Re: band bashing

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Kendra,

When I posted this message I had just read all of the posts on the CT

discussion board. Everyone was freaking out on Jess because she was

stating her opinion on the STAR band. I was mainly just writing to

vent a little and after I posted it and read it again, it didn't even

really make much sense. I had also just remembered a heated

discussion between two members here a week or so ago. I just wanted

to send a message to everyone to do just what you said - be a support

group. I probably stuck my nose where it didn't belong, but when I

feel like I need to say something I just do it. I agree that " aitens

pictures " of the STAR band were not good. But as I said before, the

main reason I even thought to write about this stemmed from the CT

discussion board. Maybe I should have posted there. Thanks for

responding.

Jill

> Jill:

> I am not trying to be defensive, so just hear me out.

> I read every post that runs thru this group. I have never felt

that one member was " bashing " another over the choices they have

made. The members here are simply voicing their own experiences with

the products they have used. Some people are not happy with the DOC

Band, some are not happy with the STAR. Everyone has different

situations, and sometimes things don't work out. If you check the

file created by " aitensmom " in the FILES section, you will probably

agree that that particular situation wasn't a good one. This mom has

never told anyone NOT to get a STARband, but to ASK QUESTIONS. She

is simply telling HER story, and so she should!

> I think it is fabulous that there are other options out there, but

that doesn't mean that people should have to walk into this

experience blindly. I think that is important for the bad side to be

told, just as it is important to hear the good. Of course, I do

agree with you that we should not judge each other for the decisions

we make, and we certainly should not be arguing over which helmet

is " the best " (even though each of us will form an opinion). This is

a SUPPORT group. I also think that emotions can run really high in

this group (after all, we are a group of parents trying to do what's

best for our children!), and things can be taken a little too

literally. We need to read these messages at face value.

> Kendra in Canada

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> ----- Original Message -----

> From: jastss@h...

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> Sent: Monday, March 12, 2001 2:12 PM

> Subject: Star Band vs. DOC question

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> Whomever it may concern,

> I'm pretty new to this group so I may have missed out on something,

> but I'm just wondering why some people are taking this STAR

band/DOC

> band business so personally? I know that people are just trying to

> be helpful to those seeking advise when trying to decide how to

help

> their child. But it seems to me that it has turned into some sort

> of " Mine's better than Yours " battle. Everyone here is just doing

> what they think is best for THEIR child. On the CT discussion

board,

> the issue became nasty and people forgot what the question really

was

> that was being asked. No, you shouldn't advertise anything but the

> DOC band on that site out of respect for CT and the people who are

> making that discussion board available. But that doesn't mean we

> should bash people that are using something other than a DOC. In

my

> personal opinion, I think that people should stop judging other

> people's decisions and just talk about their own experiences with

the

> product they have used. Maybe STAR band didn't work for some of

you,

> but just say that and stop discouraging the thing. Can we just say

> what has worked and what hasn't without hurting other people? I'm

> not saying all of this to defend anyone. My son is in a DOC band,

> but that was just my own personal decision. If I had wanted to

seek

> out advise from this board on trying to decide, it probably would

> have made me not want to even be part of this group. Luckily, I

> wasn't faced with having to make that decision. If anyone out

there

> is trying to decide on one or the other, just listen to the facts

and

> not the arguing and hopefully you can make an educated choice

instead

> of a biased one.

> Hope I didn't step on anyone's toes because I really like this

group,

> but I just felt I needed to say all of this.

> Jill