losing it!

[Guest guest]

I'm new here and I need this group!

Just had a water spitting issue with my son ... SPITTING WATER!

Excuse me? He is 13 years old and for some reason the water " didn't

taste good " so he spit it out after each drink ... on to the CARPET?!

Again, I say, EXCUSE ME?! We are both in tears!

Actually, that's just the end of the day event. Let's start at the

beginning ...

This morning was an " early " morning for a Saturday. Our day consisted

of getting up and out the door by 9:00 a.m. (after staying up late,

it felt really early) which really wasn't too bad. We were on our way

to my sister's house for some manual labor activities i.e. cutting

and stacking wood for the winter. Who wants to do that on their last

weekend of freedom before school? I sure wouldn't, but still ... had

to be done! All my other kids (I have four total) were real troopers

and worked their tails off ALL DAY! All except my son who whined and

sulked and moped and complained and was a general pain. We were

stacking wood and the ONLY ONE who couldn't take TWO LOGS like all

the others (even the little kids) was my son. So my brother The work

was completed by 3:00 p.m. and before we were leaving my mom asked

him to return her gloves that he borrowed, but alas the gloves were

not to be found ... ANYWHERE. Where did you take them off? " I don't

know. " Did you look? " Yes. " Where? " I don't remember. "

AUGH!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously, after working all day in the HOT weather

dealing with his crappy attitude then to deal with this - mom's not

doing well.

Then we get home ... " You need to take a shower. " " Why? " " Why?! "

Ummmmmmmmm, 'cause you STINK like the rest of us and you are FILTHY!

OH MY WORD! Why?! Why?! I don't get it ... he's not asking why ...

he's basically saying, " no! "

I'm tired, I'm cranky, and I'm not dealing ... what does everyone

else do when their AS kids are like this? Are you kids like mine? I

don't have a spouse to rely on, my mom thinks he's disrespectful and

doesn't really understand AS ... I have a little support, but not

much. My older kids and younger son have to put up with him and with

me (dealing with him). How do I do this by myself?

[Guest guest]

I just had an awesome day with our AS son, so I can chuckle at your post.

In our house our son as "clean-up poopitis". In other words... everytime we're cleaning house/doing chores he just HAS to poop and locks himself in there for as long as he can get away with

Our AS son is 10 and his button pushing sister is 8. We call her the instigator since she knows how to sneak in that "jab" (verbal or physical) without getting caught and sits back to watch her brother go into meltdown mode.

And yes, we have bathtime and tooth brushing battles too.

Hang in there. You'll have the good day soon and I'll have the one you were describing

Molly in Indiana