Re: [SPAM]child that is violent (i need to know if anyone has suggestions)

[Guest guest]

I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it private so he must want others to know that there are serious things bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.

It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows this to just snowball into something really serious.

[sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need to know if anyone has suggestions)

My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was more violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or if any one else has seen this before.Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.Story by ds:IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them. and choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a soccer shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the shoe. and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls off. and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there balls. and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it up there balls.this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They have ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once last year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights at school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all fights he claimed that the children were calling him names and he got angry. The school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and all I see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him and he honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school because the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child he hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned about this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't know how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have bought out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented all to no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or such. The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy and everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling him this all summer and just now he sees it. so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when every one that talks to him say's he is just fine?

[Guest guest]

I hope everyone see this that has given me great advise. I thank all

of you. I took his writting assignment to his counselor outside of

school on friday, he was not in that day. He responded this morning

when he got to work and made some calls to childrens crises center

and other agencies. He informed me that I should have my son taken to

a pshc ward for evaluation. After speaking to him I made the calls

to such hospitals and was informed that all were filled, so no such

luck there. I then toke the letter I had written for the school

about ds behavior and that I had on numerous occasions told them

about his aggressive behavior so now this is in writting in his file.

I also showed the principal the letter and she informed me that ds

was very smart and creative and there was not need to worry about

such writtings. She also told me that they do not see such behavior

in school and it was just a home issue. I informed her that if I

could keep my child in a educational setting for the rest of his life

and insure that no one picks on him he would do fine. But in real

life my child will have to deal with people that do not conform to

his way of thinking and he will have to learn to deal with these

conflicts without inflecting pain on someone. Jobs, Friends,

Marriage, children. My child at this point of time can not figure

out how to do simple chores without someone telling him step by step

and if he can not perform such assignment he get easily fustrated and

gets violent. Today perfect example ds tring to wash dishes could

not figure out how to get dried food of fork refused to wash the

iteam, the babysitter insisted so he took said fork and stabbed at

her with it. He did it in a threatening way probably to scare her

which he susceded in doing but she refused to show him her fear and

enforced his washing the fork. If she had been closer he might have

stabbed her with it. Or worse yet if my younger son who is three

been near him ds would have gone after him with the fork. Not

wanting to sound so down on ds but I want to help him and by

pretending nothing is wrong is not going to get me anywhere.

SORRY FOR RAMBLING ON LIKE THIS. BUT I SEE WHERE MY SON IS HEADING

AND I SO WANT TO STOP IT.

>

> I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has

written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it

helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it

private so he must want others to know that there are serious things

bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should

take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.

>

> It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows

this to just snowball into something really serious.

>

>

> [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need

to know if anyone has suggestions)

>

>

> My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was

more

> violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or

if

> any one else has seen this before.

>

> Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.

>

> Story by ds:

>

> IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?

>

> If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them.

and

> choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a

soccer

> shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the

shoe.

> and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls

off.

> and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there

balls.

> and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it

up

> there balls.

>

> this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They

have

> ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once

last

> year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights

at

> school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he

> actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all

fights he

> claimed that the children were calling him names and he got

angry. The

> school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and

all I

> see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him

and he

> honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school

because

> the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child

he

> hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am

> worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned

about

> this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't

know

> how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start

> spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have

bought

> out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented

all to

> no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or

such.

> The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy

and

> everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling

him this

> all summer and just now he sees it.

>

> so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there

> something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when

every

> one that talks to him say's he is just fine?

