Haircuts

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<< I always feel like I am torturing him! >>

I was shaving Mav's head a couple of weeks ago. We live right across from

the school. It was just as all the teachers were going home. Maverick was

screaming.... " Somebody help me PLEEEEZE!!! " . Now usually he is difficult to

understand, but THIS came through LOUD and CLEAR!!!

Actually, when I want it styled, he does better going to barbershops and

telling them to cut it like the Backstreet boys... other than a million

warnings for them to " Don't cut off my ears!! " , he is better than for me.

This has just been in the last year, tho. Other than that, we've tried it

all, the barbershop where he sits in a jeep, blows bubbles and watches

videos, the highchair in front of the barney show with a can of pepsi...you

name it, we've used it and I can honestly say that nothing worked for him!!

LOL.

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was this way too...so hard to take him for a haircut. We finally

found a place called cartoon cuts, where they had a t.v. and they played

Barney while he got his haircut, but even that sometimes didn't work and

then the place closed. I ended up investing in Wahl clippers and have given

him hair cuts at home for the last 3 years. I used to put him in front of

the t.v., but he has gotten MUCH more cooperative and now I can take him up

into the bathroom for a haircut (a lot easier to clean up there!).

It really isn't hard, I use the clippers all around the back, to just above

his ears, then trim the bangs, I guess it is the " mushroom " cut. It looks

good on him. It certainly has saved some $$ since he needs a haircut about

once a month. It does get better!

Mom to (6, ds) and Grace (3)

> Hi everyone! I have a problem with my son who has ds and is 2 1/2.

He

> cannot stand anyone to touch his hair for a haircut! He goes nuts and

screams

> and hollers when the hairdresser gets near him. My husband and I have also

> tried, but he still screams and cries......does anyone have any

suggestions?

> we have tried giving him crackers, books, musical toys, whatever, to

distract

> him, but nothing works.........

>

> Debbie

>

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ALec used to hate haircuts too.  We had a wonderful woman who would just cut

his hair while he kicked, screamed and yelled.  I would basically hold him

down, while she cut.  We had tried everything under the sun.  3 years ago,

his dad started taking him to the barbershop with him.  They get haircuts the

same time.  He does fine now and does not fuss at all. I never thought that I

would see that day.

Lori

mom to Alec (8DS) and le (12)

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When it comes to haircuts, does really well...now. We started out

sitting him in the barber chair and just putting the cape on. He was

really defensive and got upset, but we just praised him and took him

down. (I must say that I am lucky because the " Great Clips " by us has a

girl who really thinks is a doll and was willing to do this)

Anyway, this place is by my grocery store and every time I thought of it

when I was at the store, we would go by and do this. Eventually we would

put the cape on and comb his hair. Each time we would push a little

beyond his limit, but not so far that he freaked out. (This is how we

have done a lot of things like feeding and working on therapy goals).

Within a month or two, she was actually doing a few cuts, and after

several months, he has NO problems at all with it. (except for when she

uses the clippers around the bottom, but he doesn't cry, just

growls...heehee) He needs his hair cut about every 3-4 weeks so he is a

pro. The only problem now, is when Sheri was on maternity leave, he

didn't want to go to someone else, so we kind of backslid a bit, but now

she is back and he does great. He also gets a sucker when she is

finished, so that doesn't hurt either. =)

Kym...mom to 4 including (3 1/2 ds)

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There have only been a few times when resisted a haircut. For the

past year, he has been a regular with a particular stylist. When I took him

there, there was a sign stating only those receiving services could go beyond

where the wait area is. I took that literally and let him go without me

right there with him. Now he goes and waits for the stylist to come and get

him and off he goes. He does look at me a few times. He giggles alot during

the haircut.

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has never been to a barbershop. I have had a lot of experience

cutting hair. When he was small he would suddenly turn his head and we were

afraid of him getting poked with pointed scissors so we bought some good,

sharp rounded end ones, and they worked well for a long time. Along with

clippers, of course. Now there is no problem but we are used to it so I

continue to cut his hair and trim his beard. Oh, yes, he has a beard and

mustache, has had for years. It beats shaving every day and looks good on

him. Jessie

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In a message dated 1/10/01 9:36:17 AM Central Standard Time, Michdock@...

writes:

<< Actually, when I want it styled, he does better going to barbershops and

telling them to cut it like the Backstreet boys... other than a million

warnings for them to " Don't cut off my ears!! " , he is better than for me.

