Re: bad day, hilarious day

[Guest guest]

Sounds like you have one heck of a great school! You are blessed! and so is !!!!

Jan

Jan Rushen

Smile because it is contagious!!!!

From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day"Asperger" < >Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 8:31 PM

Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to find out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a unified front.

Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says his hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in this way is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess she wrote Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. So the principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in school suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told them that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the way is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems with what chose to do.

He gave lots of opportunities to work out the problems himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before he can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it was so he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just assimilates it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other thing needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. He said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to having drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying to draw a dumbbell." But I KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I said, ", is that really true or is it something

you just wish was true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So the principal talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a fidget. He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked me and I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working together. They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I swear they think of everything.Miriam

[Guest guest]

Funny story, great school staff!

( ) bad day, hilarious day

Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to find out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a unified front.

Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says his hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in this way is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess she wrote Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. So the principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in school suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told them that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the way is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems with what chose to do.

He gave lots of opportunities to work out the problems himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before he can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it was so he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just assimilates it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other thing needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. He said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to having drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying to draw a dumbbell." But I KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I said, ", is that really true or is it something

you just wish was true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So the principal talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a fidget. He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked me and I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working together. They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I swear they think of everything.Miriam

[Guest guest]

Great luck, Miriam! I'm so happy for you and !

RoxannaYou're UniqueJust like everyone else...

( ) bad day, hilarious day

Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to find out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a unified front.

Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says his hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in this way is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess she wrote Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. So the principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in school suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told them that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the way is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems with what chose to do. He gave lots of opportunities to work out the problems himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before he can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it was so he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just assimilates it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other thing needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. He said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to having drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying to draw a dumbbell." But I KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I said, ", is that really true or is it something you just wish was true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So the principal talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a fidget. He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked me and I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working together. They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I swear they think of everything.Miriam

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[Guest guest]

That is wonderful!!! THe school sounds perfect!!!Had to laugh, though. Hee hee.

From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day"Asperger" < >Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to find out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a unified front.

Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says his hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in this way is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess she wrote Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. So the principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in school suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told them that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the way is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems with what chose to do.

He gave lots of opportunities to work out the problems himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before he can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it was so he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just assimilates it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other thing needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. He said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to having drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying to draw a dumbbell." But I KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I said, ", is that really true or is it something

you just wish was true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So the principal talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a fidget. He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked me and I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working together. They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I swear they think of everything.Miriam

[Guest guest]

OMG Miriam,

that sounds like something collin would do. He too thinks that the

word penis is hysterical and he also thinks the name richard or dick

is extremly funny also. Is this a boy thing cause his friends are

also like this. I can see where he would get penis from penisula

cause I could so see collin seeing it that way too. I can hardly wait

for sex education, he will be standing out in the class Im sure.LOL

gina

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> From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@...>

> Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day

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> Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

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> Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a

message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked

to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's

happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I

just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long to find

out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a

unified front. 

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> Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He says his

hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy in this way

is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I guess she

wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really funny.  So the

principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. 

Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid in school

suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing

something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I told them

that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY

hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message across

without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by the way

is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the

sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems with what

chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to work out the

problems

> himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before he

can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the

desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said it was so

he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community service. "  

finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just assimilates

it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The other thing

needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the

principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to.  He

said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class

he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up to having

drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a dumbbell. "   But I

KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

said, " , is that really true or is it something you just wish was

true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all spazzy. "   So the

principal

> talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when

his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a fidget. 

He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they asked me and

I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

together.  They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't

want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me.  I swear

they think of everything.

