Guest guest Posted February 23, 2002 Report Share Posted February 23, 2002 Re: my wife My husband knocks on the bathroom door too and asks what I'm doing in there (duh). My response is... " counting my money " . Betsy >> It was very hard at first for me also because I was so up tight about > doing that in the first place. I found that I had to do them when there was > no one here but me because my husband would knock on the door > and ask if I went down the drain etc. He does not do health things soooo... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2002 Report Share Posted February 24, 2002 I'm truly blessed to have a man that has not only patiently put up with me but also joined me in the bowel cleanses, colemas and gallbladder flushes. That is saying a lot for a stubborn macho man like mine! of Dewberry Hill My husband knocks on the bathroom door too and asks what I'm doing in there (duh). My response is... " counting my money " . Betsy >> It was very hard at first for me also because I was so up tight about > doing that in the first place. I found that I had to do them when there was > no one here but me because my husband would knock on the door > and ask if I went down the drain etc. He does not do health things soooo... > " People are like stain glass windows; they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is alight within. " -Kubler Ross " Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. " Holy Bible --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 2005 Report Share Posted October 1, 2005 Hello Tammy, Welcome to the group. My comment would be, beg him to go to the doctor. I used to think that I was invincable, nothing ever went wrong with me. I spent a whole year feeling crummy before I followed through enough with the doctors to find out what was wrong with me. I believe I caused more damage to my liver by ignorning things, rather then going to the doctor. It is just better to go and take care of yourself, especially if you have liver disease. It looks like he already has enough other problems with the diabetes, and enlarged spleen. I hope he will go see the docter. Take Care, and good luck I know how stubborn husbands can be at times, lol, (married 19 years and happy). Kelli > Hello all. My name is Tammy and my husband is Tom. I am new to the group. My > husband was diagnosed a couple of months ago with cirrhosis of the liver, due > to a lot of drinking in the past. He has not had a drink in 20 years, but it > has now come back to haunt him. He also has type 2 diabetes, an enlarged > spleen, ascites and so on. He takes 9 pills in the morning and 3 at night. All > that to say this, he woke up yesterday morning with pain on the left side - > kidney area and said he felt like someone kicked him in the jewels. His primary > doctor said to go to the urgent care, but mister STUBBORN said he will wait > and see if it gets worse. He still feels about the same. I was wondering if > anyone knows anything about this or has experienced it before. Can you give me > any info if possible? > > Thanks a lot for all your help > Tammy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 3, 2006 Report Share Posted June 3, 2006 is a dear, sweet and thoughtful man...most of the time. our daughter is pdd-nos and we all (including the drs) suspect he is 'aspergers light'. i find it so incredibly hard not to take it personally when he does not like to be touched, needs lots of space and exhibits other aspie like qualities. and when i try and speak with him about this he just thinks im mad at him...which im not - i just want things to improve. all emotion to him is me being angry, it seems. its also difficult for me because at his job he is (thankfully not touched =) but in high demand (hes a scientist that runs a very busy, high stress lab). i feel like i come in last place in his life as a result. hes all 'talked out' and 'put upon' by the time he gets home to me (im a sahm and i also freelance work from home so i dont get socialization outside of my toddler, playgroup and phone conversations) and then needs 'down time' because hes put on this front of being able to be social at work and throughout his day. as a result i get very lonely. i wait all day for some adult contact and stimulation and thats when he needs/wants it least. am i being selfish and need to suck it up or is there something i can do to make myself and my marriage better? he does not want to do to couples therapy because he does not see any issues in our marriage. cognitive therapy, also, is out of the question because he sees himself as a high functioning member of society. any advice or tips would be great. i realize i should not rely on him for my self worth/esteem...but sometimes he is so impossible to talk to and relate to i feel like im going crazy. thanks, meg Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 4, 2006 Report Share Posted June 4, 2006 =) thanks for the reply. its interesting because you hit the nail on the head that he does get incredibly defensive when i try to get information from him that he does not see as 'pertinent'. i feel like