This has just been in the last year, tho. Other than that, we've tried it

all, the barbershop where he sits in a jeep, blows bubbles and watches

videos, the highchair in front of the barney show with a can of pepsi...you

name it, we've used it and I can honestly say that nothing worked for him!!

LOL.

>>

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In a message dated 1/10/01 9:36:17 AM Central Standard Time, Michdock@...

writes:

<< Actually, when I want it styled, he does better going to barbershops and

telling them to cut it like the Backstreet boys... other than a million

warnings for them to " Don't cut off my ears!! " , he is better than for me.

This has just been in the last year, tho. Other than that, we've tried it

all, the barbershop where he sits in a jeep, blows bubbles and watches

videos, the highchair in front of the barney show with a can of pepsi...you

name it, we've used it and I can honestly say that nothing worked for him!!

LOL.

>>

sorry, I got ahead of myself. Anyway, for my foster son I'm really devious. I

invite his favorite aunt or Grandma over and then pull out the clippers and

let them go at it.( I have found not to let Grandma do around the ears, she

is lousy at it.) and then after he jumps into the shower we go and get an ice

cream sundae. Needless to say his hair gets quite long in between cuts.

Karyn

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Jessie,

Darran 18 now wears a goatee and a mustache, lookin good guys,cause I know

has to look great too.

I too have always cut Darran's hair , Gosh it is about an every two week thing

around here as he hats hair only on his face. Last summer we went to the suaree

in WV he had his head shaved at that time , Even if I say so myself , he looked

pretty cool.....LOL

Carolyn - Mom to Darran 18 (DS) & Krystal 15 (NDS)

Re: haircuts

has never been to a barbershop. I have had a lot of experience

cutting hair. When he was small he would suddenly turn his head and we were

afraid of him getting poked with pointed scissors so we bought some good,

sharp rounded end ones, and they worked well for a long time. Along with

clippers, of course. Now there is no problem but we are used to it so I

continue to cut his hair and trim his beard. Oh, yes, he has a beard and

mustache, has had for years. It beats shaving every day and looks good on

him. Jessie

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Yes he did look cool at the suaree! I was just putting the suaree pictures in

my album (took me several weeks...but I am finally caught up on the last 10

years of photos!!!) and came across an adorable picture of Darran with me and my

daughter. Right after the picture he gave me the sweetest kiss on the

cheek...he is a doll.

R.

Mom to (6, ds) and Grace (3)

Darran 18 now wears a goatee and a mustache, lookin good guys,cause I know

has to look great too.

I too have always cut Darran's hair , Gosh it is about an every two week thing

around here as he hats hair only on his face. Last summer we went to the suaree

in WV he had his head shaved at that time , Even if I say so myself , he looked

pretty cool.....LOL

Carolyn - Mom to Darran 18 (DS) & Krystal 15 (NDS)

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AWWWWWWWWWW ,

thanks for all the sweet and kind words. I think he is a doll too..........LOL

Even tho now that he is 18 he is acting like typical teenager witht the mouth

and all to go along with it .........LOL

Carolyn

Re: haircuts

Yes he did look cool at the suaree! I was just putting the suaree pictures in

my album (took me several weeks...but I am finally caught up on the last 10

years of photos!!!) and came across an adorable picture of Darran with me and my

daughter. Right after the picture he gave me the sweetest kiss on the

cheek...he is a doll.

R.

Mom to (6, ds) and Grace (3)

Darran 18 now wears a goatee and a mustache, lookin good guys,cause I know

has to look great too.

I too have always cut Darran's hair , Gosh it is about an every two week

thing around here as he hats hair only on his face. Last summer we went to the

suaree in WV he had his head shaved at that time , Even if I say so myself , he

looked pretty cool.....LOL

Carolyn - Mom to Darran 18 (DS) & Krystal 15 (NDS)

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Diane,

That's cool that your daughter I think it is that's

doing horseback riding. I did horseback riding for a

few years when I was younger for thearapetic reasons

and to strentgeth my adomonen and muscules.

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OMG...you're kidding, right? Do you shave his head?? Mac won't even let

anyone do that. I'm dreading this.