>

[Guest guest]

You're doing awesome!!!! The principal sounds like an idiot. At least the counselor understands.....and has started some things. So,,,,,,,,are you on a waiting list for some place? I'm sorry....I don't quite understand. I didn't realize they could turn a person away? What about going to the ER with your story? They'd have to admit, I think. Just to be safe. Also,,,,,,,,my mom works at an intake for the city and they get all kinds of people with diff issues and a biggie is when people threaten to hurt or kill either themselves or someone else. Maybe you could call the County Mental Health facility? Good job, though, for getting a "paper trail" for the school. I'm sure you must be emotionally exhausted. But,,,,,,,,you are a great mom and doing what has to be done to help your son. Hugs. Robintozuelke

<TOZuelke@...> wrote: I hope everyone see this that has given me great advise. I thank all of you. I took his writting assignment to his counselor outside of school on friday, he was not in that day. He responded this morning when he got to work and made some calls to childrens crises center and other agencies. He informed me that I should have my son taken to a pshc ward for evaluation. After speaking to him I made the calls to such hospitals and was informed that all were filled, so no such luck there. I then toke the letter

I had written for the school about ds behavior and that I had on numerous occasions told them about his aggressive behavior so now this is in writting in his file. I also showed the principal the letter and she informed me that ds was very smart and creative and there was not need to worry about such writtings. She also told me that they do not see such behavior in school and it was just a home issue. I informed her that if I could keep my child in a educational setting for the rest of his life and insure that no one picks on him he would do fine. But in real life my child will have to deal with people that do not conform to his way of thinking and he will have to learn to deal with these conflicts without inflecting pain on someone. Jobs, Friends, Marriage, children. My child at this point of time can not figure out how to do simple chores without someone telling him step by step and if he can not perform such

assignment he get easily fustrated and gets violent. Today perfect example ds tring to wash dishes could not figure out how to get dried food of fork refused to wash the iteam, the babysitter insisted so he took said fork and stabbed at her with it. He did it in a threatening way probably to scare her which he susceded in doing but she refused to show him her fear and enforced his washing the fork. If she had been closer he might have stabbed her with it. Or worse yet if my younger son who is three been near him ds would have gone after him with the fork. Not wanting to sound so down on ds but I want to help him and by pretending nothing is wrong is not going to get me anywhere.SORRY FOR RAMBLING ON LIKE THIS. BUT I SEE WHERE MY SON IS HEADING AND I SO WANT TO STOP IT. >> I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it private so he must want others to know that there are serious things bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.> > It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows this to just snowball into something really serious. > > > [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need to know if anyone has

suggestions)> > > My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was more > violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or if > any one else has seen this before.> > Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.> > Story by ds:> > IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?> > If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them. and > choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a soccer > shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the shoe. > and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls off. > and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there balls. > and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it up > there balls.> > this worries me since the school says he

has no problems. They have > ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once last > year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights at > school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he > actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all fights he > claimed that the children were calling him names and he got angry. The > school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and all I > see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him and he > honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school because > the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child he > hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am > worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned about > this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but

don't know > how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start > spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have bought > out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented all to > no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or such. > The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy and > everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling him this > all summer and just now he sees it. > > so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there > something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when every > one that talks to him say's he is just fine?> __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

First, you need a doctor. A psychiatrist, not a counsler. And soon.

Inpatient therapy may be needed in this case.

Behavioral therapy helped my son respond to stress and anger

differently. It also taught him to express himself. He went for three

years but is also on mood stabelizers. Spanking is NOT the answer. It

teaches that violence is ok to use as a response (or reflex.) Our

psychiatrist recommends a room containing nothing with a lock on the

door as punishment for unacceptable behavor. (with a time limit of

course) After the child calms down where he can be spoken to,

explaining alternative ways to react to anger and disappointment need

to be expressed.

Good luck

Ang

> >

> > I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has

> written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it

> helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it

> private so he must want others to know that there are serious

things

> bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they

should

> take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.

> >

> > It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that

allows

> this to just snowball into something really serious.

> >

> >

> > [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need

> to know if anyone has suggestions)

> >

> >

> > My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was

> more

> > violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or

> if

> > any one else has seen this before.

> >

> > Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.

> >

> > Story by ds:

> >

> > IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?

> >

> > If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them.

> and

> > choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a

> soccer

> > shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the

> shoe.

> > and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls

> off.