hes acting paranoid when he does this. and yes he does think im a total nag. which i hate, because i think i am sooo laid back and fairly easy going. i frequently feel like (excuse my language) its constantly a situation of me being damned if i do, or damned if i dont. for example, hes an incredibly talented woodworker and once he was designing and making for me a piece of furniture. whenever i would ask for the progress on the project, it seemed to set him back a month. but when i didnt remind him he was doing it, he would forget... it is also difficult for me to talk to him about interests that are exclusive to him. together we enjoy literature, great restaurants, wine, nature, music and politics. but some of his knowledge in some of his interests are so far beyong my scope of understanding that i end up doing a lot of smiling and nodding if he goes off on such a tangent. i can talk a little about woodworking with him, but it may turn ugly if i ask him to make something for me (because he might think i was manipulative in asking about it in the first place and that my motives were not altruistic). his job is impossible to talk with him about. whereas im mostly curious about office politics and gossip, he doesnt even notice those things. if he were to try and explain the work he does (electron microscopy analysis) after listening for a minute my eyes begin to glaze over because im so lost in all the physics terms he spews. but, like i said, we do have quite a few things in common, and i will make an effort to ask him more about his singular interests as well. i just hate that i feel 'last' in his life. i realize its because im the person closest to him, and he should be able to rely on me to support his as and give him a break. unfortunately, i find myself angry and resentful for the 'attention' he gives everyone else in his and our life as he tries to fake being nt with the rest of the world. meg >From: Donovan Arnold <donovanjarnold2005@...> >Reply- > >Subject: Re: ( ) my husband >Date: Sun, 4 Jun 2006 04:46:43 -0700 (PDT) > >, > > I would suggest that you learn about some of this interests. Ask him >questions about that. That is the best way to engage in conversation with >him. I have had to do that to have conversations with other Aspeis. > > When you talk to an Aspie about things they are not interested in it >comes across as nagging, annoying, and a distribution to their routine. It >also helps to tell them, it is not your intention to come across as >nagging so they don't go on the defensive with you. Remember, anything >attempting to get information out of them for reasons they do not >understand why, can be considered an attack, or threat. > > It is not your fault, or their fault, it is just the way we are. > > Take Care, > > Donovan J Arnold > >megan kerns <megan7876@...> wrote: is a dear, sweet and >thoughtful man...most of the time. our daughter is > pdd-nos and we all (including the drs) suspect he is 'aspergers light'. >i > find it so incredibly hard not to take it personally when he does not >like > to be touched, needs lots of space and exhibits other aspie like >qualities. > and when i try and speak with him about this he just thinks im mad at > him...which im not - i just want things to improve. all emotion to him >is > me being angry, it seems. > > its also difficult for me because at his job he is (thankfully not >touched > =) but in high demand (hes a scientist that runs a very busy, high >stress > lab). i feel like i come in last place in his life as a result. hes >all > 'talked out' and 'put upon' by the time he gets home to me (im a sahm >and i > also freelance work from home so i dont get socialization outside of my > toddler, playgroup and phone conversations) and then needs 'down time' > because hes put on this front of being able to be social at work and > throughout his day. as a result i get very lonely. i wait all day for >some > adult contact and stimulation and thats when he needs/wants it least. >am i > being selfish and need to suck it up or is there something i can do to >make > myself and my marriage better? > > he does not want to do to couples therapy because he does not see any >issues > in our marriage. cognitive therapy, also, is out of the question >because he > sees himself as a high functioning member of society. > > any advice or tips would be great. i realize i should not rely on him >for > my self worth/esteem...but sometimes he is so impossible to talk to and > relate to i feel like im going crazy. > > thanks, > > meg > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate.org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate.org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate.org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate.org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie,  Was married 18 years, had it when we got married, never got it. It's blood to blood. In other words no blood brothers. LOl Clorox kills it but he must clean his own blood up if he cuts hinself. I've chased away many people from my pool parties if some dingbat takes a glass glass out and I step on it. It's go home time as I wouldn't give this to my worst enemy. The word is EDUCATION. Learn everything. Ask anyone here. We are all in this together.  