Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 My son who is now 15yrs old has always talked about having children. In fact he has made 2 harry potter blankets for his two children he will have some day. However he hasn't shown much interest in girls, much to my maternal relief as his sister is driving me crazy in that arena (liking boys).. hehe. I do think there is one girl he is interested in who is NT but also very smart like he is. She is very accepting of him and they are in the same biology group. My daughter asked the two if they liked each other and all the girl said was I am going to pretend I didn't hear that. My son had no response to the question. My son doesn't really talk about getting married much, doesn't like romantic stuff as he doesn't understand it. He does state however the wife (mother of his children) will have to change the diapers and wash dishes as he doesn't like to touch anything messy. I tried to inform him that this isn't the way to win a womans heart. Oh well. Tammy in IN On 5/28/08, genasu <genasu@...> wrote: Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they'd always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he'd get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that "she could get married someday, right?" I said yes, then he added "to someone who also has a disability?" and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she "wanted to kiss boys" (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, "I'll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out". I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family's basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter's teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 How sweet! ( ) autism and marraige Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they’d always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he’d get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that “she could get married someday, right?” I said yes, then he added “to someone who also has a disability?” and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she “wanted to kiss boys” (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, “I’ll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out”. I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family’s basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter’s teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 awwww!!! how adorable. please squish him for me. :-) jeanette From: C <justformom@...>Subject: Re: ( ) autism and marraige Date: Wednesday, May 28, 2008, 12:03 PM How sweet! ( ) autism and marraige Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they’d always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he’d get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that “she could get married someday, right?” I said yes, then he added “to someone who also has a disability?” and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she “wanted to kiss boys” (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, “I’ll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out”. I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family’s basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter’s teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 Tammy, As long as the wife is an old fashioned gal, perhaps it could work. I imagine our son, out of the blue declaring for someone very practically. Perhaps that will be how it is.. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 Maybe but I don't always see it like that... there is give and take... I guess he could give in other ways and as long as everyone is on the same page things can work out.On Wed, May 28, 2008 at 6:05 PM, genasu <genasu@...> wrote: Tammy, As long as the wife is an old fashioned gal, perhaps it could work. I imagine our son, out of the blue declaring for someone very practically. Perhaps that will be how it is.. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 My son also talked about getting married and having children. The only advice I gave him was that no matter the situation........buy her jewelry. So, I decided to have him practice the concept...... If your wife is upset what do you do? He said, Buy her jewelry. If you hurt her feelings? Buy her jewelry. When she has your baby? Buy her jewelry......he is patiently answering me. When she is sick? Buy her jewelry. When she is mad at you? He said, BREAK UP WITH HER. LOL. I said, Noooooo, no. Not the right answer. lol Wallbank - Wittmayer DOK Grace Chapter "Prayer without work is empty words,service without prayer is labor lost." Re: ( ) autism and marraige My son who is now 15yrs old has always talked about having children. In fact he has made 2 harry potter blankets for his two children he will have some day. However he hasn't shown much interest in girls, much to my maternal relief as his sister is driving me crazy in that arena (liking boys).. hehe. I do think there is one girl he is interested in who is NT but also very smart like he is. She is very accepting of him and they are in the same biology group. My daughter asked the two if they liked each other and all the girl said was I am going to pretend I didn't hear that. My son had no response to the question. My son doesn't really talk about getting married much, doesn't like romantic stuff as he doesn't understand it. He does state however the wife (mother of his children) will have to change the diapers and wash dishes as he doesn't like to touch anything messy. I tried to inform him that this isn't the way to win a womans heart. Oh well. Tammy in IN On 5/28/08, genasu <genasumylittle (DOT) org> wrote: Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they'd always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he'd get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that "she could get married someday, right?" I said yes, then he added "to someone who also has a disability?" and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she "wanted to kiss boys" (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, "I'll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out". I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family's basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter's teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2008 Report Share Posted May 28, 2008 My son didn't show real interest and acting on it with girls til about a month ago. He turned 18 end of March. He knew he just wasn't ready to deal with that and as he said, most girls are money sucks, expect too much and aren't very nice. Well, he is picky but of course, the girl has to be special to get along with him anyway. I'm happy that he's not rushing into relationships. He's finally at the point where he can develop friendships. Little at a time and patience is great. Deb S On 5/28/08, Wallbank <w_wittmayer@...