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[Guest guest]

I think it's a boy thing and an 11 year old thing. But I remember

getting into trouble for something similar in 5th grade. Actually,

though, mine was more mean spirited. doesn't have a mean bone

in his body. Mostly I don't either but we had a student teacher who

was mean all the time. Not just strict, but mean and verbally

abusive and unfair. So I drew a sloppy, hideous picture of her with

big circles with dots in them to signify breasts and wrote " She's on

her period " next to it. It was pretty out of character for me and

the teacher just screamed like a banshee at me. I owned up to it

because I KNEW it was an awful thing to do. Other than the teacher

screaming, though, I never got any formal punishment. I didn't do it

again, though, either. How embarrassing to admit it. With it

was simply the impulse to react to someone writing penis instead of

penin at the beginning of Peninsula. ROFL.

Miriam

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> > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@>

> > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day

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> > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

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> > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a

> message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they talked

> to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done, what's

> happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so I

> just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long to find

> out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present a

> unified front. 

> >  

> > Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He says his

> hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy in this

way

> is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I guess she

> wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really funny.  So

the

> principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with it. 

> Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid in

school

> suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing

> something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I told them

> that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY

> hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message across

> without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by the way

> is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the

> sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems with

what

> chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to work out

the

> problems

> > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before

he

> can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing the

> desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said it was so

> he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community service. "  

> finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just

assimilates

> it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The other thing

> needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so the

> principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to.  He

> said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose class

> he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up to having

> drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a dumbbell. "   But I

> KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

> said, " , is that really true or is it something you just wish

was

> true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all spazzy. "   So the

> principal

> > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do when

> his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a fidget. 

> He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they asked me

and

> I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

> together.  They worried would be terribly upset so they didn't

> want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me.  I swear

> they think of everything.

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[Guest guest]

OMG Miriam,

Your story about drawing breasts and writing she is on her period was

hysterical. You probably thought you were such a terrible bad person

at the time too I bet. I know I stole a tomato out of our neighbors

garden and I felt so bad about it I told on myself and got into tons

of trouble and had to go tell the neighbor what I did and I just felt

horrible. Now when I look back I laugh at such an innocent thing I

did but my mom made me out to be a thief.LOL I guess she was teaching

me a lesson and you bet your butt I learned it. I never took anything

that didnt belong to me after that, I remember some friends of mine

were picking lilacs off of a bush for their mothers and I wanted to

take my mom some home too cause they are her favorite but I didnt

cause I knew that bush didnt belong to me and I would be stealing.

Well my mom lost out. HEE HEE Thanks for sharing,

-- In , " Miriam " <callis4773@...>

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> I think it's a boy thing and an 11 year old thing. But I remember

> getting into trouble for something similar in 5th grade. Actually,

> though, mine was more mean spirited. doesn't have a mean bone

> in his body. Mostly I don't either but we had a student teacher

who

> was mean all the time. Not just strict, but mean and verbally

> abusive and unfair. So I drew a sloppy, hideous picture of her

with

> big circles with dots in them to signify breasts and wrote " She's

on

> her period " next to it. It was pretty out of character for me and

> the teacher just screamed like a banshee at me. I owned up to it

> because I KNEW it was an awful thing to do. Other than the teacher

> screaming, though, I never got any formal punishment. I didn't do

it

> again, though, either. How embarrassing to admit it. With it

> was simply the impulse to react to someone writing penis instead of

> penin at the beginning of Peninsula. ROFL.

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> Miriam

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> > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@>

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> > > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

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> > > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a

> > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they

talked

> > to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done,

what's

> > happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so

I

> > just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long to

find

> > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present

a

> > unified front. 

> > >  

> > > Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He says

his

> > hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy in this

> way

> > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I guess

she

> > wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really funny.  So

> the

> > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with

it. 

> > Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid in

> school

> > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing

> > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I told

them

> > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY

> > hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message across

> > without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by the

way

> > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the

> > sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems with

> what

> > chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to work out

> the

> > problems

> > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before

> he

> > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing

the

> > desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said it was

so

> > he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community service. "  

> > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just

> assimilates

> > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The other

thing

> > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so

the

> > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. 

