Re: Re: Update on Max and a little something else -

[Guest guest]

That didn't come out wrong at all and I understand exactly how you feel. My

friend said " of course that mom knew " but I just know if it was me and I was

talking to a woman with a band on her child's head, I would have started

right in with the questions - but that might just be me...I am a bit of a BIG

MOUTH if you guys haven't figured that out by now.

As far as being embarrassed of your child, I never for one minute got that

impression of you - I feel so much the same way - I always start my

complaining with ... " Please don't think I am vain but... "

Unfortunately one of my downfalls is that I am a bit vain and I am a

perfectionist(especially when it comes to my kids) and I expected my baby to

be perfect...my other babies are perfect , perfect to me and it makes me sad

that I don't see my Max as perfect. I love him so much - and I know he is

beautiful...but he is not perfect and he never will be. Now I sound terrible

but I know I am not. And YES, I know how much worse things could be, but

their not, And I know how in the big scheme of things a little asymmetry is

not the end of the world...it just takes away some of my joy.

Forgive how I sound because ...I know!!!! I am embarrassed to be typing this

to a group and I am ready to delete but I am just telling you how I feel and

I know you will understand.

So don't ever feel guilty because in plagio life our babies have an

imperfection but in reality our babies are perfection!!!!

Hope your all still talking to me,

Amy

[Guest guest]

Amy - Glade to hear the eye exam went OK! I don't think any doctor magically knows the future! Keep up the faith that the eye will improve with the head rounding out. I know our eyes have improved!

I can relate to your situation. There is a baby in our church a month older than with a flat head in back, really bad. I've never said anything and she has never asked me about the band. I don't see them so often and will be curious to see how is head turns out! I myself didn't notice 's facial asymmetry at birth. Our ped said something about one cheek more fuller and having a ENT look at him for his folded ear. The ENT doctor referred us to an oral surgeon for the jaw. Not until x-rays we taken, then we were told the chin, eyes were off! With the tort tilt it is hard to see if everything aligned like it should be. Once things were pointed out to me more and more and we didn't have a tilt for some time, things were more noticeable. It's hard. We all just see the beauty and joy in our child's faces!

Oh how I wish I could get to New York and visit! That would be an awesome experience.

Tammy & 12/8/99

[Guest guest]

Of course we're still talking to you Amy. Don't be silly!

Kendra in Canadawww.plagiocephaly.org/support...

----- Original Message -----

From: syddesi2@...

Plagiocephaly

Sent: Thursday, March 01, 2001 6:54 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Update on Max and a little something else -

That didn't come out wrong at all and I understand exactly how you feel. My friend said "of course that mom knew" but I just know if it was me and I was talking to a woman with a band on her child's head, I would have started right in with the questions - but that might just be me...I am a bit of a BIG MOUTH if you guys haven't figured that out by now.As far as being embarrassed of your child, I never for one minute got that impression of you - I feel so much the same way - I always start my complaining with ..."Please don't think I am vain but..."Unfortunately one of my downfalls is that I am a bit vain and I am a perfectionist(especially when it comes to my kids) and I expected my baby to be perfect...my other babies are perfect , perfect to me and it makes me sad that I don't see my Max as perfect. I love him so much - and I know he is beautiful...but he is not perfect and he never will be. Now I sound terrible but I know I am not. And YES, I know how much worse things could be, but their not, And I know how in the big scheme of things a little asymmetry is not the end of the world...it just takes away some of my joy.Forgive how I sound because ...I know!!!! I am embarrassed to be typing this to a group and I am ready to delete but I am just telling you how I feel and I know you will understand.So don't ever feel guilty because in plagio life our babies have an imperfection but in reality our babies are perfection!!!!Hope your all still talking to me,Amy