> > and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there

> balls.

> > and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it

> up

> > there balls.

> >

> > this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They

> have

> > ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once

> last

> > year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights

> at

> > school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he

> > actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all

> fights he

> > claimed that the children were calling him names and he got

> angry. The

> > school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and

> all I

> > see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him

> and he

> > honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school

> because

> > the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child

> he

> > hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am

> > worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned

> about

> > this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't

> know

> > how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start

> > spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have

> bought

> > out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented

> all to

> > no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or

> such.

> > The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy

> and

> > everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling

> him this

> > all summer and just now he sees it.

> >

> > so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there

> > something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when

> every

> > one that talks to him say's he is just fine?

> >

>

>

>

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, I think I replied earlier but just in case: have you tried your

local mental health center? He really needs to be seen by someone.

And this will also give you a paper trail in case at some point

someone does get hurt, whether in the family or outside the family.

Will show you sought help, etc. And hopefully local center will

have someone who can help.

Is he on medication? I just ask because I know it's helped a lot of

children with impulsive actions. Luckily my son hasn't had that

problem but I do identify a lot with his not realizing how to do

simple chores and the frustration (his and mine; probably more mine,

LOL) with that.

>

> I hope everyone see this that has given me great advise. I thank

all

> of you. I took his writting assignment to his counselor outside

of

> school on friday, he was not in that day. He responded this

morning

> when he got to work and made some calls to childrens crises center

> and other agencies. He informed me that I should have my son taken

[Guest guest]

Hi, Good for you!!! Sometimes it takes rambling to get people to listen. So, On this aspergers support group. it helps. and people here do listen and try to give you their support and advice. I've read from others who gave you awesome advice, and I see from reading your post, your going in the right direction. did you get that in writing? where you said:> I also showed the principal the letter - did you get her response in writing? I would, and keep it in my file with the other letters. Good luck with your paper trail!!! You are doing a great job... Please keep us posted on what the Dr's say at the hospital. You will also be helping another parents who are also going through this... Hugs Rosetozuelke <TOZuelke@...> wrote: I hope everyone see this that has given me great advise. I thank all of you. I took his writting assignment to his counselor outside of school on friday, he was not in that day. He responded this morning when he got to work and made some calls to childrens crises center and other agencies. He informed me that I should have my son taken to a pshc ward for evaluation. After speaking to him I made the calls to such hospitals and was informed that all were filled, so no such luck there. I then toke the letter I had written for the school about ds behavior and that I had on numerous occasions told them about his aggressive

behavior so now this is in writting in his file. I also showed the principal the letter and she informed me that ds was very smart and creative and there was not need to worry about such writtings. She also told me that they do not see such behavior in school and it was just a home issue. I informed her that if I could keep my child in a educational setting for the rest of his life and insure that no one picks on him he would do fine. But in real life my child will have to deal with people that do not conform to his way of thinking and he will have to learn to deal with these conflicts without inflecting pain on someone. Jobs, Friends, Marriage, children. My child at this point of time can not figure out how to do simple chores without someone telling him step by step and if he can not perform such assignment he get easily fustrated and gets violent. Today perfect example ds tring to wash dishes could not figure out

how to get dried food of fork refused to wash the iteam, the babysitter insisted so he took said fork and stabbed at her with it. He did it in a threatening way probably to scare her which he susceded in doing but she refused to show him her fear and enforced his washing the fork. If she had been closer he might have stabbed her with it. Or worse yet if my younger son who is three been near him ds would have gone after him with the fork. Not wanting to sound so down on ds but I want to help him and by pretending nothing is wrong is not going to get me anywhere.SORRY FOR RAMBLING ON LIKE THIS. BUT I SEE WHERE MY SON IS HEADING AND I SO WANT TO STOP IT. >> I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has written stories like that but

online in a private blog. She says it helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it private so he must want others to know that there are serious things bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.> > It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows this to just snowball into something really serious. > > > [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need to know if anyone has suggestions)> > > My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was more > violent then all the others please read and tell me

what to do or if > any one else has seen this before.> > Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.> > Story by ds:> > IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?> > If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them. and > choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a soccer > shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the shoe. > and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls off. > and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there balls. > and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it up > there balls.> > this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They have > ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once last > year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into

two fights at > school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he > actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all fights he > claimed that the children were calling him names and he got angry. The > school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and all I > see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him and he > honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school because > the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child he > hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am > worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned about > this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't know > how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start > spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have bought