> wrote: My son also talked about getting married and having children. The only advice I gave him was that no matter the situation........buy her jewelry. So, I decided to have him practice the concept...... If your wife is upset what do you do? He said, Buy her jewelry. If you hurt her feelings? Buy her jewelry. When she has your baby? Buy her jewelry......he is patiently answering me. When she is sick? Buy her jewelry. When she is mad at you? He said, BREAK UP WITH HER. LOL. I said, Noooooo, no. Not the right answer. lol Wallbank - Wittmayer DOK Grace Chapter " Prayer without work is empty words,service without prayer is labor lost. " Re: ( ) autism and marraige My son who is now 15yrs old has always talked about having children. In fact he has made 2 harry potter blankets for his two children he will have some day. However he hasn't shown much interest in girls, much to my maternal relief as his sister is driving me crazy in that arena (liking boys).. hehe. I do think there is one girl he is interested in who is NT but also very smart like he is. She is very accepting of him and they are in the same biology group. My daughter asked the two if they liked each other and all the girl said was I am going to pretend I didn't hear that. My son had no response to the question. My son doesn't really talk about getting married much, doesn't like romantic stuff as he doesn't understand it. He does state however the wife (mother of his children) will have to change the diapers and wash dishes as he doesn't like to touch anything messy. I tried to inform him that this isn't the way to win a womans heart. Oh well. Tammy in IN On 5/28/08, genasu <genasumylittle (DOT) org> wrote: Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they'd always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he'd get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that " she could get married someday, right? " I said yes, then he added " to someone who also has a disability? " and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she " wanted to kiss boys " (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, " I'll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out " . I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family's basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter's teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 29, 2008 Report Share Posted May 29, 2008 My ds is 19 yo. He has avoided girls for some time now. He says, "Girlfriends take all your money." I hope someday he will find one that will make him think less of his money and more of her. Who knows. It will take someone with a lot of patience if she is out there. I'm his mother and I don't always have enough for him. lol. Isn't that the truth, Roxanna! My 16 yo isn't interested yet in girls either. He says he's not going to get into any of that love stuff until he's older. In a way, it's a relief, let's get thru one phase at a time! One thing that I try to do is work into general chitchat things about dating, girls, manners, being a gentleman... My ds is very black and white about issues, and I usually have to go over things in greater detail than you normally would think necessary. He's low on the common sense, too. When he was younger, he was very impressionable regarding TV shows. The Rugrats were banned in the house for a long time because he started acting like ! Now I try to keep a close eye on what he watches and I'll run some commentary about how things are really like that. Some of the ways relationships are depicted on TV are far from reality. Even the sassy sarcastic banter is an issue we occasionally have to squash. Although sometimes it may feel like it, life is not a sitcom! Mims Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they'd always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he'd get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that "she could get married someday, right?" I said yes, then he added "to someone who also has a disability?" and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she "wanted to kiss boys" (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, "I'll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out". I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family's basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter's teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 269.24.1/1470 - Release Date: 5/28/2008 7:20 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2008 Report Share Posted May 30, 2008 My ds is 19 yo. He has avoided girls for some time now. He says, "Girlfriends take all your money." LOL, Spoken just like a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wallbank - Wittmayer DOK Grace Chapter "Prayer without work is empty words,service without prayer is labor lost." Re: ( ) autism and marraige My ds is 19 yo. He has avoided girls for some time now. He says, "Girlfriends take all your money." I hope someday he will find one that will make him think less of his money and more of her. Who knows. It will take someone with a lot of patience if she is out there. I'm his mother and I don't always have enough for him. lol. Isn't that the truth, Roxanna! My 16 yo isn't interested yet in girls either. He says he's not going to get into any of that love stuff until he's older. In a way, it's a relief, let's get thru one phase at a time! One thing that I try to do is work into general chitchat things about dating, girls, manners, being a gentleman... My ds is very black and white about issues, and I usually have to go over things in greater detail than you normally would think necessary. He's low on the common sense, too. When he was younger, he was very impressionable regarding TV shows. The Rugrats were banned in the house for a long time because he started acting like ! Now I try to keep a close eye on what he watches and I'll run some commentary about how things are really like that. Some of the ways relationships are depicted on TV are far from reality. Even the sassy sarcastic banter is an issue we occasionally have to squash. Although sometimes it may feel like it, life is not a sitcom! Mims Our son (AS) yesterday evening said that when he wants to get married (he is 9 now and adorable), he wants to find the most expensive ring he can find (calmly I explained how much a reasonable ring costs – I chuckle to think he would marry a gal with ADD also with that expensive ring – they'd always be looking for it together) and he wanted to know how much mine cost and if it was a real diamond, I explained it is more of a chip but it is real and only if all your other bills are paid, have your own place, etc., should you pay a lot for a ring. He then said, maybe he'd get a fake (I set him straight on this) J Then he said if he were to ask someone to marry him he would take her to a nice dinner and put the ring on a breadstick and offer it to her and then ask her to marry him. AWWWW. Then this morning, he was talking about his sister, with autism, and that "she could get married someday, right?" I said yes, then he added "to someone who also has a disability?" and I said probably. She now likes a boy who goes to her school and our church who has autism - just friends of course. She informed me the other day she "wanted to kiss boys" (she is 8) Oh my! Fortunately, the friend says no. YEA! Anyway, our son said, if they were to get married someday, "I'll send them (hmmm, as he thought) about $50 a month so they could get things they need to help them out". I told him about a couple I knew who had a son who was married (unsure of either of their disabilities – but including autism) and they would both get on a bus to the sheltered workshop and come home and help their family they lived with get dinner and chores. The young couple lived in their family's basement. But they were a happy family – full of love. WOW. We had attended a very nice wedding and reception over the weekend of one of our daughter's teachers (8 attendants each) perhaps that is what brought it up. Regina No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG. Version: 8.0.100 / Virus Database: 269.24.1/1470 - Release Date: 5/28/2008 7:20 AM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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