Re: Potty training..ARGHHHH

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In a message dated 1/11/2007 4:55:16 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

advocateforaspies@... writes:

Keep using LOTS of praise (which I am sure you are!) and I would

keep telling her what a big girl she is.

She is obviously ready make sure you just stop the diapers and pull up s now

and let her pick some pretty big girl underware.

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CONGRATULATIONS.

Keep using LOTS of praise (which I am sure you are!) and I would

keep telling her what a big girl she is.

Just lots of excitement and emotion and that should at least keep

her thinking about using the bathroom often (I hope!)

That is so exciting.

Thanks for sharing!

B

>

> Hi all

> The strangest thing happened the other day. My oldest daughter

and I were repainting her room and the bathroom she shares with

a. a and her dad went to visit grandma for the day and when

they came home a was very very mad about the change of color in

their bathroom. To help smooth things over Cassie asked a to

help her finish making the bathroom pretty, with everything from a

new shower curtain, towels, hooks,rugs and a new soft toilet seat.

Well when they were done a looked at Cassie and said... " Sissy I

need to go pee-pee in the potty " and she did!

> Now we have always used a little potty seat on top of the big

potty for her and her little potty seat is soft so we don't know

what brought her to actually decide to go and went but we were happy!

> And for the next 3 days she has woke up dry in the morning and

said she needed to go potty!....and went!

> We have been through and are going through so much with this whole

potty training stuff, that I don't even have the heart to push her

any further. She has gone for 3 days in the morning and before her

bath at night and honestly I'm afraid to ask her during the day

because it may send her back into her " fear " of potty's and

refusal/fear to go......

> Ohhh Goodness....what do you think?

> Thanks ya'll

> - C.

> Mom to Cassie 15 PCOS, Austin 13 ADHD and a 3 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

>

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Any time I'd try to get my son to go he would just scream and cry. He didn't

care what rewards I bribed him with, he was not going on the potty. So I

stopped trying and left it up to him to decide when he was ready. My MIL

assured me that he wouldn't go to high school in diapers. When they're ready

they're ready. He was ready on his own at 4.

Taffy

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Our lil guy is almost five and we can't get him to use the potty for

any reason. We went to a big thing with a " potty graduation' party and

prizes for potty and the result? He just peed on everything, hid poop

under the couch and would not go to the potty for anything. So we had

to go back to pull ups finally after we had cleaned out cushions and

flipped them and the mattress and cleaned a bunch of messes out of the

floor. Being wet or messy does NOT affect him and frankly it worries me

alot. He is at a point where he will use the potty when it is

convenient to him (to delay bedtime for example) so I know he can do it

and so does he, but he just won't. Gah! So, I feel your pain.

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That's encouraging!

Smiles

- C.

Mom to Cassie 15 PCOS, Austin 13 ADHD and a 3 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

----- Original Message -----

Any time I'd try to get my son to go he would just scream and cry. He didn't

care what rewards I bribed him with, he was not going on the potty. So I stopped

trying and left it up to him to decide when he was ready. My MIL assured me that

he wouldn't go to high school in diapers. When they're ready they're ready. He

was ready on his own at 4.

Taffy

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I can relate. We started my son (nearly 3.5 yo) last week with #1's.

Not even attempting #2's. We have taught him standing up because

although he will sit on the toilet, he refuses to do anything.

He can physically do it but he just doesn't want to. It has become a

bit of a battle of wills with hysterical screaming and flopping (so we

can't carry him). YET........... what frustrates me most is that he

will happily go with the neighbour and her kids next door and if they

are at our place, he will still go! He is reluctant with dad and even

more reluctant with me.

I have all sorts of reinforcers and some are working better than

others.... admittedly today, we have had no dramas- we have a plastic

fish 'growing' in water sitting on top of the cistern so we have to

check progress!

I wrote him a social story and he liked that but it didn't seem to

help. When he is being hysterical, he tells me he is too small. He has

a fear of failure so I wonder if he is scared he isn't doing enough as

we are trying to encourage him to relax enough to really empty the

bladder instead of a few squirts....

