Re: Telling our son he has Aspergers

[Guest guest]

I'm a huge fan of the book mentioned here in the past, " Can I Tell You

About Asperger Syndrome?: A guide for friends and family, " by Judy

Welton. It's also great for family and friends. My son has used it in

his classroom for the past two years with much success.

Leah

sandymixie wrote:

>

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi. My son was diagnosed with AS when he was 10. He already knew he was

different. He had no friends. He didn't get along with kids in school. He

understood the reason he had to go through days of testing was to find out

why the meds he already took for ADHD didn't seem to be working. He was

just as relieved as we were to know that there was a valid reason. We have

never hidden it from him, or anyone else: teachers, other parents. Even

other kids, although they don't need ALL the details. Just explain that

your son is more sensitive to (whatever it is that sets him off), and that

he doesn't understand (teasing, non verbal communication, whatever..) and

that they need to be aware. Explain that he may not always get the social

norms, and they need to help.

Good Luck,

Helen S.

-- ( ) Telling our son he has Aspergers

Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about two weeks ago. My

husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to tell our son (who

is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how to talk to

sibblings about this.

[Guest guest]

tell the hole family the truth and he will be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe do a seach on Google or go on an Asperger web site for that kind of info.

I think that's what I did. was glad when we had his TSS (Wrap Around

Service) go into his classroom & explain why was different & they could

ask him questions about what he felt like etc..

Good luck,Betty

sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about two weeks ago. My

husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to tell our son (who

is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how to talk to

sibblings about this.

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Does anyone have a source to buy this book? The only place I could find was in

the UK.

Thanks.

>

> I'm a huge fan of the book mentioned here in the past, " Can I Tell You

> About Asperger Syndrome?: A guide for friends and family, " by Judy

> Welton. It's also great for family and friends. My son has used it in

> his classroom for the past two years with much success.

>

> Leah

>

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry, I had to read this six times just to make sense of it.

Telling someone they have Asperger's is like telling someone they have anything

else. Otherwise, you will be setting up an atmosphere of suspicion and distrust.

I'm sure the author was professionally qualified to deny special education, an

IEP or 504 plan, and to decide what education and employment would be

appropriate in the future. Also, that there is a projection of " if you wate to

long then he will be mest up for life " (sic). I love this " pull yourself up by

your own bootstraps " therapy. " [T]he younger they know whats wrong then they can

work harder and be better then others that have no disorders ... "

I was born with several problems. I was dx'd with dyslexia at 5 and an NOS

Learning Disability at age 8. I wasn't allowed special ed, nor was I ever told

of these Dx. Had I been told I would have had good information for the doctors

20 years ago. The rest of my issues weren't really known as of then. Had I

known, the past 20 years would have been shrouded in much less mystery.

Dave

Re: ( ) Telling our son he has Aspergers

tell the hole family the truth and he will be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I totally agree with you! I wasn't even going to reply to that post..it was

very strange information.

Take care,Betty

<sirdavjohn@...> wrote:

I'm sorry, I had to read this six times just to make sense of it.

Telling someone they have Asperger's is like telling someone they have anything

else. Otherwise, you will be setting up an atmosphere of suspicion and distrust.

I'm sure the author was professionally qualified to deny special education, an

IEP or 504 plan, and to decide what education and employment would be

appropriate in the future. Also, that there is a projection of " if you wate to

long then he will be mest up for life " (sic). I love this " pull yourself up by

your own bootstraps " therapy. " [T]he younger they know whats wrong then they can

work harder and be better then others that have no disorders ... "

I was born with several problems. I was dx'd with dyslexia at 5 and an NOS

Learning Disability at age 8. I wasn't allowed special ed, nor was I ever told

of these Dx. Had I been told I would have had good information for the doctors

20 years ago. The rest of my issues weren't really known as of then. Had I

known, the past 20 years would have been shrouded in much less mystery.

Dave

Re: ( ) Telling our son he has Aspergers

tell the hole family the truth and he will be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

IEP's can be really important in some schools. My son's teacher recommended an

IEP meeting during the first year he attended that school (3rd grade we moved

there) and I'm really greatful for it. It was there that they suggested he may

have Aspergers and they are doing so much to help him. The IEP was very helpful

even before they suspected AS.

Tom <tmt.family@...> wrote: tell the hole family the truth

and he will be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

has had an IEP since the 3rd grade & he is doing so much better in a

private school. He only has 7 others in his classroom. He gets A's & B's. He

also goes to school on a mini van ..less noisy..less crowded. Next yr he will go

half days to a Vo Tect school to take up Computer Programing. I am very proud of

this boy.

Betty

Essenfeld <lessen@...> wrote:

IEP's can be really important in some schools. My son's teacher

recommended an IEP meeting during the first year he attended that school (3rd

grade we moved there) and I'm really greatful for it. It was there that they

suggested he may have Aspergers and they are doing so much to help him. The IEP

was very helpful even before they suspected AS.

Tom <tmt.family@...> wrote: tell the hole family the truth and he will

be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>

[Guest guest]

that is awesome news. its great to hear good news once in a while!!!

Jewel <truegrittle@...> wrote: has had an IEP

since the 3rd grade & he is doing so much better in a private school. He only

has 7 others in his classroom. He gets A's & B's. He also goes to school on a

mini van ..less noisy..less crowded. Next yr he will go half days to a Vo Tect

school to take up Computer Programing. I am very proud of this boy.

Betty

Essenfeld <lessen@...> wrote:

IEP's can be really important in some schools. My son's teacher recommended an

IEP meeting during the first year he attended that school (3rd grade we moved

there) and I'm really greatful for it. It was there that they suggested he may

have Aspergers and they are doing so much to help him. The IEP was very helpful

even before they suspected AS.

Tom <tmt.family@...> wrote: tell the hole family the truth and he will

be better

off and keep him in regular school no iep no 504 and

get a high school education and get a good job now if

you wate to long then he will be mest up for life the

younger they know whats wrong then they can work

harder and be better then others that have no

disorders i ahave a pdd-nos and jacob's syndrome from

birth and what we know now if i had the info when i

was young would had been a better out come for me now

i am stuck at boarderline mr pdd-nos and jacob's a

genetic disorder. tom g

--- sandymixie <sandymixie@...> wrote:

> Hi! My son was just diagnosed with Asperger's about

> two weeks ago. My

> husband and I are looking for suggestions on how to

> tell our son (who

> is 11) what he has. Also, any suggestions about how

> to talk to

> sibblings about this.

>

>