He

> > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose

class

> > he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up to

having

> > drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a dumbbell. "   But

I

> > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

> > said, " , is that really true or is it something you just wish

> was

> > true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all spazzy. "   So

the

> > principal

> > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do

when

> > his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a

fidget. 

> > He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they asked me

> and

> > I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

> > together.  They worried would be terribly upset so they

didn't

> > want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me.  I

swear

> > they think of everything.

> > > Miriam

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[Guest guest]

I was pretty ashamed of myself. I think, though, that in tough

situations I survive by my sense of humor. It got me into trouble as

a child, but now it's quite useful. If I see parents pointing,

staring, making nasty comments about my parenting I just can't resist

sticking my tongue out at them. ROFL. It's like, " LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE

and BE GLAD IT ISN'T YOUR LIFE! " Anyway, it gives me a great sense

of superiority that I can deal with my son's difficulties and still

laugh. If people don't like me or my kid they're welcome to go

somewhere else. LOL.

My daughter has a really hard time when someone doesn't like her so

I've been working on helping her see the humor in it. There was a

mean girl in 1st grade named . She made a club called The

Cheetah Girls. Then she told people they couldn't be in the club if

they were friends with Rayleigh. also said people had to

bring stuff from home to give to her to be in the club. One little

girl with a speech delay and probably non verbal learning disability

was told she had to bring in all her barbies. Being quite naive she

tried to do it but her mom figured it out and wouldn't let her.

To help Rayleigh I changed the words of a song we sing every

morning. I sing, " Spider on the floor " every day and have done since

Rayleigh was a little thing. She's 8 going on 15 now but she wakes

up smiling if I do the song. Anyway, when was being rotted I

changed the words to " There's a spider on taylor ______ (don't want

to say her last name). " I'm also trying to help her see who her real

friends are. Rayleigh doesn't have asperger syndrome, but she's a

little different too. She's very sensitive, tends to be anxious and

also quite shy. So she needs a lot of help with other kids.

Miriam

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> > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@>

> > > > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day

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> > > > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a

> > > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they

> talked

> > > to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done,

> what's

> > > happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone

so

> I

> > > just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long to

> find

> > > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to

present

> a

> > > unified front. 

> > > >  

> > > > Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He says

> his

> > > hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy in

this

> > way

> > > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I guess

> she

> > > wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really funny. 

So

> > the

> > > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with

> it. 

> > > Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid in

> > school

> > > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as

drawing

> > > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I told

> them

> > > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be

REALLY

> > > hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message across

> > > without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by the

> way

> > > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and

the

> > > sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems

with

> > what

> > > chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to work

out

> > the

> > > problems

> > > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow

before

> > he

> > > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing

> the

> > > desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said it

was

> so

> > > he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community service. "  

>

> > > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just

> > assimilates

> > > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The other

> thing

> > > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so

> the

> > > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize

to. 

> He

> > > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose

> class

> > > he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up to

> having

> > > drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a dumbbell. "  

But

> I

> > > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

> > > said, " , is that really true or is it something you just

wish

> > was

> > > true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all spazzy. "   So

> the

> > > principal

> > > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do

> when

> > > his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a

> fidget. 

> > > He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they asked

me

> > and

> > > I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

> > > together.  They worried would be terribly upset so they

> didn't

> > > want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me.  I

> swear

> > > they think of everything.

> > > > Miriam

> > > >

> > > >  

> > > >  

> > > >  

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Miriam....

I hate kids who are so cruel....girls especially can be so mean.....I think teaching her to laugh it off is a good idea.....and explain to her how mean and cruel this girl is and that there is no way she should want to hang out with her....she wanted to take someone else's barbies....that is mean....tell her (your daughter) that she is very special and she doesn't need to join any stupid club....or form your own with her as president....I will join...hee hee!!!

Tell her to walk with her head high and remind her that it is not her that has the problem...it is ... is the one with the ego problem....and your daughter is perfect and fine and kind and nice and all that sutff....