Sometimes it is so hard to get into their minds.

mum to Riley (Aspergers 3.5) and Jemma (15 mths)

[Guest guest]

My daughter didn't completely potty train until six. She was afraid

of flushing toilet and " where " the tinkle went and that it

woudl " suck " her in, even when we flushed with her off the toilet.

I found patience and persistance but flexibility worked best and I

let her train at her own pace. She still has an accident now and

again, but it's a sensory issue (if she gets too caught up in

something she won't FEEL the need to go until nearly too late, and

sometimes too late. But rarely) The same for my seven year old, tho

he trained by the time he was three, he still has #2accidents if he

is unsure of what it is he is feeling (speaking of the need to go)

>

> I can relate. We started my son (nearly 3.5 yo) last week with

#1's.

> Not even attempting #2's. We have taught him standing up because

> although he will sit on the toilet, he refuses to do anything.

>

> He can physically do it but he just doesn't want to. It has become

a

> bit of a battle of wills with hysterical screaming and flopping

(so we

> can't carry him). YET........... what frustrates me most is that

he

> will happily go with the neighbour and her kids next door and if

they

> are at our place, he will still go! He is reluctant with dad and

even

> more reluctant with me.

>

> I have all sorts of reinforcers and some are working better than

> others.... admittedly today, we have had no dramas- we have a

plastic

> fish 'growing' in water sitting on top of the cistern so we have to

> check progress!

>

> I wrote him a social story and he liked that but it didn't seem to

> help. When he is being hysterical, he tells me he is too small. He

has

> a fear of failure so I wonder if he is scared he isn't doing

enough as

> we are trying to encourage him to relax enough to really empty the

> bladder instead of a few squirts....

>

> Sometimes it is so hard to get into their minds.

>

>

>

> mum to Riley (Aspergers 3.5) and Jemma (15 mths)

>

[Guest guest]

I couldn't resist adding something here. My 7 yr AS son still won't flush a

toilet (one that he's not familiar with) because he's terrified of the loud

noise & concerned he'll be flushed down too. Poor kid runs out of his 1st grade

bathroom with his hands on his ears while flushing with his foot! He also has

to have the bathroom door open when flushing. Maybe so he can get a faster

start running for his life???? Yikes!

<mkisses@...> wrote: My daughter didn't completely potty

train until six. She was afraid

of flushing toilet and " where " the tinkle went and that it

woudl " suck " her in, even when we flushed with her off the toilet.

I found patience and persistance but flexibility worked best and I

let her train at her own pace. She still has an accident now and

again, but it's a sensory issue (if she gets too caught up in

something she won't FEEL the need to go until nearly too late, and

sometimes too late. But rarely) The same for my seven year old, tho

he trained by the time he was three, he still has #2accidents if he

is unsure of what it is he is feeling (speaking of the need to go)

>

> I can relate. We started my son (nearly 3.5 yo) last week with

#1's.

> Not even attempting #2's. We have taught him standing up because

> although he will sit on the toilet, he refuses to do anything.

>

> He can physically do it but he just doesn't want to. It has become

a

> bit of a battle of wills with hysterical screaming and flopping

(so we

> can't carry him). YET........... what frustrates me most is that

he

> will happily go with the neighbour and her kids next door and if

they

> are at our place, he will still go! He is reluctant with dad and

even

> more reluctant with me.

>

> I have all sorts of reinforcers and some are working better than

> others.... admittedly today, we have had no dramas- we have a

plastic

> fish 'growing' in water sitting on top of the cistern so we have to

> check progress!

>

> I wrote him a social story and he liked that but it didn't seem to

> help. When he is being hysterical, he tells me he is too small. He

has

> a fear of failure so I wonder if he is scared he isn't doing

enough as

> we are trying to encourage him to relax enough to really empty the

> bladder instead of a few squirts....

>

> Sometimes it is so hard to get into their minds.

>

>

>

> mum to Riley (Aspergers 3.5) and Jemma (15 mths)

>

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OH MAN yes.. My son hated the toilet flushing sound!!!