Thanks.

Jill

Re: Haircuts

> Maverick is 11, we gave up on the haircuts and now just shave. It's not

> gotten ANY better.

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I'm just not sure who needs the valium more--Mac or me or the

hairdresser--the hairdresser and I are still stressed out and Mac is already

back to his usual happy go lucky self!! I don't want to go to Barber

School. My dad buzzed him a couple of times last year, the first time Mac

was fine (I think he was terrified), but after that he turned into his usual

monster self. After that we decided to back to the hairdresser, since my

dad hasn't been to Barber School either, we needed to take him somewhere

where he'd look at least 1/2 way decent--his hair grows very fast and pretty

much has a mind of it's own!!!

Jill

RE: Haircuts

>

>

> > Why would I be joking? Perhaps it's another sedative... I always just

> > called them kiddy valium. I would think that anything that reduced the

> > anxiety for both the child and the parent would be a benefit... I do

> > believe that the person asked for all hints and suggestions... If it's

ok

> > for the dentist... why not for a haircut?

> >

> >

> >

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I knew you were joking Elaine--but believe me my family has definitely asked

ourselves many a time " why can't one of us figure out how to cut a little

boys hair decent? " We went over to my sister's this evening with our

clipper kit--he sat on her kitchen table with his feet placed on the chair

and he did not scream or squirm while she tried to trim up the uneven edges

and straggling hairs. He did say " no " several times, but it was a major

difference between this afternoon at the hairdressers and tonight at my

sisters. He did go into a major fit when we took out the clippers to try

and shave his neck. By sister and I held him and tried to calm him and my

BIL shaved him. He still doesn't look great, but it's better than it was.

I forgot to mention the reason I've been upset about this especially today

is because tomorrow he is getting his picture taken. He was asked to be in

a Ds Calendar that is put out by a regional Ds Support Group here. It's my

understanding that this is a pretty big deal and the calendar this year is

going to be available in and Noble and places like that across the

country. We'll see if that really pans out. The woman who takes the

pictures has taken Mac's several times...she does beautiful pictures and

specializes in kids with disabilities. Needless to say, I wanted his hair

to look nice for these pictures.

Jill

RE: Haircuts

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> > > > Why would I be joking? Perhaps it's another sedative... I always

just

> > > > called them kiddy valium. I would think that anything that reduced

> the

> > > > anxiety for both the child and the parent would be a benefit... I

do

> > > > believe that the person asked for all hints and suggestions... If

> it's

> > ok

> > > > for the dentist... why not for a haircut?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

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Maverick is 11, we gave up on the haircuts and now just shave. It's not

gotten ANY better.

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In a message dated 6/24/2002 2:10:02 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

thrill@... writes:

<< Any and all suggestions, hints, tips

are welcome...I need major help with this problem. I've got another

appointment already scheduled for next week--maybe if we go more frequently

he'll do better.....maybe. >>

I started letting them buzz Liam, because the thought of anyone going near

him with sharp scissors is too scarey. I've tried everything too. Videos,

going to a kids place, and nothing seemed to work. This last time my

sister-in-law and nephew took him. He did a lot better. Not perfect, but

since my sister-in-law wasn't sobbing and covered in hair (like I usually am)

it was better. So we've decided that he acts up more for me than for anyone

else.

Kathy, Liam's mom(4)

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In a message dated 6/24/2002 2:34:33 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

kldoll@... writes:

<< Have you thought about getting Mac a kiddy volum(sp?) from his ped? I know

a number of people use these for visits to the dentist. Perhaps it might

work with the haircut... >>

Do you mean VALIUM? You must be joking....

Kathy, Liam's mom(4)

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In a message dated 6/24/02 1:10:17 PM Central Daylight Time, thrill@...

writes:

> . Any and all suggestions, hints, tips

> are welcome...I need major help with this problem. I've got another

> appointment already scheduled for next week--maybe if we go more frequently

> he'll do better.....maybe.

> Thanks in advance for your help.

>

> Jill

> Mom to Mac--with the definite bad hair day and Kit--who looks pretty

> adorable with her new doo

>

Maybe someone else taking him ?

well that worked for us, hehe, mary was always screaming like they were

killing her and finally her older sister made an appointment with a friends

friend (lol) who was a stylist, mary thought that was so cool and came home

flipping her hair over her shoulders. She's been pretty good ever since, i

think she was about 6 at that time, don't ask me why but some kids can really

play it up when moms around and not even think about it when she's not.

