Re: [SPAM] Wants to come Home

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Is your grandson? I think I must have missed the emails about why he is with his mom's and dad's houses for Christmas, but home is with you. I know we have a confusing situation with my stepson because he lives with his dad and me, but his mom always wants him for holidays. Even though the custody agreement says she can have him for part of Christmas vacation and part of the summer, we do not let him go because of her abusive husband. We talked with lawyers who advised us that we should do what was best for him and let her take us to court if she wanted to fight it, rather than spend our time and money dragging this to court. It would not benefit our son.

I do understand how hard it is when they have multiple "homes." It is hard enough for our kdis with Aspergers without having to change environments and live in situations where people are clueless about Aspergers. My stepson's mother doesn't have a clue and that is another reason he does not spend unsupervised time with her.

I hope that things work out and that can salvage the rest of his holiday at home.

Donna

[sPAM] ( ) Wants to come Home

I e-mailed 's mother this morning & told her if wants to come back home before the New Year to call me because I promised he could. He's been there since Dec.24th but was at dad's the weekend of the 21st, then right down to his mom's. A few minutes later I get a voice mail from Jon saying to please call him which I did. I got the mom on the phone instead with loud music in the back ground & she says can come home tomorrow after she takes her daughter to the hospital for some tests at 2:30 (like he really wants to spend time sitting in the hospital) & all his clothes were in the washer anyway so he'd just have to wait. This was at 7pm tonight.I said I could meet her at 7:30 tonight. But she said all his clothes were being washed. She said had a meltdown wanting to come home to play with his new Wii (game system) & he needed to know that just because he wanted to come home he wasn't going to go ASAP so she then said she just let him go on with his meltdown & ignored him. I told her that I will meet her at 12:30 tomorrow not after her daughter gets tests & the wash was done. I can bet she hurried & threw all his clothes in the washer because he wanted to come back home. A Control thing.

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Thanks Donna. Yes llives with us, his grandparents. We'd had him for almost 11yrs now. We have full custody since he was 5 yrs old. Next Christmas this is not happening. Take care,Betty Donna <donnalmoore@...> wrote: Is your grandson? I think I must have missed the emails about why he is with his mom's and dad's houses for Christmas,

but home is with you. I know we have a confusing situation with my stepson because he lives with his dad and me, but his mom always wants him for holidays. Even though the custody agreement says she can have him for part of Christmas vacation and part of the summer, we do not let him go because of her abusive husband. We talked with lawyers who advised us that we should do what was best for him and let her take us to court if she wanted to fight it, rather than spend our time and money dragging this to court. It would not benefit our son. I do understand how hard it is when they have multiple "homes." It is hard enough for our kdis with Aspergers without having to change environments and live in situations where people are clueless about Aspergers. My stepson's mother doesn't have a clue and that is another reason he does not spend

unsupervised time with her. I hope that things work out and that can salvage the rest of his holiday at home. Donna [sPAM] ( ) Wants to come Home I e-mailed 's mother this morning & told her if wants to come back home before the New Year to call me because I promised he could. He's been there since Dec.24th but was at dad's the weekend of the 21st, then right down to his mom's. A few minutes later I get a voice mail from Jon saying to please call him which I did. I got the mom on the phone instead with loud music in the back ground & she says can come home tomorrow after she takes her daughter to the hospital for some tests at 2:30 (like he really wants to spend time sitting in the hospital) & all his clothes were in the washer anyway so he'd just have to wait. This was at 7pm tonight.I said I could meet her at 7:30 tonight. But she said all his clothes were being washed. She said had a meltdown wanting to come home to play with his new Wii (game system) & he needed to know that just because he

wanted to come home he wasn't going to go ASAP so she then said she just let him go on with his meltdown & ignored him. I told her that I will meet her at 12:30 tomorrow not after her daughter gets tests & the wash was done. I can bet she hurried & threw all his clothes in the washer because he wanted to come back home. A Control thing.

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From: truegrittle@...Date: Sun, 30 Dec 2007 19:16:41 -0800Subject: Re: [sPAM] ( ) Wants to come Home

Thanks Donna. Yes llives with us, his grandparents. We'd had him for almost 11yrs now. We have full custody since he was 5 yrs old. Next Christmas this is not happening.

Take care,Betty

Donna <donnalmoore> wrote:

Is your grandson? I think I must have missed the emails about why he is with his mom's and dad's houses for Christmas, but home is with you. I know we have a confusing situation with my stepson because he lives with his dad and me, but his mom always wants him for holidays. Even though the custody agreement says she can have him for part of Christmas vacation and part of the summer, we do not let him go because of her abusive husband. We talked with lawyers who advised us that we should do what was best for him and let her take us to court if she wanted to fight it, rather than spend our time and money dragging this to court. It would not benefit our son.

I do understand how hard it is when they have multiple "homes." It is hard enough for our kdis with Aspergers without having to change environments and live in situations where people are clueless about Aspergers. My stepson's mother doesn't have a clue and that is another reason he does not spend unsupervised time with her.

I hope that things work out and that can salvage the rest of his holiday at home.

Donna

[sPAM] ( ) Wants to come Home

I e-mailed 's mother this morning & told her if wants to come back home before the New Year to call me because I promised he could. He's been there since Dec.24th but was at dad's the weekend of the 21st, then right down to his mom's. A few minutes later I get a voice mail from Jon saying to please call him which I did. I got the mom on the phone instead with loud music in the back ground & she says can come home tomorrow after she takes her daughter to the hospital for some tests at 2:30 (like he really wants to spend time sitting in the hospital) & all his clothes were in the washer anyway so he'd just have to wait. This was at 7pm tonight.I said I could meet her at 7:30 tonight. But she said all his clothes were being washed. She said had a meltdown wanting to come home to play with his new Wii (game system) & he needed to know that just because he wanted to come home he wasn't going to go ASAP so she then said she just let him go on with his meltdown & ignored him. I told her that I will meet her at 12:30 tomorrow not after her daughter gets tests & the wash was done. I can bet she hurried & threw all his clothes in the washer because he wanted to come back home. A Control thing.

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