Re: Very disturbing

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He may have heard a child discussing a game or tv show they saw

(some parents aren't as discriminating as to what their kids

watch/play) or heard a child just talking.

I would use a social story and talk very simply about violence and

how it is not a good thing to draw, act out, etc. Put his name in

the story.

***** will not draw pictures of children being hurt because it is a

sad thing to do. (I hesitate to use the word bad, maybe you can come

up with something better)

***** knows now that kids getting hurt is a sad thing. We do not

want anyone to get hurt because it makes people sad.

Something like that. I read them everyday at the beginning and ween

down to three x's a week, twice a week, once a week and then as

needed. I don't know if this helps, I just know social stories work

great with my kiddos. (both with asperger's).

Also, just watch what your child is watching on tv and what games

are being played on playstation or whatever, not that you aren't....

>

> I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

> ago.

>

> I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a

picture

> that my boy drew.

>

> She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

> one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the

girl

> in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not

hair,

> it's blood. "

>

> Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied

that

> she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic

came

> from and he replied " in my imagination. "

>

> Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

> want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am

in

> a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated

him

> from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I

know

> that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there

is

> to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

>

> This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

> would be very much appreciated.

>

> Thanks

>

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now age 14 did that too. His teacher even sent me a note that

wrote about how do you feel & he wrote " I want to do susid " Which was " I want to

do suicide. " I was soooo upset! Once in awhile he would draw guns,skulls or

blood. He is a very kind person. He doesn't do any of that anymore. I don't know

what that was but I am glad that is over with now. Maybe it was just a scary

thing to do. He was going through a messy time in his life when his dad & mom

were fighting over him passing him back & forth then they each got married (3x)

to 3 different people that did not like at all & they gave me custody

when we asked for him. Kids react to fear or anger in their own minds

differently then we do as adults. I don't know if I helped you but that was what

Jon did too. Take care,Betty

sbarna0 <sbarna0@...> wrote:

I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

ago.

I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a picture

that my boy drew.

She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the girl

in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not hair,

it's blood. "

Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied that

she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic came

from and he replied " in my imagination. "

Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am in

a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated him

from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I know

that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there is

to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

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[Guest guest]

If any of you are around a GOOD TEACCH center, they offer short term

counseling for free to autistic children.

> I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers

two years

> ago.

>

> I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a

picture

> that my boy drew.

>

> She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

> one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the

girl

> in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not hair,

> it's blood. "

>

> Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied

that

> she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic

came

> from and he replied " in my imagination. "

>

> Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

> want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am

in

> a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated

him

> from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I know

> that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there

is

> to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

>

> This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

> would be very much appreciated.

>

> Thanks

>

>

>

>

>

>

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> Everyone is raving about the all-new beta.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe he saw the evening news & heard of a shooting that happened to a female.

Maybe? I say this because I taught kinder years ago & has an AS boy in my

class. He told me he had a gun in his backpack & was going to shoot me with it!

Well.......just a few days earlier in the national news an elementary school kid

shot his teacher with a gun from his backpack! So I know my student was just

getting his idea from the news, which was still disturbing to me & his parents

anyway. But sometimes I think the horrible things in the news can be more

difficult for our AS kids to process.

Keep us posted on what you learn about the pic.

Liz

sbarna0 <sbarna0@...> wrote:

I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

ago.

I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a picture

that my boy drew.

She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the girl

in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not hair,

it's blood. "

Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied that

she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic came

from and he replied " in my imagination. "

Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am in

a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated him

from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I know

that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there is

to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

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>

> I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

> ago.

>

> I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a

picture

> that my boy drew.

>

> She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

> one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the

girl

> in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not

hair,

> it's blood. "

>

> Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied

that

> she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic

came

> from and he replied " in my imagination. "

>

> Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

> want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am

in

> a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated

him

> from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I

know

> that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there is

> to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

>

> This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

> would be very much appreciated.

>

> Thanks

>

That is a very " normal " thing for my son, he is 5. I'm not sure what

it is all about. My son doesn't seem to look at that stuff the same

way we do. He wants to be a scientist when he gets older and he is

always collecting animal bones that he finds, and he's curious about

things that are very disturbing and disgusting to me. He seems very

drawn to things like that. I hope my son eventually finds another

interest, but when I look at in that he wants to be a scientist I

suppose it make sense.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/10/2007 7:19:53 AM Eastern Standard Time,

sbarna0@... writes:

But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I know

that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there is

to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

would be very much appreciated.

Hi, my ex used to let our son watch those horror movies with him and it is

not the kind of movies an aspi should be watching because they seem to " pickup "

off of movies. I hope that is all it is with your child, and you can just send

some info or have someone from the services involed talk to them.

[Guest guest]

Sounds like he's picking up on the tension of the divorce, and is

afraid someone might get hurt. Maybe he needs some reassurance?

Liz

On Jan 10, 2007, at 12:54 AM, sbarna0 wrote:

> I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

> ago.

>

> I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a picture

> that my boy drew.

>

> She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

> one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the girl

> in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not hair,

> it's blood. "

>

> Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied that

> she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic came

> from and he replied " in my imagination. "

>

> Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

> want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am in

> a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated him

> from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I know

> that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there is

> to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

>

> This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

> would be very much appreciated.

>

> Thanks

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

When my son was in first grade, his father and I separated (got back

together later before separating for good). He drew a picture of a

stick figure, a plus sign, a gun and a plus sign and some bullets.

He said the figure was himself.

My son started seeing the school counselor and they said he showed

signs of depression, and I should take him to someone. We had no

health insurance, and I couldn't take him to see anyone, so I did

the best I could to reassure him both his parents loved him, nothing

was his fault and he was a good kid, etc. He is 15 now and does not

ideate such thoughts anymore (said suicide is stupid). This is my

son without Asperger's, but it's my understanding that depression is

not an uncommon co-affliction for those with Asperger's, so if you

can afford it, I would definitely take him to see someone.

>

> > I have a boy who was diagnosed with very mild aspergers two years

> > ago.

> >

> > I met with his grade 1 teacher last week and she showed me a

picture

> > that my boy drew.

> >

> > She told me that he drew the head and face of a girl or woman. No

> > one in particular. Teacher said that she asked him who was the

girl

> > in the pic with all the red hair. He replied that " it's not

hair,

> > it's blood. "

> >

> > Teacher said she asked him how the girl got hurt and he replied

that

> > she was shot in the head. Teacher then asked him where the pic

came

> > from and he replied " in my imagination. "

> >

> > Now...what do I make of this? It is upsetting, yes. But I don't

> > want to over-react. There is not much I can do right now as I am

in

> > a heavy custody battle with my ex...who has compeletly alienated

him

> > from me. But I am very concerned. I am a teacher myself and I

know

> > that sometimes kids are just a little crude and that's all there

is

> > to it. However, my boy is a very gentle and calm child.

> >

> > This has caused me endless sleepless nights. Any advice or input

> > would be very much appreciated.

> >

> > Thanks

> >

> >

> >

>

>

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