Guest guest Posted November 7, 2007 Report Share Posted November 7, 2007 kirsten: the symptoms can be as varied with adults as they are with children and personality has an impact. i can only speak with authority about my personal situation and mean no disrespect to other persons with the disorder. and let me first say, he is an excellent provider. he is extremely book smart, excels at math and remembers everything he has ever read, even in grade school. he goes to work and works hard, that is his top priority. (he asked me to schedule my cesarian section around his work cycle, if i wanted him to be there) but when he comes home, he offers little in the way of assistance. he likes to write the checks to pay the bills and he will put out the garbage. he has learned to bbq over the years so will do so on a sunday, if the weather is comfortable and when his mother is over for dinner, he will wash the dishes. mostly however, he is off in his own world when he is at home. he spends his time at the computer playing games, watching sports and david letterman, or working on work he brought home and frequently naps. if i ask him for help, he offers little, by staying put (watching the tv or playing his game) and nodding his head in agreement to whatever i say. if i need him physically, i must wait until the game he is playing is over--because he may beat his top score. when we first got married, (23 years ago) his peculiar behaviour grew more peculiar and he showed anger more and more. he behaved at home like i wasn't even there. like he would come to bed at night after i was there and sleeping. he would turn on the lights and tv as loud as he wanted or the radio. when i complained he would tell me it shouldn't bother me. he was impatient--could not wait in a line and tried desperately to keep the world away closing all the curtains, hating the neighbors. when the neighbor kids bounced a ball, the sound of the pounding drove him crazy mad. even though he was not mad at me necessarily, he behaved angrily, so i felt the sting. when i would talk to him about things, he would deny my observations and tell me i was wrong. awhile back, i told him i was leaving, i could no longer take the anger. he promised he would get help if i stayed. i agreed to try and he went to his general practioner and was given an prescription for paxil for anxiety. i remember thinking anxiety? is that all really. i was not too hopeful. however, with the paxil he is much more even, almost never angry. so tolerable. his ongoing symptoms include wierd eye contact, he will look at me when we talk, but it is more a blank stare. he has little facial expression except when he is in discomfort or angry. he lacks empathy toward me and the girls. if HE isn't feeling something, he cannot comprehend how we could be feeling something. but strangely, he will cry at sad movies and stories. he has intense interest in astronomy and computer games. socially he is awkward but learned that repeating david letterman jokes makes people laugh so he does that or he makes up his own jokes. his jokes are NOT good and he will share them with my daughters even though they are very inappropriate. he doesn't realize this even though i have told him. he has little common sense. he is clumsy, knocking into things. has no sense of degrees of pressure or volume. for example if you tell him to press a button he will use full force and can break it. he talks very loudly but is sensitive to low deep noises like drums or balls bouncing on the pavement. in fact he does everything loudly, even eating. i swear you can hear him eat bread from the next room--we joke that he must have speakers in his cheeks or something. and paper--he leaves a trail of fureled paper everywhere he goes (like charlie brown's pigpen, only with paper). he likes samesness (before paxil, he insisted on it). he wants the same shirt and the same shoes and the same socks and the same deodorant the same shampoo the same chair, same same same. he is a pack rat, doesn't want to get rid of anything. he has to be first-- even when driving a car, when we stop at a light or sign, he will roll forward to be ahead of the cars in the lane next to him. he does not like crowds. his father told me, as a infant he would cry alot and his body would be stiff as a board. and as a toddler in the play pen, he would bang his head on the floor. this is all i can think of. hope it helps. regards, melody > > > > > >Hi again, > > > > > What makes me think she does fit AS is her social skills and > odd > > > > > behaviour, but I have been putting a lot of effort into > teaching > > > her > > > > > the stop,think and do method , she then can use this method at > > > school > > > > > to cope with playing succesfully with her peers (we hope) and > > > stop > > > > > herself before she thinks about any inapropiate behaviour. > Also > > > she > > > > > attends a social skills group once a week. > > > > > What makes me think she hasn't is that change has no bother to > > > her, > > > > > she is not overly focused on one thing or subject, not a fussy > > > eating > > > > > or senitive to clothes or loud nosies. Has not had any > problems > > > when > > > > > she was a