Guest guest Posted July 12, 2007 Report Share Posted July 12, 2007 That is too bad...and sad Maybe the nephew could go visit his grandparents for a week by himself soon so that he can have his week with them, too? Maybe that way he wouldn't think that they just didn't want him around. > > I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! > Lori > > > --------------------------------- > Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2007 Report Share Posted July 12, 2007 That's awful But you're nicer than me, I'd have said something and dropped both off. That's awesome though that he's having fun with you, he probably likes his special time! rhondagenealogy wrote: That is too bad...and sad Maybe the nephew could go visit his grandparents for a week by himself soon so that he can have his week with them, too? Maybe that way he wouldn't think that they just didn't want him around. > > I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! > Lori > > > --------------------------------- > Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2007 Report Share Posted July 12, 2007 It IS too bad,,,,,,,but at least she's admitting, in a round-about way, that it would be too much for her. It sounds like he's fine at home with you and does great!!! Do you think he WILL feel left out? Or can you say it's "alone time" for you two. Can his gramma handle him for 1 of the days? That way he gets to be there to visit and be a part of it all? I'd also say that your niece shouldn't be there the WHOLE time. Maybe a few days???? I guess it depends on how your nephew is viewing this..... Also,,,,can you be with them all for some of the outings? That way, if things get a little crazy, their gramma won't feel overwhelmed having to deal with everyone AND him? I'm trying to stay open-minded about her not wanting him there...........it's hard, though. I do know, though, that I even get overwhelmed by my son,,,,,and he's MY son. SO,,,,,for a gramma or anyone to think it's too much,,,,,is kind of perfectly understandable. Good luck. Keep us posted. Robinrhondagenealogy <rhondac@...> wrote: That is too bad...and sad :(Maybe the nephew could go visit his grandparents for a week by himself soon so that he can have his week with them, too? Maybe that way he wouldn't think that they just didn't want him around.>> I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! > Lori> > > ---------------------------------> Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection.> Choose the right car based on your needs. Check out Autos new Car Finder tool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2007 Report Share Posted July 13, 2007 So very sad. It's even worse when the people who are supposed to care the most can so easily and breezily inflict such hurt! She just can't understand about Aspergers and expect the 8 year old to not take this very personally. Especially when he's old enough to understand. Things are so black and white with my son that he'd automatically think they hated him. I know in hindsight vision is 20/20, but I too would have either brought both of them there, OR (and yep, have had to do this before!) not let either one go. 50/50 custody or "shared custody" is not a buffet where you get to pick and choose when you get to/have to be the parent. 50/50 custody, 100% parent. I'm so sorry you've both had to deal with this. Give us an update, okay?Donna B <donnabzy@...> wrote: That's awful But you're nicer than me, I'd have said something and dropped both off. That's awesome though that he's having fun with you, he probably likes his special time!rhondagenealogy wrote: That is too bad...and sad :(Maybe the nephew could go visit his grandparents for a week by himself soon so that he can have his week with them, too? Maybe that way he wouldn't think that they just didn't want him around.>> I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! > Lori> > > ---------------------------------> Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection.> Need Mail bonding?Go to the Q&A for great tips from Answers users. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2007 Report Share Posted July 14, 2007 *sigh* that happens all too often. sadly that sounds like how my dad used to be, and still is at times. luckily though we don't live with him and my mom's family is so supportive. they take my brother all the time when we need a babysitter or if he just wants to be with them, they're great. start telling the grandma that if she only takes the the boy where he likes and doesn't want to spend time with him he's only going to expect goodies when he sees her. that's hwo it was with my dad and brotehr for a LONG time. my brother didn't really care about my dad unless there was food or movies involved *sigh* but they finally started having boys' weekends and they started bonding, and now ben wants to go over just b/c he misses his daddy best of luck to you! > > I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! > Lori > > > --------------------------------- > Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2007 Report Share Posted July 15, 2007 Wow, that is really cruel to leave a kid out. She should plan things that the majority will enjoy and at least give him a choice. I would be upset about it too! RoxannaAutism Happens ( ) irritated with family I have shared custody of my 4 yr old niece and my 8 yr old aspie nephew. I share custody with their paternal grandparents. Normally she is good about taking the kids on her weekends but this week I am irritated. She has alot of company and ALL of the grandchildren are there spending the week including my niece and nephew's brother and sister. She asked for the my niece but preferred to not have my nephew this week. They were going to different places and said he would not enjoy them. Sounds to me like she didn't want to mess with him. He has been here with me all week and has been exceptionally good with out his sister here. We have done lots of stuff. I feel bad for him not being included. Just venting! Thanks! Lori Get the free toolbar and rest assured with the added security of spyware protection. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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