-- Re: ( ) Re: Potty training..ARGHHHH

I couldn't resist adding something here. My 7 yr AS son still won't flush a

toilet (one that he's not familiar with) because he's terrified of the loud

noise & concerned he'll be flushed down too. Poor kid runs out of his 1st

grade bathroom with his hands on his ears while flushing with his foot! He

also has to have the bathroom door open when flushing. Maybe so he can get a

faster start running for his life???? Yikes!

<mkisses@...> wrote: My daughter didn't completely potty train

until six. She was afraid

of flushing toilet and " where " the tinkle went and that it

woudl " suck " her in, even when we flushed with her off the toilet.

I found patience and persistance but flexibility worked best and I

let her train at her own pace. She still has an accident now and

again, but it's a sensory issue (if she gets too caught up in

something she won't FEEL the need to go until nearly too late, and

sometimes too late. But rarely) The same for my seven year old, tho

he trained by the time he was three, he still has #2accidents if he

is unsure of what it is he is feeling (speaking of the need to go)

>

> I can relate. We started my son (nearly 3.5 yo) last week with

#1's.

> Not even attempting #2's. We have taught him standing up because

> although he will sit on the toilet, he refuses to do anything.

>

> He can physically do it but he just doesn't want to. It has become

a

> bit of a battle of wills with hysterical screaming and flopping

(so we

> can't carry him). YET........... what frustrates me most is that

he

> will happily go with the neighbour and her kids next door and if

they

> are at our place, he will still go! He is reluctant with dad and

even

> more reluctant with me.

>

> I have all sorts of reinforcers and some are working better than

> others.... admittedly today, we have had no dramas- we have a

plastic

> fish 'growing' in water sitting on top of the cistern so we have to

> check progress!

>

> I wrote him a social story and he liked that but it didn't seem to

> help. When he is being hysterical, he tells me he is too small. He

has

> a fear of failure so I wonder if he is scared he isn't doing

enough as

> we are trying to encourage him to relax enough to really empty the

> bladder instead of a few squirts....

>

> Sometimes it is so hard to get into their minds.

>

>

>

> mum to Riley (Aspergers 3.5) and Jemma (15 mths)

>

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Re: ( ) Re: Potty training..ARGHHHH

How interesting that he says he is too small....a (3yo) also makes the

comments...I'm still little, I'm not big yet and others...HmmmmI wonder what its

all about. She is constantly told yes you are still little and reassured...how

funny they have similar responses to the potty-ing thing

- C.

Mom to Cassie 15 PCOS, Austin 13 ADHD and a 3 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

>

> I can relate. We started my son (nearly 3.5 yo) last week with

#1's.

> Not even attempting #2's. We have taught him standing up because

> although he will sit on the toilet, he refuses to do anything.

>

> He can physically do it but he just doesn't want to. It has become

a

> bit of a battle of wills with hysterical screaming and flopping

(so we

> can't carry him). YET........... what frustrates me most is that

he

> will happily go with the neighbour and her kids next door and if

they

> are at our place, he will still go! He is reluctant with dad and

even

> more reluctant with me.

>

> I have all sorts of reinforcers and some are working better than

> others.... admittedly today, we have had no dramas- we have a

plastic

> fish 'growing' in water sitting on top of the cistern so we have to

> check progress!

>

> I wrote him a social story and he liked that but it didn't seem to

> help. When he is being hysterical, he tells me he is too small. He

has

> a fear of failure so I wonder if he is scared he isn't doing

enough as

> we are trying to encourage him to relax enough to really empty the

> bladder instead of a few squirts....

>

> Sometimes it is so hard to get into their minds.

>

>

>

> mum to Riley (Aspergers 3.5) and Jemma (15 mths)

>

[Guest guest]

I've been reading all these potty training posts with interest because my 4 3/4

yo doesn't

want to have anything to do with it. We had him naked the summer he was 3 and

he peed in

the pot, but won't poop. When he was finally diagnosed with AS, we thought we'd

be a little

more proactive. We offered him a movie after he tried. Didn't work. So we

offered the movie

while he was sitting there. In our tiny, tiny bathroom, we put a child's table,

our computer, a

step stool for him and he saw there for an hour. Now, he says he wants to play

in his room

and poops up there. I know it will happen, but I'm worried about K next year.