baby/toddler,hand writting is very neat and tidy, > and > > > she > > > > > is doing very well at school with her school work, doesn't > have > > > > > repetive behaviour.All these things are all that I can > remember > > > from > > > > > reading net that I'm using to explain this to you all.I may > have > > > > > missed a few!! > > > > > The odd behaviour is that she would for example be sitting > next > > > to a > > > > > peer at school then all of a sudden scribby on his arm for no > > > reason, > > > > > picks her nose, licks the window in her class room, spitting > > > water > > > > > from the taps onto the floors outside, wondering the play > area at > > > > > lunch time alone prenting someone is chasing her,just very > > > annoying > > > > > to some of the other kids at times, but could all this still > mean > > > > > that she isn't AS or has she crossed the line with her > behaviour. > > > > > Every child can be cheeky at times maybe the school is over > > > reacting > > > > > or she just needs to learn whats apropiate and how to play or > > > say to > > > > > her peers to join into a game or group?? > > > > > > > > > > > Hi there all, > > > > > > My 7.5 year daughter has had problems with social skills > since > > > in 4 > > > > > > year old kinder, but the last 6 months since she has been in > > > grade > > > > > 1 > > > > > > has been a nightmare with some odd behaviour problems and > not > > > being > > > > > > able to socialize at school. We managed to get a appointment > > > with > > > > > a > > > > > > very highly rated psychologist who majors in children with > AS > > > and > > > > > she > > > > > > came to a conclusion after a 1 hour assesment with my > daughter > > > and > > > > > a 3 > > > > > > hour interview with myself that she was AS. But I just don't > > > > > agree?? > > > > > > Very confused at the moment!! > > > > > > Could she just have of got it wrong?? Look if she has thats > > > fine we > > > > > > will deal with it but I'm not convinced at the moment. So > > > today we > > > > > are > > > > > > getting a second option with another psychologist who still > > > deals > > > > > with > > > > > > children and doesn't major in AS, is local and not so highly > > > > > rated!!, > > > > > > but is still knows her stuff. Sometimes I feel that you are > > > doing > > > > > the > > > > > > right thing by getting the best of the best but beause she > > > > > specializes > > > > > > in AS maybe it was just very easy for for to say yes??? > > > > > > Does anyone feel that there diagnosis was wrong and after a > > > second > > > > > > option was found that it was something else?? > > > > > > Thanks for listening Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ********************Confidentiality Notice******************** > > > > This message is intended for the sole use of the individual and entity to whom it is addressed, and may contain information that is privileged, confidential and exempt from disclosure under applicable law. Any unauthorized review, use, disclosure or distribution of this email message, including any attachment, is prohibited. If you are not the intended recipient, please advise the sender by reply email and destroy all copies of the original message. 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Guest guest Posted November 7, 2007 Report Share Posted November 7, 2007 Melody, That sounds like a very difficult life for him, your daughers and especially you. Was your husband ever officially diagnosed? Did they do anything to help him when he was younger? And, more directly, how do you deal with this? This must get very frustrating for you. He's lucky to have someone so committed. On 11/7/07, Melody <mkalomiris@...> wrote: kirsten:the symptoms can be as varied with adults as they are with children and personality has an impact. i can only speak with authority about my personal situation and mean no disrespect to other persons with the disorder.and let me first say, he is an excellent provider. he is extremely book smart, excels at math and remembers everything he has ever read, even in grade school. he goes to work and works hard, that is his top priority. (he asked me to schedule my cesarian section around his work cycle, if i wanted him to be there) but when he comes home, he offers little in the way of assistance. he likes to write the checks to pay the bills and he will put out the garbage. he has learned to bbq over the years so will do so on a sunday, if the weather is comfortable and when his mother is over for dinner, he will wash the dishes. mostly however, he is off in his own world when he is at home. he spends his time at the computer playing games, watching sports and david letterman, or working on work he brought home and frequently naps. if i ask him for help, he offers little, by staying put (watching the tv or playing his game) and nodding his head in agreement to whatever i say. if i need him physically, i must wait until the game he is playing is over--because he may beat his top score.when we first got married, (23 years ago) his peculiar behaviour grew more peculiar and he showed anger more and more. he behaved at home like i wasn't even there. like he would come to bed