[SPAM] Re: girl ways for AS boys?

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A lot of our AS boys apparently have effeminate ways. It is

absolutely on topic for us to discuss how we're handling this. If

you don't want to be a part of this particular thread, then don't

read it.

Meira

> >

> > I have read recently these posts about boys who play with

girl's

> toys, have feminine mannerisms, etc. My 7 yr. old son with

> Asperger's is the same way, except since he has done it for a

couple

> of years, he doesn't play with girl toys now as he understands

that

> if he does that, he will be made of in society, and that is just

a

> fact.And maybe someday the world will be perfect and that won't

> happen, but we are very much into trying to save him pain now.

> > I do not believe that since he was born a male that there is

> anything wrong with our trying to help him to be a male. In fact

it

> is encouraged. I don't believe it is inhumane or anything

> politically incorrect like that. It may save him a bit of

heartache

> down the road and we are really into that.I don't think that a

man

> who does a load of laundry or cooks dinner is effeminate, in

fact I

> would love it if that would happen around here! But I really

like

> the male of the human species.I love how different men and women

> are.I do not care to see little boys in pink dresses and playing

> with dolls and that is why we, my husband and I have, have

> discouraged this.In fact we are doing phone consults with a

> therapist at a clinic in California to try and help our son. He

has

> provided us with a lot of helpful information.

> > I believe I see a trend in the Asperger's community around

this

> issue, though I read somewhere that the rate of homosexuality is

no

> higher in the autism community than in the general population. I

> have an extensive education in the medical field. And, we are

madly

> in love with our kid and would only do what is best for him.If,

in

> the future, this problem doesn't resolve itself, we will deal

with

> it then, with God's help. I would like to think that we can talk

> about whatever we have on our minds in this online community,

> whenever we want, until a MODERATOR advises otherwise. And

really,

> how can you talk about gender identity issues without talking

about

> homosexuality!!??! Can't. I think it should be possible to talk

> about the whole topic as a problem because, if we are truthful,

it

> is for some people or they wouldn't even pause when they see

their

> kid playing with dolls when they think he should be playing with

> trucks.Some people WANT sons! And that is okay!

> > Really it is! So, for the people who think it is wonderful

that

> someday all the trappings of masculinity should disappear, let

alone

> procreation, this one's for you!!!!!!!!

> >

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