Jan

P.S. Ask you daughter what the name of "our" club is and when do we meet????

Jan Rushen

Smile because it is contagious!!!!

From: Miriam <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) Re: bad day, hilarious day Date: Thursday, October 2, 2008, 2:15 PM

I was pretty ashamed of myself. I think, though, that in tough situations I survive by my sense of humor. It got me into trouble as a child, but now it's quite useful. If I see parents pointing, staring, making nasty comments about my parenting I just can't resist sticking my tongue out at them. ROFL. It's like, "LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE and BE GLAD IT ISN'T YOUR LIFE!" Anyway, it gives me a great sense of superiority that I can deal with my son's difficulties and still laugh. If people don't like me or my kid they're welcome to go somewhere else. LOL.My daughter has a really hard time when someone doesn't like her so I've been working on helping her see the humor in it. There was a mean girl in 1st grade named . She made a club called The Cheetah Girls. Then she told people they couldn't be in the club if they were friends with Rayleigh. also said people had to bring stuff from home

to give to her to be in the club. One little girl with a speech delay and probably non verbal learning disability was told she had to bring in all her barbies. Being quite naive she tried to do it but her mom figured it out and wouldn't let her.To help Rayleigh I changed the words of a song we sing every morning. I sing, "Spider on the floor" every day and have done since Rayleigh was a little thing. She's 8 going on 15 now but she wakes up smiling if I do the song. Anyway, when was being rotted I changed the words to "There's a spider on taylor ______ (don't want to say her last name)." I'm also trying to help her see who her real friends are. Rayleigh doesn't have asperger syndrome, but she's a little different too. She's very sensitive, tends to be anxious and also quite shy. So she needs a lot of help with other kids.Miriam> > > > > > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@ >> > > > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day> > > > "Asperger" < >> > > > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Well, it wasn't too

bad, but the special ed teacher left me a > > > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they > talked > > > to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, > what's > > > happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone so > I > > > just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to > find > > > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to present > a > > > unified front. > > > > > > > > Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says > his > > > hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in this > > way > > > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess > she > > > wrote

Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. So > > the > > > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with > it. > > > Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in > > school > > > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as drawing > > > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told > them > > > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be REALLY > > > hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across > > > without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the > way > > > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and the > > > sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems with > >

what > > > chose to do. He gave lots of opportunities to work out > > the > > > problems> > > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow before > > he > > > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing > the > > > desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it was > so > > > he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." > > > > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just > > assimilates > > > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other > thing > > > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so > the > > > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize to. > He

> > > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose > class > > > he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to > having > > > drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying to draw a dumbbell." But > I > > > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I > > > said, ", is that really true or is it something you just wish > > was > > > true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So > the > > > principal> > > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do > when > > > his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a > fidget. > > > He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked me > > and > > >

I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working > > > together. They worried would be terribly upset so they > didn't > > > want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I > swear > > > they think of everything.> > > > Miriam > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Actually, this is exactly what happened. I reminded Rayleigh of all

her friends and Rayleigh started a club and the only rule is that

everyone had to be nice to everyone else. She called it the Candy

Candy club!

Miriam

> > > > >

> > > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@ >

> > > > > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day

> > > > > " Asperger " < >

> > > > > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me

a

> > > > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they

> > talked

> > > > to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done,

> > what's

> > > > happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the

phone

> so

> > I

> > > > just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long to

> > find

> > > > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to

> present

> > a

> > > > unified front. 

> > > > >  

> > > > > Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He

says

> > his

> > > > hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy in

> this

> > > way

> > > > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I

guess

> > she

> > > > wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really funny. 

> So

> > > the

> > > > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal

with

> > it. 

> > > > Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid in

> > > school

> > > > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as

> drawing

> > > > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I

told

> > them

> > > > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be

> REALLY

> > > > hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message

across

> > > > without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by

the

> > way

> > > > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and

> the

> > > > sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems

> with

> > > what

> > > > chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to work

> out

> > > the

> > > > problems

> > > > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow

> before

> > > he

> > > > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for

defacing

> > the

> > > > desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said it

> was

> > so

> > > > he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community

service. "  

> >

> > > > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just

> > > assimilates

> > > > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The other

> > thing

> > > > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing

so

> > the

> > > > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize

> to. 

> > He

> > > > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose

> > class

> > > > he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up to

> > having

> > > > drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a dumbbell. "  

> But

> > I

> > > > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

> > > > said, " , is that really true or is it something you just

> wish

> > > was

> > > > true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all spazzy. "  

So

> > the

> > > > principal

> > > > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do

> > when

> > > > his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a

> > fidget. 

> > > > He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they asked

> me

> > > and

> > > > I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

> > > > together.  They worried would be terribly upset so they

> > didn't

> > > > want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me.  I

> > swear

> > > > they think of everything.

> > > > > Miriam

> > > > >

> > > > >  

> > > > >  

> > > > >  

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Tell her I want to be a member ....I can really nice and sweet!!!!

Jan

Jan Rushen

Smile because it is contagious!!!!

From: Miriam <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) Re: bad day, hilarious day Date: Thursday, October 2, 2008, 5:58 PM

Actually, this is exactly what happened. I reminded Rayleigh of all her friends and Rayleigh started a club and the only rule is that everyone had to be nice to everyone else. She called it the Candy Candy club!Miriam> > > > > > > > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@ >> > > > > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day> > > > > "Asperger" < >> > > > > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >

> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left me a > > > > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they > > talked > > > > to about an incident. I thought, OMG, what's he done, > > what's > > > > happened?! I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the phone > so > > I > > > > just went right to the school. I didn't have to wait long to > > find > > > > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to > present > > a > > > > unified

front. > > > > > > > > > > Here's what happened. drew a penis on a desk. He says > > his > > > > hands "went all spazzy". The reason they went all spazzy in > this > > > way > > > > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula. So I guess > > she > > > > wrote Penisula. thinks the word penis is really funny. > So > > > the > > > > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal with > > it. > > > > Which is great. They said that normally they'd give a kid in > > > school > > > > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as > drawing > > > > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing. I told

> > them > > > > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be > REALLY > > > > hard for them. They said they wanted to get the message across > > > > without him being too devastated. So the principal, who by the > > way > > > > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me and > the > > > > sped teacher in the room. He talked about the two problems > with > > > what > > > > chose to do. He gave lots of opportunities to work > out > > > the > > > > problems> > > > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow > before > > > he > > > > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for defacing > > the > >

> > desk. He asked if he felt this was fair. said it > was > > so > > > > he's fine with cleaning desks. He said, "Community service." > > > > > > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just > > > assimilates > > > > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word. The other > > thing > > > > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing so > > the > > > > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize > to. > > He > > > > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher whose > > class > > > > he was in at the time. really didn't want to own up to > > having > > > > drawn a penis. He said, "I was trying

to draw a dumbbell." > But > > I > > > > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior. I > > > > said, ", is that really true or is it something you just > wish > > > was > > > > true." He answered again with, "My hands went all spazzy." So > > the > > > > principal> > > > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can do > > when > > > > his hands feel that way. He asked if had access to a > > fidget. > > > > He does. Seriously, I love this school. I'm glad they asked > me > > > and > > > > I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working > > > > together. They worried would be terribly upset so they > > didn't

> > > > want to ride the bus home. So he came home with me. I > > swear > > > > they think of everything.> > > > > Miriam > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >> > > >> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Hi Miriam,

Tell Rayleigh I will also be in her club and I have two older

daughters, and one collects barbie dolls and they would also be in

her club. We dont like girls that are rude and snotty. We are always

nice and I love the name of her club too. I love candy.LOL gina

-- In , " Miriam " <callis4773@...>

wrote:

>

> Actually, this is exactly what happened. I reminded Rayleigh of

all

> her friends and Rayleigh started a club and the only rule is that

> everyone had to be nice to everyone else. She called it the Candy

> Candy club!