at night after i was there and sleeping. he would turn on the lights and tv as loud as he wanted or the radio. when i complained he would tell me it shouldn't bother me. he was impatient--could not wait in a line and tried desperately to keep the world away closing all the curtains, hating the neighbors. when the neighbor kids bounced a ball, the sound of the pounding drove him crazy mad. even though he was not mad at me necessarily, he behaved angrily, so i felt the sting. when i would talk to him about things, he would deny my observations and tell me i was wrong. awhile back, i told him i was leaving, i could no longer take the anger. he promised he would get help if i stayed. i agreed to try and he went to his general practioner and was given an prescription for paxil for anxiety. i remember thinking anxiety? is that all really. i was not too hopeful. however, with the paxil he is much more even, almost never angry. so tolerable.his ongoing symptoms include wierd eye contact, he will look at me when we talk, but it is more a blank stare. he has little facial expression except when he is in discomfort or angry. he lacks empathy toward me and the girls. if HE isn't feeling something, he cannot comprehend how we could be feeling something. but strangely, he will cry at sad movies and stories. he has intense interest in astronomy and computer games. socially he is awkward but learned that repeating david letterman jokes makes people laugh so he does that or he makes up his own jokes. his jokes are NOT good and he will share them with my daughters even though they are very inappropriate. he doesn't realize this even though i have told him. he has little common sense. he is clumsy, knocking into things. has no sense of degrees of pressure or volume. for example if you tell him to press a button he will use full force and can break it. he talks very loudly but is sensitive to low deep noises like drums or balls bouncing on the pavement. in fact he does everything loudly, even eating. i swear you can hear him eat bread from the next room--we joke that he must have speakers in his cheeks or something. and paper--he leaves a trail of fureled paper everywhere he goes (like charlie brown's pigpen, only with paper). he likes samesness (before paxil, he insisted on it). he wants the same shirt and the same shoes and the same socks and the same deodorant the same shampoo the same chair, same same same. he is a pack rat, doesn't want to get rid of anything. he has to be first--even when driving a car, when we stop at a light or sign, he will roll forward to be ahead of the cars in the lane next to him. he does not like crowds.his father told me, as a infant he would cry alot and his body would be stiff as a board. and as a toddler in the play pen, he would bang his head on the floor.this is all i can think of. hope it helps. regards, melody > > > > > >Hi again,> > > > > What makes me think she does fit AS is her social skills and> odd> > > > > behaviour, but I have been putting a lot of effort into > teaching> > > her> > > > > the stop,think and do method , she then can use this method at> > > school> > > > > to cope with playing succesfully with her peers (we hope) and> > > stop> > > > > herself before she thinks about any inapropiate behaviour. > Also> > > she> > > > > attends a social skills group once a week. > > > > > What makes me think she hasn't is that change has no bother to> > > her,> > > > > she is not overly focused on one thing or subject, not a fussy > > > eating> > > > > or senitive to clothes or loud nosies. Has not had any> problems> > > when> > > > > she was a baby/toddler,hand writting is very neat and tidy, > and> > > she> > > > > is doing very well at school with her school work, doesn't> have> > > > > repetive behaviour.All these things are all that I can > remember> > > from> > > > > reading net that I'm using to explain this to you all.I may> have> > > > > missed a few!!> > > > > The odd behaviour is that she would for example be sitting > next> > > to a> > > > > peer at school then all of a sudden scribby on his arm for no> > > reason,> > > > > picks her nose, licks the window in her class room, spitting > > > water> > > > > from the taps onto the floors outside, wondering the play> area at> > > > > lunch time alone prenting someone is chasing her,just very> > > annoying > > > > > to some of the other kids at times, but could all this still> mean> > > > > that she isn't AS or has she crossed the line with her> behaviour.> > > > > Every child can be cheeky at times maybe the school is over > > > reacting> > > > > or she just needs to learn whats apropiate and how to play or> > > say to> > > > > her peers to join into a game or group??> > > > > > > > > > > Hi there all,> > > > > > My 7.5 year daughter has had problems with social skills> since> > > in 4> > > > > > year old kinder, but the last 6 months since she has been in> > > grade> > > > > 1> > > > > > has been a nightmare with some odd behaviour problems and> not> > > being> > > > > > able to socialize at school. We managed to get a appointment> > > with> > > > > a> > > > > > very highly rated psychologist who majors in children with> AS> > > and> > > > > she > > > > > > came to a conclusion after a 1 hour assesment with my> daughter> > > and> > > > > a 3> > > > > > hour interview with myself that she was AS. But I just don't> > > > > agree??