Re: Call from teacher about meltdowns - JACKIE

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they don't understand so they need to say something. its' their own complex about not understanding what's going on. all it takes is to care and read what we give them. even if they don't "get it" they can at least not be ignorant. <hunebear3@...> wrote: OHH.. you dont want to get me started on family! My SIL is insistent that there is nothing wrong with other than the fact that he is too smart for his on good and therefore causes him not to know how to talk to peers of his own age. SHe even went so far as to say... "Yeah take a kid to enough doctors and soon enough you'll get some sort of diagnosis to use to baby your kid" Granted she had been drinking a bit when she said this but it still ticked me off and I told her YOU try to live with him for more than a few

days AND be a parent and not the overindulging Aunt!!!! URGHHHHHJackieOn Aug 16, 2007, at 12:33 PM, jeanette padilla wrote:> family can sometimes drive you more crazy than teachers with their > lack of understanding. with all the documents i created and all the > info i gathered, i still get "i don't get it". when people are > ignorant and have ignorant attitudes, they will never "get it". my > sil, who worked in a hospital - nurse - was very ignorant last night > when speaking w/my husband. he explained to her that antha, our 7 yr > old aspie, wouldn't be able to get on a plane b/c when he was at an > airport w/my dh and his friend, dropping someone off, he saw the "big > planes in the sky" and he didn't like it. he said they're too big and > in the sky. my sil lives in fl and wants us to visit. her remark" > tell him "it's

what i say, not what you wnat". yep! ignorant!>> wrote:I agree ! Teachers can do some > serious damage to a parent of a newly diagnosed child>> Its is hard enough being questioned by friends and family ( about the >> diagnoses) but when a teacher isn't on board... GRRRRR >> >> -- ( ) Call from teacher about meltdowns>> >>>> >> My 5 year old Aspie's teacher called today. Right now Emma is in a>> >> normal kindergarten class. She complained that Emma is very strong>> >> willed and has multiple meltdowns with screaming every day. Her way>> >> or no way, so to speak. We talked about Asperger, but the teacher>> >> wants to keep her in her kindergarten class and try to work with>> > her>> >> more to understand restrictions and boundaries. For example, "We do>> >> not scream and shout and cover our ears when the bell rings".

The>> >> teacher's way of dealing with it is ignoring the behavior or>> > turning>> >> her back and walking away. I asked more about putting her in a>> >> special class, but the teacher doesn't want to do it yet and says>> > it>> >> can take up to a year to get her in. She said that my daughter was>> >> in the background crying and pleading for her not to call me.>> >>>> >> Emma has been coming home every day saying she was very well>> > behaved>> >> and good and had no time outs. But the teacher says that every>> >> single day she has had meltdowns/tantrums. I'm not sure what to say>> >> to my daughter when I get her off of the bus today, but the teacher>> >> somehow expects me to talk to her to explain that her behavior>> > isn't>>

>> acceptable, and those kinds of words are not sinking in yet. She>> > has>> >> an appt with a child psychologist coming up as far as what to do>> > with>> >> her education-wise and to see what methods will help her. But for>> >> now we're still going to be living in fear of the ring of the>> > phone.>> >> I am worried for Emma that no other children are going to want to>> >> play with her when she has such fits every day at school.>> >>>> >>> >>> >>> >>> >

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Isn't that the truth!! I know this will sound awful but our children

with ASD are NOT marked outwardly in appearance by anything that pegs

them with a disability so it's really hard when you have a child that

appears quite normal under most circumstances. For the most part

is pretty normal... of course he has good days and EXTREMELY

bad days!! LOL Most people think he's just a hyperactive child... they

don't realize that him spinning around until he falls down is a sensory

thing, that jumping is something he does to regulate himself; or that

we he is stimming (sitting on his head) that he's trying to escape.

They just see it as oddities! I think it's someone on this board that

has little business cards that they pass around with their child is

having and " autistic " moment that pretty much tells it like it is!! I

LOVE the idea of that because I can't tell you how many times in the

past that I have been approached to " help " me with my unruly child or

the looks I get when my then 6 year old (unknown at that time) aspie

lectures strangers on the long term effects of cigarettes and alcohol!!

