causing problems yet again. I would not put up with him claiming his time when your ds is not even home yet! How rude! What is the point after all - that your ds gets his services or that the TSS gets his hours in? Because those two things (supposed to be related but not!) are not happening. He needs to cut back the hours during the week, especially if your ds is so exhausted and so are you. You have to figure out what you can handle and if it means less hours right now from the TSS, then it does. He could do more hours on the weekends during the school year. Or the TSS can do things around your neighborhood or house - not things that cause you to do more. Iron out what you want from this program and let them know. You are the boss! Make the TSS do more creatively - play games at home, help with homework, take walks, play ball in the driveway, ride bikes, etc. Then you don't have to run them all over. Can you call the doc's office and perhaps fax them a form to fill out and have it faxed back? The school would have a fax machine if you don't, I'm sure. They don't probably need to see him to say he really has asthma and really needs his meds at school. So that can be over the phone/fax. I've done that before when they lose the paperwork. One thing I do to try and get a handle on things is to make lists. For instance, if the house is a mess (and it sure is today!) I will make a list of things that really have to get done around this place. Then I will assign whatever I can to the kids so that takes a few things off my back. Then I will just start at the top and do what I can. I will promise myself a movie later on tv or spend some time crocheting or both! But I just keep moving forward and maybe I will get enough done to make things feel better. Also, getting the kids to help - just seeing other people doing something around here! - can often make me get more energized myself. And making a list helps me organize myself because I can see what "has" to be done and I don't forget something important. Also, try to get things ready for the next day the night before as much as possible. Starting the day off missing the bus and looking for shoes (my youngest does this a few times a week on me!!) just puts me in a rotten mood!!! So I am trying to avoid that when I remember. lol. ugh. Oh yeah, and I found a great secret place to hide - the bathroom! lol! I can go in there and read a book for a good amount of time before I hear screaming in the house. Don't think I don't use that bathroom more than the average person! <GG> I think spending 10 minutes quiet and doing something fun like reading really helps me recharge a little bit. And caffeine - lots and lots and lots of caffeine. RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else... ( ) So tired and burnt Hi everyone.... is it just me or the fact i must be getting old...but we went back to school....my son is LOvin it so far...but he is very tired...he falls asleep when he gets home and doesn't want to go anywhere and then goes to bed before 9 p.m. I am counting my blessing about that. But I went back to school too. I work in a high school and I am so drained. I too could fall asleep when I get home and have been going to bed at 9 since I am up at 5 a.m. I have never been like this. I am exhausted, stressed, overwhelmed. My house is a wreck, the TSS wants to come at 3:30 and my son doesn't get home till 3:40 or 3:45. I am just pulling in the driveway and he pulls in. The dogs need to go out, I want to change...then my son's bus pulls up and I feel like I am going in all kinds of directions. I asked the TSS to come at 4 but he says he can't and he won't get the hours in. On friday,he came at 3;30 and when my son got home ...we cahnged and then I had to run him to the mall. they were going to the movies at 5. But in the meantime...the TSS puts down the hours of 3:25 to 7 when we had to go back down to the mall to pick him up. Now from 4- 4:30 ...he was in his car drivng to the mall and we could not find him....and he counts that too. I am so disgusted with him but there are many male TSS around. My son wants his old TSS back....And, beside the trouble with the TSS, the school is making us stay later ...I use to leave when my student left but now we have to stay till 3 another 45 min. longer. And, of top of it they want us to file. ...do the secretary's jobs....I am upset with this. And, my son's school lost the paperwork filled out by the doctor to have his asthma medicine in school ...so I get a call that he can't have it there ...and she says I can drop it off....and if they can't find the doctor form ...I have to have it done over..his doctor is in NJ 20 min away. I am meeting his great teacher...but they would like me to come in early ...I don't get out till 3 ....the school won't let me leave early ....I have to take 1/2 day. My house is a mess...and I am overwhelmed by it all. How do you all do it ....are any of you feeling it like me? How do you cope...help me before I take off for the hospital. 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