> > > > > > Very confused at the moment!!> > > > > > Could she just have of got it wrong?? Look if she has thats> > > fine we > > > > > > will deal with it but I'm not convinced at the moment. So> > > today we> > > > > are> > > > > > getting a second option with another psychologist who still> > > deals> > > > > with> > > > > > children and doesn't major in AS, is local and not so highly> > > > > rated!!,> > > > > > but is still knows her stuff. Sometimes I feel that you are> > > doing> > > > > the> > > > > > right thing by getting the best of the best but beause she> > > > > specializes> > > > > > in AS maybe it was just very easy for for to say yes??? > > > > > > Does anyone feel that there diagnosis was wrong and after a> > > second> > > > > > option was found that it was something else??> > > > > > Thanks for listening Ang > > > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > >> > >> > >> >> > > > > ********************Confidentiality Notice******************** > > > > This message is intended for the sole use of the individual and entity to whom it is addressed, and may contain information that is privileged, confidential and exempt from disclosure under applicable law. Any unauthorized review, use, disclosure or distribution of this email message, including any attachment, is prohibited. If you are not the intended recipient, please advise the sender by reply email and destroy all copies of the original message. 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Guest guest Posted November 8, 2007 Report Share Posted November 8, 2007 Wow, Melody....YOU ARE A SAINT!! It amazes me how strong we women are!! Many of your comments sound like my husband...it has been a struggle living with him for years....I don't think he is Aspie, but he is something. Thank you so much for sharing and allowing others to feel like they are not alone with these situations and feelings. God Bless you!! Kirsten ( ) Re: NEWBIE-kirsten kirsten: the symptoms can be as varied with adults as they are with children and personality has an impact. i can only speak with authority about my personal situation and mean no disrespect to other persons with the disorder. and let me first say, he is an excellent provider. he is extremely book smart, excels at math and remembers everything he has ever read, even in grade school. he goes to work and works hard, that is his top priority. (he asked me to schedule my cesarian section around his work cycle, if i wanted him to be there) but when he comes home, he offers little in the way of assistance. he likes to write the checks to pay the bills and he will put out the garbage. he has learned to bbq over the years so will do so on a sunday, if the weather is comfortable and when his mother is over for dinner, he will wash the dishes. mostly however, he is off in his own world when he is at home. he spends his time at the computer playing games, watching sports and david letterman, or working on work he brought home and frequently naps. if i ask him for help, he offers little, by staying put (watching the tv or playing his game) and nodding his head in agreement to whatever i say. if i need him physically, i must wait until the game he is playing is over--because he may beat his top score. when we first got married, (23 years ago) his peculiar behaviour grew more peculiar and he showed anger more and more. he behaved at home like i wasn't even there. like he would come to bed at night after i was there and sleeping. he would turn on the lights and tv as loud as he wanted or the radio. when i complained he would tell me it shouldn't bother me. he was impatient--could not wait in a line and tried desperately to keep the world away closing all the curtains, hating the neighbors. when the neighbor kids bounced a ball, the sound of the pounding drove him crazy mad. even though he was not mad at me necessarily, he behaved angrily, so i felt the sting. when i would talk to him about things, he would deny my observations and tell me i was wrong. awhile back, i told him i was leaving, i could no longer take the anger. he promised he would get help if i stayed. i agreed to try and he went to his general practioner and was given an prescription for paxil for anxiety. i remember thinking anxiety? is that all really. i was not too hopeful. however, with the paxil he is much more even, almost never angry. so tolerable. his ongoing symptoms include wierd eye contact, he will look at me when we talk, but it is more a blank stare. he has little facial expression except when he is in discomfort or angry. he lacks empathy toward me and the girls. if HE isn't feeling something, he cannot comprehend how we could be feeling something. but strangely, he will cry at sad movies and stories. he has intense interest in astronomy and computer games. socially he is awkward but learned that repeating david letterman jokes makes people laugh so he does that or he makes up his own jokes. his jokes are NOT good and he will share them with my daughters even though they are