Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Hi , I'm new here but I have a 4 year old son who has been in preschool since last year. It certainly was an adjustment period. The more information you can give the teachers -- the better. They'll need a lot of encouragment and you'll need to stand your ground. I had my feelings hurt a few times and still dread the coming year. Zack was fortunate to have two great teachers so I'm really praying this year goes well for him. Good luck to you! Angie > > Anyone out there with their Aspie children starting pre-school or > school for the first time this fall? > > How nervous are you? > > Hill > www.LovingMyHomeBiz.com > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 Oh...YES!!!!! I am dreading it....a is due to start a 3 day a week 1/2 day program....I hope we have a good teacher, But realistically...OMG! I am calling to see if she "got in" the program...and she better had! Then I am going to go take pictures and make her a photo album/book....I also want to meet the teacher........We are suppose to have another IEP meeting if/when she gets in.....so I will be meeting the new people (teacher/ot ect) But YES....I am so nervous! - C.Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID ( ) Anyone out there... Anyone out there with their Aspie children starting pre-school or school for the first time this fall?How nervous are you? Hillwww.LovingMyHomeBiz.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2007 Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 I was planning on holding him back because he's not quite ready socially, and gets aggressive (pushing mostly) when overloaded. Also, in California the cut off is Dec. 2, so he just barely makes it (his birthday is 11/7). But we are moving to Washington state next summer, and their cutoff is October 1. That means he will be the youngest kid in the class going forward. His psychologist (who is the one who gave us his diagnosis as well) basically told me that because of how my DS tested academically (he's basically already learned about 90% the Kindergarten curriculum on his own) that I would never be able to find appropriate placement for him if I held him back a year. The psychologist said if I held him back, and my DS kept picking up information at the current speed (which he's actually getting faster instead of slower), that by the time he went into Kindergarten he would be so bored he'd be causing trouble nonstop. <sigh> He told me straight out that at that point my only option would be to home school him for at least a couple years until he could try to get into mainstream education. That's NOT an option, since my husband and I run our own business that has to be done 9-5. It's a 1/2 day class, and the speech therapist for the school and the resource person are working to be sure he is placed with a teacher who is more flexible and able to deal with him (apparently only 1 teacher out of all 6-8 kindergarten teachers in the school meet that criteria). I was upfront with them about the fact that he will have problems with that many kids at once (which is when the district voluntarily offered the aide). Apparently other parents of high functioning kids in the district have been told that they don't do aides or social skills training, but both were offered to me by the district without prompting. The school psychologist was also adamant about him getting into school this year too (though I'd ignore her if my DS doctor thought he'd be better off waiting). It's SCARY! Not just the whole " my kid is going to kindergarten " but being afraid that he'll get overloaded and have a meltdown and they won't have a clue. If someone knows how to deal with him, meltdowns last 1-3 min. max. with no violence involved. If not, it could be a screaming, crying, kicking and hitting for 30 min. or more. ACK! Even thinking about it stresses me out and gives me ulcers. Okay, panic attack over...I need to get working on my letter to the principal and teacher and aide about what to expect and how to convince him that what they need to have done is what he felt like doing anyway. Thanks for letting me stress with all of you! > > > > Anyone out there with their Aspie children starting pre-school or > > school for the first time this fall? > > > > How nervous are you? > > > > Hill > > www.LovingMyHomeBiz.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2007 Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 My son's older, entering 5TH grade this Fall. However, I too am scared of what may happen. We are changing schools, and for the FIRST time attending PUBLIC school. I'm worried about the number of kids in his future class, and " fighting " the school board for a decent IEP. Academically he passes ( OLSAT 7.8 grade equivalent average ), but way below his potential because of his immaturity, social issues, senory issues and behavioral issues . All of these effect his academic performance. I just hope I can get the Special ED folks in our county to agree. ?? Supossed to meet with them this week. The private school he attended 1st-4th just can no longer accomodate him. Last year was a nightmare and his grades plummeted. I'm HOPING there are more resources available in our PUBLIC system- recommended by our therapist. ?? We have a private special needs school, but $10,000/yr I CANNOT AFFORD. If he gets an IEP next Fall he will qualify for a new State Bill that will match funds spent in public school towards private school tuiton, so hopefully he can attend the private specialty school 2008-2009 and thereafter until graduation. ?? I want him in Speech Therapy due to his pragmatics, selective mutism, and not being able to initiate or continue conversations. He was in private therapy before- but it was one-on-one and he actually eventually talked to the SLP. She said not AS, but sicne then we have learned differently, and she's not one to dx. or not dx. AS anyway. I feel he NEEDS group speech therapy to work on his conversational skills, and will ask about these services being provided to him thru the school next Fall. Does that make sense to you guys ? Kim Conner, 10yo, AS/ADD/ BP ? Seroquel, Risperdal Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2007 Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 My ds went to Kindergarten early. He has a September birthday and he made the cut off by one week or he would have to have been held back another year. We made the decision to put him ahead for two reasons. One, we were not happy with the pre-k program he was in. And two, the biggest reason, he was so far ahead academically. He would have been so bored to be held back regardless of social skill problems. You have to find a balancing act. At the time, I felt that "if" we decided we should hold him back, we would rather do it in Kindergarten than pre-k. But he did just fine and even with social skill problems, he needs the academic challenges or he would not only have social issues but also be bored. ] I like your idea of spending time there in the classroom. You should do that! I actually went once a month to meet with the "team" back then and discuss what was going on and also discuss his ABA program. So it's good to be involved. RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) Re: Anyone out there... My son is starting Kindergarten this year and I'm scared to death! Especially since there are 20 kids in the class and even with an Aide(who I have no experience with, so I'm not sure if it will be someonewith a clue as to how to handle my son) not sure he'll handle all thekids. However, his pyschologist told me straight out that if I didn't puthim in Kindergarten this year (he's 4 1/2 and will be one of theyoungest since his birthday is in November) that I would never findappropriate Kindergarten placement for him because he tested so highon the academics. The school agreed to an aide for him, plus small group social skillstherapy 2 times a week. I still think I'm going to send the first few days of the school yearactually IN his classroom observing and making sure the aide has aclue. I'm paranoid, since he was already kicked out of a preschoolbecause of aggression (before he was diagnosed) that was brought on byoverload (too many kids, too much noise).<sigh> Sorry for the long post!>> Anyone out there with their Aspie children starting pre-school or > school for the first time this fall?> > How nervous are you?> > Hill> www.LovingMyHomeBiz.com> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2007 Report Share Posted July 8, 2007 Luckily, he is very tall for his age and has most of the coordination to go with it. He's already reading some on his own and writing letters/words (current teacher says his writing skills are very good). Gross motor are a little behind, but unless they want to ride bikes at recess (which I don't think is an option) he should be okay. We'll be working with him on other gross motor skills (like ball catching), but since he's not interested in playing ball games with other kids and would rather play on a play structure or run around on the grass, I'm also hoping that won't be a huge issue for now. Overall, if it weren't for the social issues and chances of melt downs I'd be okay with him going. > > > > > > > > Anyone out there with their Aspie children > > starting pre-school or > > > > school for the first time this fall? > > > > > > > > How nervous are you? > > > > > > > > Hill > > > > www.LovingMyHomeBiz.com > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ > Take the Internet to Go: Go puts the Internet in your pocket: mail, news, photos & more. > http://mobile./go?refer=1GNXIC > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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