Re: Sports for Aspi 12 year old girl

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From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Wille

Sent: Monday, February 04, 2008

2:47 PM

Subject: ( ) Sports

for Aspi 12 year old girl

Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok

area? My

daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all

know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child

that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi

child.

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My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support.LizOn Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote:Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child.

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Hi ! Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it would help him develop better social skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionally with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But

he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support him if he chooses to! I think over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote: My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great

coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote: Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child.

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Your kids all amaze me. My son has never wanted to be in sports. He was in Tball,,,,,but he didn't care enough to want to do it anymore. I had him do it, until I saw that it just wasn't for him - socially and physically. Robin denise albright <dalbright2003@...> wrote: Hi ! Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it would help him develop better social

skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionally with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support him if he chooses to! I think

over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote: My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote: Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child. Looking for last minute

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Ian actually said that he would do soccer this summer (which shocked me more than me losing 50 pounds!!!) and then when he realized that it went into July,,,,when it would be really hot,,,,,he said, "No way". About that time, he acknowledged that he might not want to go to EVERY practice,,,,even IF he went. Ugh.denise albright <dalbright2003@...> wrote: Hi ! Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it

would help him develop better social skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionally with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support

him if he chooses to! I think over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote: My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote: Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child. Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search.

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my son did tball then coach pitchand he did ok for him i think and the coaches he had were wonderful but we are no longer living in the same area. but more recently he expressed to us that he would like to play ball again, i worry because he is very awkward and clumsy, but he really wants to play his brothers want to play with him in the backyard but josh doesn't do very well them so i worry what being on a new team might do. Sherry and/or Robin Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: Your kids all amaze me. My son has never

wanted to be in sports. He was in Tball,,,,,but he didn't care enough to want to do it anymore. I had him do it, until I saw that it just wasn't for him - socially and physically. Robin denise albright <dalbright2003 > wrote: Hi ! Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it would help him develop better social skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so

great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionally with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support him if he chooses to! I think over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote: My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the

middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote: Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child. Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.

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I KNOW it was harder for us than Ian, to realize that he wasnt' going to be in sports.....ever. Not that we were these incredible athletes or sportsminded people,,,,,but just realizing that the social aspect was just NOT gonna be there. But,,,,accepting feels good. RobinRoxanna <madideas@...> wrote: My 11 yo (hfa) has no interest in team sports either. RoxannaAutism

Happens Re: ( ) Sports for Aspi 12 year old girl Your kids all amaze me. My son has never wanted to be in sports. He was in Tball,,,,,but he didn't care enough to want to do it anymore. I had him do it, until I saw that it just wasn't for him - socially and

physically. Robin denise albright <dalbright2003 > wrote: Hi ! Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it would help him develop better social skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more

painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionally with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support him if he chooses to! I think over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote: My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second

season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote: Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know

has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child. Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Search. Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Mobile. Try it now.

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Dylan has played soccer since the 2nd grade. I've always pulled the coach aside (he's had three so far) and let him know about Dylan prior to the season starting. It's been rocky at times but we've hung in there because I think it's important for him to get the opportunity to work within a team. And since it's soccer and he can usually get out of a situation pretty quickly b/c things are constantly changing on the field, I think it's the best "fit" in terms of team sports. The consistent thing Dylan can depend on is that everything is going to change pretty quickly. I think it's actually quite helpful for him b/c he really can't sit there and obsess over a situation b/c it's gone

before he knows it.

One tough situation I can share though... After last season, the coach's son had a birthday party and the whole soccer team was invited. They met at the soccer fields but instead of soccer, they played tag football or something similar. Dylan didn't have a lot of experience with this and was trying to learn the rules but the kids were making them and breaking them as they went along (just horsing around and having fun, no bad intentions that I can tell) and Dylan had a HORRIBLE time. He kept getting super mad b/c they weren't playing right and he got into it with quite a few of them. My dad dropped him off for me and we had no way of knowing what was happening. Probably didn't help his relationship with the other boys. So my lesson there is to never drop him off in a situation like that before knowing more about what he can

expect. I'm pretty protective of him in general but didn't fully scope out the situation b/c he was going to be with adults and kids I trusted and it never crossed my mind that it would be so bad.

I do recommend trying a team sport though b/c it might bring out a side of your child you didn't know was there. Or it might help him/her get used to being a part of a team. If it's total torture, of course, don't do it. But on the other hand, there were many times I wanted to pull him out that first and second year but we stuck with it and now I'm very glad we did. Besides the great exercise he gets, I just like seeing him being a part of a team and learning more about how the world works.

Re: ( ) Sports for Aspi 12 year old girl

Your kids all amaze me.

My son has never wanted to be in sports. He was in Tball,,,,,but he didn't care enough to want to do it anymore. I had him do it, until I saw that it just wasn't for him - socially and physically.

Robin denise albright <dalbright2003> wrote:

Hi !

Not realizing my son has aspergers until recently (he is 9 now), I signed him up for all kinds of team sports early on hoping it would help him develop better social skills. He's an enigma because he can be uncoordinated in certain ways and fairly coordinated in others. He was a defensive lineman on a youth football team the last two years and actually played quite well and I think it helped him a lot... building his self-confidence, learning to be a team player, self-discipline, etc. His coaches were so great... even 'tho we didn't recognize his odd behavior as aspergers at the time, they were so kind to and supportive of him. The hard part, maybe more painful for me than for him (?) was the fact that he never really connected socially/emotionall y with any of the kids (on any of the teams he's ever been on). He is always the odd man out... it can be pretty awkward at times. But

he keeps on hanging in there... I am so proud of him! I'm not going to push him to play on teams in the future but I certainly will support him if he chooses to! I think over all it was a good experience for him. Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote:

My experience is that it all depends on the coach. Of course, that depends on your kid. Mine isn't at all athletic, and is inclined to stand in the middle of the field without a clue of what to do. He played basketball and had a blast for one season, with a great coach. The next season was awful. The second season, he had a competitive coach, who only cared about winning games, and wasn't too happy about having to coach a kid who needed extra support. Liz

On Feb 4, 2008, at 2:47 PM, Wille wrote:

Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a child that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi child.

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Regarding soccer, if your child processes situations quickly and is

fast, it can be great. I would avoid competitive teams and stick to

developmental. While the coaching tends to be less professional, the

atmosphere is not so strained.

My DS played soccer for several years, both types, and it was always

a bit awkward. He had trouble connecting with his teammates, was

always odd man out. He understood strategy long before they did but

that didn't help him, either.

On the other hand, he loves and excels at taekwondo, golf and

swimming. Sports that don't depend on social skills seem best. He

still interacts with other kids during those activities and there is

less stress for all.

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> Does anyone have a child in sports in the Guthrie, Ok area? My

> daughter wants to play soccer or some type of sports but as we all

> know has a very hard time playing on a team. Does anyone have a

child

> that is playing sports and is that team understanding of an aspi

> child.

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