very inappropriate. he doesn't realize this even though i have told him. he has little common sense. he is clumsy, knocking into things. has no sense of degrees of pressure or volume. for example if you tell him to press a button he will use full force and can break it. he talks very loudly but is sensitive to low deep noises like drums or balls bouncing on the pavement. in fact he does everything loudly, even eating. i swear you can hear him eat bread from the next room--we joke that he must have speakers in his cheeks or something. and paper--he leaves a trail of fureled paper everywhere he goes (like charlie brown's pigpen, only with paper). he likes samesness (before paxil, he insisted on it). he wants the same shirt and the same shoes and the same socks and the same deodorant the same shampoo the same chair, same same same. he is a pack rat, doesn't want to get rid of anything. he has to be first-- even when driving a car, when we stop at a light or sign, he will roll forward to be ahead of the cars in the lane next to him. he does not like crowds. his father told me, as a infant he would cry alot and his body would be stiff as a board. and as a toddler in the play pen, he would bang his head on the floor. this is all i can think of. hope it helps. regards, melody > > > > > >Hi again, > > > > > What makes me think she does fit AS is her social skills and > odd > > > > > behaviour, but I have been putting a lot of effort into > teaching > > > her > > > > > the stop,think and do method , she then can use this method at > > > school > > > > > to cope with playing succesfully with her peers (we hope) and > > > stop > > > > > herself before she thinks about any inapropiate behaviour. > Also > > > she > > > > > attends a social skills group once a week. > > > > > What makes me think she hasn't is that change has no bother to > > > her, > > > > > she is not overly focused on one thing or subject, not a fussy > > > eating > > > > > or senitive to clothes or loud nosies. Has not had any > problems > > > when > > > > > she was a baby/toddler,hand writting is very neat and tidy, > and > > > she > > > > > is doing very well at school with her school work, doesn't > have > > > > > repetive behaviour.All these things are all that I can > remember > > > from > > > > > reading net that I'm using to explain this to you all.I may > have > > > > > missed a few!! > > > > > The odd behaviour is that she would for example be sitting > next > > > to a > > > > > peer at school then all of a sudden scribby on his arm for no > > > reason, > > > > > picks her nose, licks the window in her class room, spitting > > > water > > > > > from the taps onto the floors outside, wondering the play > area at > > > > > lunch time alone prenting someone is chasing her,just very > > > annoying > > > > > to some of the other kids at times, but could all this still > mean > > > > > that she isn't AS or has she crossed the line with her > behaviour. > > > > > Every child can be cheeky at times maybe the school is over > > > reacting > > > > > or she just needs to learn whats apropiate and how to play or > > > say to > > > > > her peers to join into a game or group?? > > > > > > > > > > > Hi there all, > > > > > > My 7.5 year daughter has had problems with social skills > since > > > in 4 > > > > > > year old kinder, but the last 6 months since she has been in > > > grade > > > > > 1 > > > > > > has been a nightmare with some odd behaviour problems and > not > > > being > > > > > > able to socialize at school. We managed to get a appointment > > > with > > > > > a > > > > > > very highly rated psychologist who majors in children with > AS > > > and > > > > > she > > > > > > came to a conclusion after a 1 hour assesment with my > daughter > > > and > > > > > a 3 > > > > > > hour interview with myself that she was AS. But I just don't > > > > > agree?? > > > > > > Very confused at the moment!! > > > > > > Could she just have of got it wrong?? Look if she has thats > > > fine we > > > > > > will deal with it but I'm not convinced at the moment. So > > > today we > > > > > are > > > > > > getting a second option with another psychologist who still > > > deals > > > > > with > > > > > > children and doesn't major in AS, is local and not so highly > > > > > rated!!, > > > > > > but is still knows her stuff. Sometimes I feel that you are > > > doing > > > > > the > > > > > > right thing by getting the best of the best but beause she > > > > > specializes > > > > > > in AS maybe it was just very easy for for to say yes??? > > > > > > Does anyone feel that there diagnosis was wrong and after a > > > second > > > > > > option was found that it was something else?? > > > > > > Thanks for listening Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ********************Confidentiality Notice******************** > > > > This message is intended for the sole use of the individual and entity to whom it is addressed, and may contain information that is privileged, confidential and exempt from disclosure under applicable law. Any unauthorized review, use, disclosure or distribution of this email message, including any attachment, is prohibited. If you are not the intended recipient, please advise the sender by reply email and destroy all copies of the original message. 