Joy

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Have you thought about getting Mac a kiddy volum(sp?) from his ped? I know

a number of people use these for visits to the dentist. Perhaps it might

work with the haircut...

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how old is mac? i hate to be the bearer of bad news but christopher (7 1/2) is

STILL horrible - he screams the whole time - and kicks and grabs. i threaten and

bribe and tell him to stop it in my harshest voice - all to no avail. we just

get in (i hold his arms and head in position) and get out as fast as possible. i

think it IS sensory - he just hates it and it drives him NUTS. wish i could tell

you something that works - i am still waiting for it to " pass " . karen in dallas

Haircuts

I know we've been through this thread before, but haircuts have not gotten

any easier for Mac. Some visits to the hairdresser are better than others,

but none are great and none are easy. We go to the same hairdresser

everytime. He goes with me everytime I get my hair cut--whether or not he's

getting his done. We've tried bribery, we've tried giving him the " rewards "

during the haircut, we've quit and rested and tried again, we've brought

books, videos, toys, every imaginable distracter, we've taken him at the

same time his cousins (4 and 5 yrs. old) go...I don't know what else to do.

I thought by now he'd be fine---geez...he's been getting his haircut every

5-6 weeks for the past three years. We just got back from a doozy of an

appointment. Kit went first and he " oohhed and aaahhed " at her getting her

haircut and being such a good girl. As soon as it was his turn he turned

into Dr. Jekyl--screaming and squirming. He has very few tears, if any,

just major screaming and squirming. I have him held in every imaginable

place and position. It takes about 30 minutes to just get a very shaky

trim. He's miserable. As soon--I mean IMMEDIATELY--as his feet hit the

floor he's happy, signs thank you and candy (hoping for another sucker) and

then walks to the door to leave. He's fine, hugs and kisses the

hairdresser, talks to us...so I don't think he's in any main or discomfort

sensory wise from the haircut. He allows me to wash and blow dry his hair

without any fuss. I have on occasion given it a couple of snips here and

there...he says " no " , but still allows me to do it. I think it's just a

really bad behavior and I don't know what to do to stop it--if he gets much

bigger and/or stronger I'm not going to be able to hold him to get his hair

done and he NEEDS frequent haircuts. Any and all suggestions, hints, tips

are welcome...I need major help with this problem. I've got another

appointment already scheduled for next week--maybe if we go more frequently

he'll do better.....maybe.

Thanks in advance for your help.

Jill

Mom to Mac--with the definite bad hair day and Kit--who looks pretty

adorable with her new doo

[Guest guest]

Why would I be joking? Perhaps it's another sedative... I always just

called them kiddy valium. I would think that anything that reduced the

anxiety for both the child and the parent would be a benefit... I do

believe that the person asked for all hints and suggestions... If it's ok

for the dentist... why not for a haircut?

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In a message dated 6/24/2002 2:44:25 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

KLDoll@... writes:

<< If it's ok

for the dentist... why not for a haircut? >>

Well because dental work is not just cosmetic. It's necessary for a person's

health. I'd let him wear waste length hair before I'd drug him like that.

Kathy, Liam's mom(4)

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In a message dated 6/24/02 11:42:58 AM Pacific Daylight Time, jmotes@...

writes:

>

> how old is mac? i hate to be the bearer of bad news but christopher (7 1/2)

> is STILL horrible - he screams the whole time - and kicks and grabs. i

> threaten and bribe and tell him to stop it in my harshest voice - all to no

> avail. we just get in (i hold his arms and head in position) and get out as

> fast as possible. i think it IS sensory - he just hates it and it drives

> him NUTS. wish i could tell you something that works - i am still waiting

> for it to " pass " . karen in dallas

>

my dd is 10 and STILL " non-compliant " (lol) when it comes to haircuts

- Becky

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I wish I had that problem! Ben has no hair at all and every time we go to

get 's hair cut he will sit in someone's chair until they pretend to

cut his hair. He will even go sit at the shampoo bowl and want to have his

hair shampoo'd!

The people are always so willing to do his hair and lotion his head!

Hopefully someday he will have some hair to cut!

M.