>

> Miriam

>

>

> > > > > >

> > > > > > From: Miriam Banash <callis4773@ >

> > > > > > Subject: ( ) bad day, hilarious day

> > > > > > " Asperger " < >

> > > > > > Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 7:31 PM

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Well, it wasn't too bad, but the special ed teacher left

me

> a

> > > > > message saying she wanted me to be at the school while they

> > > talked

> > > > > to  about an incident.  I thought, OMG, what's he done,

> > > what's

> > > > > happened?!  I couldn't get the special ed teacher on the

> phone

> > so

> > > I

> > > > > just went right to the school.  I didn't have to wait long

to

> > > find

> > > > > out it wasn't anything REALLY awful, they just wanted to

> > present

> > > a

> > > > > unified front. 

> > > > > >  

> > > > > > Here's what happened.  drew a penis on a desk.  He

> says

> > > his

> > > > > hands " went all spazzy " .  The reason they went all spazzy

in

> > this

> > > > way

> > > > > is because one girl misspelled the word Peninsula.  So I

> guess

> > > she

> > > > > wrote Penisula.  thinks the word penis is really

funny. 

> > So

> > > > the

> > > > > principal and sped teacher wanted my input on how to deal

> with

> > > it. 

> > > > > Which is great.  They said that normally they'd give a kid

in

> > > > school

> > > > > suspension or detention for defacing property as well as

> > drawing

> > > > > something potentially very offensive and embarrassing.  I

> told

> > > them

> > > > > that a detention would have an impact but that it might be

> > REALLY

> > > > > hard for them.  They said they wanted to get the message

> across

> > > > > without him being too devastated.  So the principal, who by

> the

> > > way

> > > > > is wonderful and very sweet, had a talk with with me

and

> > the

> > > > > sped teacher in the room.  He talked about the two problems

> > with

> > > > what

> > > > > chose to do.  He gave lots of opportunities to

work

> > out

> > > > the

> > > > > problems

> > > > > > himself and suggested that cleaning some desks tomorrow

> > before

> > > > he

> > > > > can go to recess might be a good thing to make up for

> defacing

> > > the

> > > > > desk.  He asked if he felt this was fair.  said

it

> > was

> > > so

> > > > > he's fine with cleaning desks.  He said, " Community

> service. "  

> > >

> > > > > finds a piece of lingo or a commonly used phrase and just

> > > > assimilates

> > > > > it into his vocabulary almost like it's one word.  The

other

> > > thing

> > > > > needed to address was the offensiveness of his drawing

> so

> > > the

> > > > > principal asked him if there was anyone he should apologize

> > to. 

> > > He

> > > > > said the name of the special ed teacher and the teacher

whose

> > > class

> > > > > he was in at the time.  really didn't want to own up

to

> > > having

> > > > > drawn a penis.  He said, " I was trying to draw a

dumbbell. "  

> > But

> > > I

> > > > > KNOW he was just not wanting to own up to the behavior.  I

> > > > > said, " , is that really true or is it something you

just

> > wish

> > > > was

> > > > > true. "   He answered again with, " My hands went all

spazzy. "  

> So

> > > the

> > > > > principal

> > > > > > talked to him about coping strategies for things he can

do

> > > when

> > > > > his hands feel that way.  He asked if had access to a

> > > fidget. 

> > > > > He does.  Seriously, I love this school.  I'm glad they

asked

> > me

> > > > and

> > > > > I can see why they'd want me there to present us as working

> > > > > together.  They worried would be terribly upset so

they

> > > didn't

> > > > > want to ride the bus home.  So he came home with me. 

I

> > > swear

> > > > > they think of everything.

> > > > > > Miriam

> > > > > >

> > > > > >  

> > > > > >  

> > > > > >  

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>