This was a big thing for him for a few years! I mean EVERYONE he saw

smoking he told them how bad they were and what they were doing to

their lungs! OH and let's not forget the family " secrets " that he

tells everyone!!! OMG... horrified just thinking about it!! LOL

I think the by far the worse thing he does out in public now is throw

fits, screech at me and occassionally throw himself down on the floor

at the store... Nothing like a 10.5 year old doing these things!!!!

LOL

I always think about what I say or do because I don't know what that

other person is actually dealing with... so until someone walks in my

shoes... stay out of my business!!!

Jackie

On Aug 16, 2007, at 2:35 PM, jeanette padilla wrote:

> they don't understand so they need to say something.  its' their own

> complex about not understanding what's going on.  all it takes is to

> care and read what we give them.  even if they don't " get it " they can

> at least not be ignorant. 

>

> <hunebear3@...> wrote:OHH.. you dont want to

> get me started on family! My SIL is insistent

>> that there is nothing wrong with other than the fact that he

>> is

>> too smart for his on good and therefore causes him not to know how to

>> talk to peers of his own age. SHe even went so far as to say... " Yeah

>> take a kid to enough doctors and soon enough you'll get some sort of

>> diagnosis to use to baby your kid " Granted she had been drinking a bit

>> when she said this but it still ticked me off and I told her YOU try

>> to

>> live with him for more than a few days AND be a parent and not the

>> overindulging Aunt!!!! URGHHHHH

>>

>> Jackie

>> On Aug 16, 2007, at 12:33 PM, jeanette padilla wrote:

>>

>> > family can sometimes drive you more crazy than teachers with their

>> > lack of understanding.   with all the documents i created and all

>> the

>> > info i gathered, i still get " i don't get it " .  when people are

>> > ignorant and have ignorant attitudes, they will never " get it " .  my

>> > sil, who worked in a hospital - nurse - was very ignorant last night

>> > when speaking w/my husband.  he explained to her that antha, our 7

>> yr

>> > old aspie, wouldn't be able to get on a plane b/c when he was at an

>> > airport w/my dh and his friend, dropping someone off, he saw the

>> " big

>> > planes in the sky " and he didn't like it.  he said they're too big

>> and

>> > in the sky.  my sil lives in fl and wants us to visit.  her remark "  

>> > tell him " it's what i say, not what you wnat " .  yep!  ignorant!

>> >

>> > wrote:I agree !  Teachers can do some

>> > serious damage to a parent of a newly diagnosed child

>> >> Its is hard enough being questioned by friends and family ( about

>> the

>> >> diagnoses) but when a teacher isn't on board... GRRRRR 

>> >>  

>> >> -- ( ) Call from teacher about meltdowns

>> >> >>

>> >> >> My 5 year old Aspie's teacher called today. Right now Emma is

>> in a

>> >> >> normal kindergarten class. She complained that Emma is very

>> strong

>> >> >> willed and has multiple meltdowns with screaming every day. Her

>> way

>> >> >> or no way, so to speak. We talked about Asperger, but the

>> teacher

>> >> >> wants to keep her in her kindergarten class and try to work with

>> >> > her

>> >> >> more to understand restrictions and boundaries. For example,

>> " We do

>> >> >> not scream and shout and cover our ears when the bell rings " .

>> The

>> >> >> teacher's way of dealing with it is ignoring the behavior or

>> >> > turning

>> >> >> her back and walking away. I asked more about putting her in a

>> >> >> special class, but the teacher doesn't want to do it yet and

>> says

>> >> > it

>> >> >> can take up to a year to get her in. She said that my daughter

>> was

>> >> >> in the background crying and pleading for her not to call me.

>> >> >>

>> >> >> Emma has been coming home every day saying she was very well

>> >> > behaved

>> >> >> and good and had no time outs. But the teacher says that every

>> >> >> single day she has had meltdowns/tantrums. I'm not sure what to

>> say

>> >> >> to my daughter when I get her off of the bus today, but the

>> teacher

>> >> >> somehow expects me to talk to her to explain that her behavior

>> >> > isn't

>> >> >> acceptable, and those kinds of words are not sinking in yet. She

>> >> > has

>> >> >> an appt with a child psychologist coming up as far as what to do

>> >> > with

>> >> >> her education-wise and to see what methods will help her. But

>> for

>> >> >> now we're still going to be living in fear of the ring of the

>> >> > phone.

>> >> >> I am worried for Emma that no other children are going to want

>> to

>> >> >> play with her when she has such fits every day at school.

>> >> >>

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