Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 ...how old is your daughter? Delia had trouble had a few parades...when she was five I promised her a balloon and then no balloonman to be found....she just acted very hostile, though. Then this guy comes by with kids riding in his little cart thingy and he sometimes picks up kids on the way-of course I didn't want her riding in that because I'd have to head to the end of the parade to pick her up. She ranted and raved a bit, but again..not a lot of tantrums in public. She prefers school (lol). This year she accepted everything....just turned 7. Usually if I tell her ahead "you are not getting anything today" she is okay with it. ( ) "never again" I say this every time we have an episode which is often--I say it to myself. I will never XYZ again ever. And then turn around and do. Parades. Every parade besides ONE so far I have said it. The one she was fine in was the one she was actually walking with the GS in. She did really well. Besdies being afraid of the dogs around. So I thought hey they are asking for kids in the parade, she will do well again. But this time on her bicycle. I dreaded it, worried, and panicked about it--what if I had to carry HER kicking and screaming and HER bicycle all the way back to the car to leave? Well she did great riding to the wait-in-line for the parade to start spot on her bicycle. Then she couldn't wait. I told her upfront the rules are listen closely to me, stay by me, wait in line or we leave. She started taking off on her bike so that was it--we left. She was fine as she got to ride back to the car. So I asked her do you want to watch the parade now? She said ok. So big sigh of relief--that was over and no meltdown yet. We normally have issues as the other kids are running in the road for treats and I have to keep ahold of dd at all times so she doesn't take off and leave. Or get run over! Today she was calm--knew that we didn't want the candy so left it for other kids, shared what candy landed at her feet. She was wonderful! Until the beach ball incident. I had picked up comics and other toys for dd so had my hands pretty full and had hold of dd's hand. The beach balls were thrown and dd got one and then dropped it--the wind blew it to the other side of us....when dd leapt forward and started running, she caught me offguard. We BOTh fell down HARD. Thank goodness we had on our Autism Awareness buttons as she was fighting me to let her go to get to the ball that was blown way way off. She is having a meltdown, I am trying to calm her. Finally she calmed a little, then someone gave her a beach ball. Bad idea. she kept dropping it, mommy needed more hands. It kept being an issue. Everyone around us were so kind and didn't seem bothered as people usually do. Even when the noises of the parade made her "hum" loudly. We seemed to draw the campaigning senators in the parade with our Autism Awareness buttons too. LOL WE are going to find a spot tonight to watch fireworks IN the car. Next time maybe we can for parades too! Off to put ice on my knee and elbow. The life of a hermit looks better after every outting like this. J/K!!! Get the toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 She is 6. I never have any issues of her wanting anything until she sees other children doing/getting things. Then it is an issue. She doesn't eat candy, I don't give her sugary treats so she doesn't even want the candy. She just wants to run in the road like the other kids FOR whatever it is. So today when I saw toys,etc I thought she will be happy that she has something LIKE the other kids. Who knew they would be throwing blown up big balls. Just like watching fireworks. Every time we sit in the car and watch them. She fusses to be like the other children. If I let her out and we sit on a blanket just like everyone else, she would keep taking off. It is more dangerous at nighttime as I can't see where she goes. During the day, it is bad enough having to chase her down. Or get her off the top of red cars--WHY did you climb on top of that car? I like red. So even tho she wants to do what they do, she can't. It will start with her doing the same and then running down the road in a straight line away from everyone. Of course everyone looks at me like the bad guy. The librarian actually said that I have a death grip on dd. So one day I let her go in the library. She hasn't said much about us again. LOL Neylon <Lindee37@...> wrote: ...how old is your daughter? Delia had trouble had a few parades...when she was five I promised her a balloon and then no balloonman to be found....she just acted very hostile, though. Then this guy comes by with kids riding in his little cart thingy and he sometimes picks up kids on the way-of course I didn't want her riding in that because I'd have to head to the end of the parade to pick her up. She ranted and raved a bit, but again..not a lot of tantrums in public. She prefers school (lol). This year she accepted everything....just turned 7. Usually if I tell her ahead "you are not getting anything today" she is okay with it. ( ) "never again" I say this every time we have an episode which is often--I say it to myself. I will never XYZ again ever. And then turn around and do. Parades. Every parade besides ONE so far I have said it. The one she was fine in was the one she was actually walking with the GS in. She did really well. Besdies being afraid of the dogs around. So I thought hey they are asking