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Guest guest Posted November 8, 2007 Report Share Posted November 8, 2007 no, my husband was never officially diagnosed. he really doesn't think there is anything wrong with him, except maybe he feels uncomfortable around people a little. i remember hearing he had speech therapy for a stutter when he was younger. other than that, i don't remember hearing he had any other help when he was young. for many years, oddly, i believed the problem was all me. but when my aspie daughter was born, i noticed her quirks and thru research, eventually learned about aspergers. that was my AHAH moment because these symptoms were in line with the behaviours my husband was exhibiting. and like brenda, it came as a relief. i just take it a day at a time. i have also learned to detach and approach the day to day stuff as a " single parent " would. i have girl friends i can talk with and an aspie spouse forum i can go to for understanding. And, there are times when we all are sitting together as a family and share some belly laughs. these are my favorite times. regards, melody > > > > > > > >Hi again, > > > > > > > What makes me think she does fit AS is her social skills and > > > odd > > > > > > > behaviour, but I have been putting a lot of effort into > > > teaching > > > > > her > > > > > > > the stop,think and do method , she then can use this method > > at > > > > > school > > > > > > > to cope with playing succesfully with her peers (we hope) > > and > > > > > stop > > > > > > > herself before she thinks about any inapropiate behaviour. > > > Also > > > > > she > > > > > > > attends a social skills group once a week. > > > > > > > What makes me think she hasn't is that change has no bother > > to > > > > > her, > > > > > > > she is not overly focused on one thing or subject, not a > > fussy > > > > > eating > > > > > > > or senitive to clothes or loud nosies. Has not had any > > > problems > > > > > when > > > > > > > she was a baby/toddler,hand writting is very neat and tidy, > > > and > > > > > she > > > > > > > is doing very well at school with her school work, doesn't > > > have > > > > > > > repetive behaviour.All these things are all that I can > > > remember > > > > > from > > > > > > > reading net that I'm using to explain this to you all.I may > > > have > > > > > > > missed a few!! > > > > > > > The odd behaviour is that she would for example be sitting > > > next > > > > > to a > > > > > > > peer at school then all of a sudden scribby on his arm for > > no > > > > > reason, > > > > > > > picks her nose, licks the window in her class room, spitting > > > > > water > > > > > > > from the taps onto the floors outside, wondering the play > > > area at > > > > > > > lunch time alone prenting someone is chasing her,just very > > > > > annoying > > > > > > > to some of the other kids at times, but could all this still > > > mean > > > > > > > that she isn't AS or has she crossed the line with her > > > behaviour. > > > > > > > Every child can be cheeky at times maybe the school is over > > > > > reacting > > > > > > > or she just needs to learn whats apropiate and how to play > > or > > > > > say to > > > > > > > her peers to join into a game or group?? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi there all, > > > > > > > > My 7.5 year daughter has had problems with social skills > > > since > > > > > in 4 > > > > > > > > year old kinder, but the last 6 months since she has been > > in > > > > > grade > > > > > > > 1 > > > > > > > > has been a nightmare with some odd behaviour problems and > > > not > > > > > being > > > > > > > > able to socialize at school. We managed to get a > > appointment > > > > > with > > > > > > > a > > > > > > > > very highly rated psychologist who majors in children with > > > AS > > > > > and > > > > > > > she > > > > > > > > came to a conclusion after a 1 hour assesment with my > > > daughter > > > > > and > > > > > > > a 3 > > > > > > > > hour interview with myself that she was AS. But I just > > don't > > > > > > > agree?? > > > > > > > > Very confused at the moment!! > > > > > > > > Could she just have of got it wrong?? Look if she has > > thats > > > > > fine we > > > > > > > > will deal with it but I'm not convinced at the moment. So > > > > > today we > > > > > > > are > > > > > > > > getting a second option with another psychologist who > > still > > > > > deals > > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > children and doesn't major in AS, is local and not so > > highly > > > > > > > rated!!, > > > > > > > > but is still knows her stuff. Sometimes I feel that you > > are > > > > > doing > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > right thing by getting the best of the best but beause she > > > > > > > specializes > > > > > > > > in AS maybe it was just very easy for for to say yes??? > > > > > > > > Does anyone feel that there diagnosis was wrong and after > > a > > > > > second > > > > > > > > option was found that it was something else?? > > > > > > > > Thanks for listening Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ********************Confidentiality Notice******************** > > > > > > > > > > > > This message is intended for the sole use of the individual and > > entity to whom it is addressed, and may contain information that is > > privileged, confidential and exempt from disclosure under applicable > > law. Any unauthorized review, use, disclosure or distribution of this > > email message, including any attachment, is prohibited. 