> out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented all to > no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or such. > The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy and > everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling him this > all summer and just now he sees it. > > so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there > something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when every > one that talks to him say's he is just fine?> __________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Well now I am really ticked off at the district and the so called

staff. I took ds evaluation into my Psycholigist and and he read it

and pointed out his concerns:

Percentile Rank

Passage Comprehension 30 But spelling he ranked at98

Arithmetic 37 Reading he ranked at 84

Planning 45

Attention 25

Block Design 85 which is low average

Understanding Directions35 Reading Fluency is at 78

Visual Perception 18

Motor Coordination 5

My child ranges in Age Equiv. From 11 yr and 4 months to 7 yrs and 7

months. in all testings.

He scored from Very Superior to Low Average in these testings also.

They told me that he did not need special help he was on track. But

it seems to me that they are setting him up for failure because if a

child does not comprehend what he reads or what others are telling

him what to do then each grade level he will get worse until his self

confidense is so distroyed that no one will ever get through to him.

now I know where alot of his anger is comning from.

>

> I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has

written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it

helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it

private so he must want others to know that there are serious things

bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should

take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.

>

> It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows

this to just snowball into something really serious.

>

>

> [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need

to know if anyone has suggestions)

>

>

> My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was

more

> violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or

if

> any one else has seen this before.

>

> Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.

>

> Story by ds:

>

> IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?

>

> If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them.

and

> choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a

soccer

> shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the

shoe.

> and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls

off.

> and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there

balls.

> and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it

up

> there balls.

>

> this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They

have

> ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once

last

> year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights

at

> school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he

> actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all

fights he

> claimed that the children were calling him names and he got

angry. The

> school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and

all I

> see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him

and he

> honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school

because

> the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child

he

> hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am

> worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned

about

> this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't

know

> how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start

> spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have

bought

> out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented

all to

> no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or

such.

> The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy

and

> everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling

him this

> all summer and just now he sees it.

>

> so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there

> something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when

every

> one that talks to him say's he is just fine?

>

[Guest guest]

Please don't take this the wrong way, but based upon your Son's

creative writting story for school... something like this link might

get their attention. http://yourlittleprofessor.com/bullying.html

My Son who was getting bullied in Kindergarten and early this year

in 1st grade began mentioning he wished he wasn't alive... that

didn't click with the school so I also gave them a copy of this plus

some other articles (shortly before the Virginia Tech incident). My

requests for help from the school are documented. My Son's creative

writting picture story was about a kid that took a pencil away from

another while calling saying " you're weird " with a picture of the

first boy saying " hey give that back " . He says it didn't happen to

him, but I don't know how else he would have come up with it.

Regards,

Bill

> >

> > I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and

has

> written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says

it

> helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it

> private so he must want others to know that there are serious

things

> bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they

should

> take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.

> >

> > It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that

allows

> this to just snowball into something really serious.

> >

> >

> > [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i

need

> to know if anyone has suggestions)

> >

> >

> > My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one

was

> more

> > violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do

or

> if

> > any one else has seen this before.

> >

> > Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.

> >

> > Story by ds:

> >

> > IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?

> >

> > If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate

them.

> and

> > choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get

a

> soccer

> > shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with

the

> shoe.

> > and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there

balls

> off.

> > and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there

> balls.

> > and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve

it

> up

> > there balls.

