My 911 for help :-(

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I used to post here frequently last summer...but have fallen behind.

I have a 4yo with HF-Asperger's. We were dx in August. We are in

the midst of the paperwork for Wisconsin's in home autism waiver to

get medicaid. Then we have to wait forever still to get

approved/denied to start ANYTHING.

Ok. Here's my issues. TODAY day care had to call my husband at work

to try to get him to calm my son down over the phone. He was

hitting, punching, out of control. The provider said he was like a

caged animal lashing out at others that he was near; including big

kids, and smaller ones too. They had the pastor take him into his

office and try to talk to him about the things he was doing, and that

they were bad, and inappropriate. They are on the edge of kicking

him out. I live in a small town, that's 20 minutes away from other

towns, this is the 2nd of the two daycares in town and the first we

were kicked out of. I HAVE to work to still get health insurance.

We don't qualify for health insurance through the state or anything.

He and his 3yo sister are only in their care from 1:30 until 5:10 pm.

daily. I know that he doesn't always take a nap there, and that

escalates his 'bad' behavior on those days. We get there right at

nap time, and he does not get a 'wind-down' time. I do it before we

go there, but it seems useless some times.

Where do I go from here? There are no special needs day care type

places-places that are qualified to take care of 'out of the

ordinary' children. We tried getting into the early childhood

education classes at the public school, and through the evaluation

process were told he dind't qualify. He didn't have

enough 'problems'.

Do I try to get him some counseling?

Do I try to find a sitter in home that is in home, and can spend

more one on one time with him? (I've lived here a year and still

know no one to sit or friend-wise!!!)

Do I call the ECE teacher and see if she can recommend anyone???

Do I have him tested for wheat/gluten allergies?

HELP! I dont' know what to do next. My son is out of control, and

we are at wits end.

Thanks anyone for any help. Shell