for kids in the parade, she will do well again. But this time on her bicycle. I dreaded it, worried, and panicked about it--what if I had to carry HER kicking and screaming and HER bicycle all the way back to the car to leave? Well she did great riding to the wait-in-line for the parade to start spot on her bicycle. Then she couldn't wait. I told her upfront the rules are listen closely to me, stay by me, wait in line or we leave. She started taking off on her bike so that was it--we left. She was fine as she got to ride back to the car. So I asked her do you want to watch the parade now? She said ok. So big sigh of relief--that was over and no meltdown yet. We normally have issues as the other kids are running in the road for treats and I have to keep ahold of dd at all times so she doesn't take off and leave. Or get run over! Today she was calm--knew that we didn't want the candy so left it for other kids, shared what candy landed at her feet. She was wonderful! Until the beach ball incident. I had picked up comics and other toys for dd so had my hands pretty full and had hold of dd's hand. The beach balls were thrown and dd got one and then dropped it--the wind blew it to the other side of us....when dd leapt forward and started running, she caught me offguard. We BOTh fell down HARD. Thank goodness we had on our Autism Awareness buttons as she was fighting me to let her go to get to the ball that was blown way way off. She is having a meltdown, I am trying to calm her. Finally she calmed a little, then someone gave her a beach ball. Bad idea. she kept dropping it, mommy needed more hands. It kept being an issue. Everyone around us were so kind and didn't seem bothered as people usually do. Even when the noises of the parade made her "hum" loudly. We seemed to draw the campaigning senators in the parade with our Autism Awareness buttons too. LOL WE are going to find a spot tonight to watch fireworks IN the car. Next time maybe we can for parades too! Off to put ice on my knee and elbow. The life of a hermit looks better after every outting like this. J/K!!! Get the toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. Be a PS3 game guru.Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 "death grip"....haha.....Yeah, I am lucky because my daughter used to wander around and I could never sit at fireworks, beaches, picnics..you name it. Now she seems to "know" to stay near me though she never stops moving. She definitely wants what other kids have and recently cried at a birthday party where her friend opened a gift that she herself wanted. Ouch I have lost myself againLost myself and I am nowhere else to be found,Yeah I think that I might breakLost myself again and I feel unsafe Be my friendHold me, wrap me upUNFOLD meI am smalland needyWarm me upAnd breathe me Breathe Me (Sia)Download this song ( ) "never again" I say this every time we have an episode which is often--I say it to myself. I will never XYZ again ever. And then turn around and do. Parades. Every parade besides ONE so far I have said it. The one she was fine in was the one she was actually walking with the GS in. She did really well. Besdies being afraid of the dogs around. So I thought hey they are asking for kids in the parade, she will do well again. But this time on her bicycle. I dreaded it, worried, and panicked about it--what if I had to carry HER kicking and screaming and HER bicycle all the way back to the car to leave? Well she did great riding to the wait-in-line for the parade to start spot on her bicycle. Then she couldn't wait. I told her upfront the rules are listen closely to me, stay by me, wait in line or we leave. She started taking off on her bike so that was it--we left. She was fine as she got to ride back to the car. So I asked her do you want to watch the parade now? She said ok. So big sigh of relief--that was over and no meltdown yet. We normally have issues as the other kids are running in the road for treats and I have to keep ahold of dd at all times so she doesn't take off and leave. Or get run over! Today she was calm--knew that we didn't want the candy so left it for other kids, shared what candy landed at her feet. She was wonderful! Until the beach ball incident. I had picked up comics and other toys for dd so had my hands pretty full and had hold of dd's hand. The beach balls were thrown and dd got one and then dropped it--the wind blew it to the other side of us....when dd leapt forward and started running, she caught me offguard. We BOTh fell down HARD. Thank goodness we had on our Autism Awareness buttons as she was fighting me to let her go to get to the ball that was blown way way off. She is having a meltdown, I am trying to calm her. Finally she calmed a little, then someone gave her a beach ball. Bad idea. she kept dropping it, mommy needed more hands. It kept being an issue. Everyone around us were so kind and didn't seem bothered as people usually do. Even when the noises of the parade made her "hum" loudly. We seemed to draw the campaigning senators in the parade with our Autism Awareness buttons too. LOL WE are going to find a spot tonight to watch fireworks IN the car. Next time maybe we can for parades too! Off to put ice on my knee and elbow. The life of a hermit looks better after every outting like this. J/K!!! Get the toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. Be a PS3 game guru.Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 Yep! I just called someone yesterday to apologize and explain. She caught me offguard--I was distracted watching dd at softball making sure she didnt take off--and asked if we were coming to her dd's bday party. I said no, way too busy and that was that. Then I felt horrible and it has been on my mind ever since. I should have explained my reasoning! and thanked her for asking dd. I have always taken dd when she was invited to parties but now that her peers are older and more mature, I think they would be upset that all the attention is directed at dd or dd meltsdown and "ruins" the party,etc. I was thinking of the little girl's feelings and should have told her mom that. So I left a msg, hopefully I can talk to her and explain. Well we did get out and watch the fireworks this time and it was fine--I found a non-crowded spot. Dd griped the whole time b/c "everyone else has on long sleeves!!!!" I asked her if she wanted to leave She said no. I asked if she was cold, no. Everyone else didn't have on long sleeves, just a few and it wasn't even cold! It is the same if a child has popcorn, she wants popcorn, if a child has a coke, she wants one even tho she doesn't drink any sodas! She has tasted of my coke and disliked it!! Doesn't matter if she likes it or not, if another child has something she wants one too! Even a small baby! Makes her mom crazy. LOL I dread the teenage yrs! What is really frustrating to me is that she listens to nothing I say, I can't teach her social skills but she follows other children and does anything they do. When I try to teach her to swing by herself, she basically refuses and cries for me to push. But another child out there swinging, she asks for help to learn how! If only she had a sibling at home!!! It isn't just me, it is any adult. Children she listens to! She can be afraid of something and I say it is ok, she is still afraid of it. But if a child says it is ok! she goes along and tries it--like rides at an amusement park,etc . Makes me feel like dirt! I am her mom, shouldn't she have more faith in me to keep her safe ? Neylon <Lindee37@...> wrote: "death grip"....haha.....Yeah, I am lucky because my daughter used to wander around and I could never sit at fireworks, beaches, picnics..you name it. Now she seems to "know" to stay near me though she never stops moving. She definitely wants what other kids have and recently cried at a birthday party where her friend opened a gift that she herself wanted. Ouch I have lost myself againLost myself and I am nowhere else to be found,Yeah I think that I might breakLost myself again and I feel unsafe Be my friendHold me, wrap me upUNFOLD meI am smalland needyWarm me upAnd breathe me Breathe Me (Sia)Download this song ( ) "never again" I say this every time we have an episode which is often--I say it to myself. I will never XYZ again ever. And then turn around and do. Parades. Every parade besides ONE so far I have said it. The one she was fine in was the one she was actually walking with the GS in. She did really well. Besdies being afraid of the dogs around. So I thought hey they are asking for kids in the parade, she will do well again. But this time on her bicycle. I dreaded it, worried, and panicked about it--what if I had to carry HER kicking and screaming and HER bicycle all the way back to the car to leave? Well she did great riding to the wait-in-line for the parade to start spot on her bicycle. Then she couldn't wait. I told her upfront the rules are listen closely to me, stay by me, wait in line or we leave. She started taking off on her bike so that was it--we left. She was fine as she got to ride back to the car. So I asked her do you want to watch the parade now? She said ok. So big sigh of relief--that was over and no meltdown yet. We normally have issues as the other kids are running in the road for treats and I have to keep ahold of dd at all times so she doesn't take off and leave. Or get run over! Today she was calm--knew that we didn't want the candy so left it for other kids, shared what candy landed at her feet. She was wonderful! Until the beach ball incident. I had picked up comics and other toys for dd so had my hands pretty full and had hold of dd's hand. The beach balls were thrown and dd got one and then dropped it--the wind blew it to the other side of us....when dd leapt forward and started running, she caught me offguard. We BOTh fell down HARD. Thank goodness we had on our Autism Awareness buttons as she was fighting me to let her go to get to the ball that was blown way way off. She is having a meltdown, I am trying to calm her. Finally she calmed a little, then someone gave her a beach ball. Bad idea. she kept dropping it, mommy needed more hands. It kept being an issue. Everyone around us were so kind and didn't seem bothered as people usually do. Even when the noises of the parade made her "hum" loudly. We seemed to draw the campaigning senators in the parade with our Autism Awareness buttons too. LOL WE are going to find a spot tonight to watch fireworks IN the car. Next time maybe we can for parades too! Off to put ice on my knee and elbow. The life of a hermit looks better after every outting like this. J/K!!! Get the toolbar and be alerted to new email wherever you're surfing. Be a PS3 game guru.Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Luggage? GPS? Comic books? Check out fitting gifts for grads at Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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