> >

> > this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They

> have

> > ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once

> last

> > year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two

fights

> at

> > school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights

he

> > actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all

> fights he

> > claimed that the children were calling him names and he got

> angry. The

> > school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and

> all I

> > see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to

him

> and he

> > honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at

school

> because

> > the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the

child

> he

> > hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I

am

> > worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned

> about

> > this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't

> know

> > how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to

start

> > spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I

have

> bought

> > out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have

implemented

> all to

> > no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or

> such.

> > The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy

> and

> > everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling

> him this

> > all summer and just now he sees it.

> >

> > so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there

> > something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when

> every

> > one that talks to him say's he is just fine?

> >

>

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Bill, I checked out your site you posted even though it wasn't for me but needed to peek. It had lots of helpful information. I'm not seeing this as a problem for my kids, but this helps to see what to look for. it also has many other helpful links to read. thanks for posting. RoseBill Bilkey <billbilkey@...> wrote: Please don't take this the wrong way, but based upon your Son's creative writting story for school... something like this link might get their attention. http://yourlittleprofessor.com/bullying.html My Son who was getting bullied in Kindergarten and early this year in 1st grade began mentioning he wished he wasn't alive... that didn't click with the school so I also gave them a copy of this plus some other articles (shortly before the Virginia Tech incident). My requests for help from the school are documented. My Son's creative writting picture story was about a kid that took a pencil away from another while calling saying "you're weird" with a picture of the first boy saying "hey give that back". He says it didn't happen to him, but I don't know how else he would have come up with it.Regards,Bill> >> > I think that you are not over reacting. My daughter is 16 and has > written stories like that but online in a private blog. She says it > helps her to vent..This is his way to vent. He is not keeping it > private so he must want others to know that there are serious things > bothering him. I think since this was written in school, they should > take it seriously and I can't understand how the aren't already.> > > > It is apparent that you are concerned and not a parent that allows > this to just snowball into something really serious.

> > > > > > [sPAM]( ) child that is violent (i need > to know if anyone has suggestions)> > > > > > My son wrote a story for school (creative writtings) this one was > more > > violent then all the others please read and tell me what to do or > if > > any one else has seen this before.> > > > Keep in mind that ds is only eight years old.> > > > Story by ds:> > > > IF SOME WAS BEING MEAN TO YOU WHAT COULD YOU DO?> > > > If somebody was mean to me I would get a bag and sufficate them. > and > >

choke them and get a knife and cut them. and then I would get a > soccer > > shoe with spikes at the bottom of the shoe and wack them with the > shoe. > > and kick them in there balls. and get a knife and cut there balls > off. > > and then get a gun and then shoot them in there eyes and there > balls. > > and then shoot them in there eyes again get a stick and shuve it > up > > there balls.> > > > this worries me since the school says he has no problems. They > have > > ignored him chocking a child on the playground twice now, once > last > > year and then once this year. ds son has gotten into two fights > at > > school and three fight in the neighbor hood. One of the fights he > > actully picked up a scate board and hit a child with it. all > fights he > > claimed

that the children were calling him names and he got > angry. The > > school pscholigist has said he has no problems socializing and > all I > > see is violence when something angers him. I have talked to him > and he > > honestly told me he wanted to hurt a particular child at school > because > > the child gets on his nerves. he showed no concern for the child > he > > hit with scate board and told me it did not hurt the child. I am > > worried but it seems that I am the only one that is concerned > about > > this behavior and his writtings. I want to help him but don't > know > > how. I have talked to his counselor and he has told me to start > > spanking him since other methods have not worked so far. I have > bought > > out barnes and noble of all parenting books and have implemented

> all to > > no availe. But still counselor says it must be from movies or > such. > > The counselor did say that he could tell that ds lacks empathy > and > > everything is centered around him. NO DUH! I have been telling > him this > > all summer and just now he sees it. > > > > so question is am I over reacting to this writting or is there > > something to be concerned about and if so where do I turn when > every > > one that talks to him say's he is just fine?> >> __________________________________________________