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Guest guest Posted November 8, 2007 Report Share Posted November 8, 2007 you said " but he is something " . this was the hardest time for me, when i didn't know and was full of self doubt. i hope you find out what that something is. the internet has been great for information gathering because it is always there just ready for the looking. we all have problems, no matter who we are, no matter how much money we have or don't have. they are just different problems. thanx for your kind words. i wish you the best on your path. kindest regards, melody > > > > > > >Hi again, > > > > > > What makes me think she does fit AS is her social skills and > > odd > > > > > > behaviour, but I have been putting a lot of effort into > > teaching > > > > her > > > > > > the stop,think and do method , she then can use this method > at > > > > school > > > > > > to cope with playing succesfully with her peers (we hope) > and > > > > stop > > > > > > herself before she thinks about any inapropiate behaviour. > > Also > > > > she > > > > > > attends a social skills group once a week. > > > > > > What makes me think she hasn't is that change has no bother > to > > > > her, > > > > > > she is not overly focused on one thing or subject, not a > fussy > > > > eating > > > > > > or senitive to clothes or loud nosies. Has not had any > > problems > > > > when > > > > > > she was a baby/toddler,hand writting is very neat and tidy, > > and > > > > she > > > > > > is doing very well at school with her school work, doesn't > > have > > > > > > repetive behaviour.All these things are all that I can > > remember > > > > from > > > > > > reading net that I'm using to explain this to you all.I may > > have > > > > > > missed a few!! > > > > > > The odd behaviour is that she would for example be sitting > > next > > > > to a > > > > > > peer at school then all of a sudden scribby on his arm for > no > > > > reason, > > > > > > picks her nose, licks the window in her class room, spitting > > > > water > > > > > > from the taps onto the floors outside, wondering the play > > area at > > > > > > lunch time alone prenting someone is chasing her,just very > > > > annoying > > > > > > to some of the other kids at times, but could all this still > > mean > > > > > > that she isn't AS or has she crossed the line with her > > behaviour. > > > > > > Every child can be cheeky at times maybe the school is over > > > > reacting > > > > > > or she just needs to learn whats apropiate and how to play > or > > > > say to > > > > > > her peers to join into a game or group?? > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi there all, > > > > > > > My 7.5 year daughter has had problems with social skills > > since > > > > in 4 > > > > > > > year old kinder, but the last 6 months since she has been > in > > > > grade > > > > > > 1 > > > > > > > has been a nightmare with some odd behaviour problems and > > not > > > > being > > > > > > > able to socialize at school. We managed to get a > appointment > > > > with > > > > > > a > > > > > > > very highly rated psychologist who majors in children with > > AS > > > > and > > > > > > she > > > > > > > came to a conclusion after a 1 hour assesment with my > > daughter > > > > and > > > > > > a 3 > > > > > > > hour interview with myself that she was AS. But I just > don't > > > > > > agree?? > > > > > > > Very confused at the moment!! > > > > > > > Could she just have of got it wrong?? Look if she has > thats > > > > fine we > > > > > > > will deal with it but I'm not convinced at the moment. So > > > > today we > > > > > > are > > > > > > > getting a second option with another psychologist who > still > > > > deals > > > > > > with > > > > > > > children and doesn't major in AS, is local and not so > highly > > > > > > rated!!, > > > > > > > but is still knows her stuff. Sometimes I feel that you > are > > > > doing > > > > > > the > > > > > > > right thing by getting the best of the best but beause she > > > > > > specializes > > > > > > > in AS maybe it was just very easy for for to say yes??? > > > > > > > Does anyone feel that there diagnosis was wrong and after > a > > > > second > > > > > > > option was found that it was something else?? > > > > > > > Thanks for listening Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ********************Confidentiality Notice******************** > > > > > > > > This message is intended for the sole use of the individual and > entity to whom it is addressed, and may contain information that is > privileged, confidential and exempt from disclosure under applicable > law. Any unauthorized review, use, disclosure or distribution of this > email message, including any attachment, is prohibited. 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