Patti From: walkerpc@... <walkerpc@...> Subject: Re: My husband Hepatitis C Date: Wednesday, February 17, 2010, 11:54 AM  Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate .org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie,  Was married 18 years, had it when we got married, never got it. It's blood to blood. In other words no blood brothers. LOl Clorox kills it but he must clean his own blood up if he cuts hinself. I've chased away many people from my pool parties if some dingbat takes a glass glass out and I step on it. It's go home time as I wouldn't give this to my worst enemy. The word is EDUCATION. Learn everything. Ask anyone here. We are all in this together.  Patti From: walkerpc@... <walkerpc@...> Subject: Re: My husband Hepatitis C Date: Wednesday, February 17, 2010, 11:54 AM  Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate .org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie,  Was married 18 years, had it when we got married, never got it. It's blood to blood. In other words no blood brothers. LOl Clorox kills it but he must clean his own blood up if he cuts hinself. I've chased away many people from my pool parties if some dingbat takes a glass glass out and I step on it. It's go home time as I wouldn't give this to my worst enemy. The word is EDUCATION. Learn everything. Ask anyone here. We are all in this together.  Patti From: walkerpc@... <walkerpc@...> Subject: Re: My husband Hepatitis C Date: Wednesday, February 17, 2010, 11:54 AM  Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate .org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 Dottie,  Was married 18 years, had it when we got married, never got it. It's blood to blood. In other words no blood brothers. LOl Clorox kills it but he must clean his own blood up if he cuts hinself. I've chased away many people from my pool parties if some dingbat takes a glass glass out and I step on it. It's go home time as I wouldn't give this to my worst enemy. The word is EDUCATION. Learn everything. Ask anyone here. We are all in this together.  Patti From: walkerpc@... <walkerpc@...> Subject: Re: My husband Hepatitis C Date: Wednesday, February 17, 2010, 11:54 AM  Dottie, Hang in there,I just found out myself about a month ago and go see the GI doc Feb. 24th. so I know where you are coming from. If you haven't already done so go to some web sites esp.www.hcvadvocate .org,great site. I urge you to get tested also, my husband was tested and he is negative and we have been married 25 yr.s. Good thing he is having a liver bx, will help you know where things stand. Worse part is the fear of the unknown so educate yourself. Thats what I have done since I haven't seen a doctor yet and most importantly just give it to God and trust Him. Carol > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2010 Report Share Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks for yor reply. I have decided to go be tested. the web site you said was very good. My husband is just so confused becuse the doc just say's he has had it for some time. Thats not a answer for him. He wants a better answer than that.What does that Mean? The unknown is the worst. I guess. I'll pray for everyone!!!! > > > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2010 Report Share Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks for yor reply. I have decided to go be tested. the web site you said was very good. My husband is just so confused becuse the doc just say's he has had it for some time. Thats not a answer for him. He wants a better answer than that.What does that Mean? The unknown is the worst. I guess. I'll pray for everyone!!!! > > > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2010 Report Share Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks for yor reply. I have decided to go be tested. the web site you said was very good. My husband is just so confused becuse the doc just say's he has had it for some time. Thats not a answer for him. He wants a better answer than that.What does that Mean? The unknown is the worst. I guess. I'll pray for everyone!!!! > > > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2010 Report Share Posted February 18, 2010 Thanks for yor reply. I have decided to go be tested. the web site you said was very good. My husband is just so confused becuse the doc just say's he has had it for some time. Thats not a answer for him. He wants a better answer than that.What does that Mean? The unknown is the worst. I guess. I'll pray for everyone!!!! > > > > Just found out he has hepatistis C and are about to do the liver bioposy. We are so scared!!!! I have no one to talk to. The doctor is saying if this test comes back with scaring. This will be bad!!! can someone please maybe tell me in real words what this means. also i don't know if i want to go get tested. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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