[Spam:SpamScore 3.4] Re: disciplining 6 yr old with asperger'

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Suzanne,

I think you might be on to something there. To this day I despise

yard work. My folx made me mow every week and I hated it. In fact

the only times I did want to do it was when they got a new mower and I

wanted to try it out.

Weeding, Mowing, Trimming bushes / trees. Stacking firewood, you name

it. I hated it all. Part of it was the work, some was my sensitivity

to light (I need dark glasses to be comfortable outside.)

In fact you might think about taking it a step further and getting one

of the old push / non powered reel lawn mowers for days he is

particularly disruptive. http://www.cleanairgardening.com/reelmowers.html

Once a year I might get inspired to work outside, but those days are

few and far between.

But also remember, anything you reward, you get more of. Use that to

draw out the behavior you do want too.

Jim

>

> My 10 year old punched the teacher this week so he had to come home. His

> behavior has been bad the past couple weeks at school and he has

come home

> early a few days. He likes that ....Mom picks him up and he gets out of

> school. Well this time mom called the diversion officer for our town

before

> I got him so she knew what was happening and she told me to make his day

> miserable. God gave me great weather sunny and 85 what more could

one ask

> for . He hates to be outside for the most part and God forbid he

would do

> anything outside. So this day he learned to cut the grass. He was madder

> then snake spit. He screamed at me and I calmly reminded him why he was

> doing this. I pointed out it didn't matter what he said because I

already

> had talked with the police and they knew what was going on. For the

first 40

> minutes of the lesson he cut the grass without the self propelled

part. He

> was not being nice and I didn't feel it was a necessary part for him

to know

> In fact I never did share that info, his older brother did after he

pointed

> out why would he ever get his way screaming at everyone in charge.

He tried

> to turn it around that it was my fault but big brother pointed out

again

> about punching the teacher. There was a lawn company that drove by

and gave

> me a look that was a killer look but I just smiled and waved.

> He did cut the grass again that evening because the mouth started up

again

> and dad decided he missed too many spots. He was very tired at

bedtime and

> went right to sleep for a change and slept well that night for a

change. We

> did give him breaks and lots of water after the intial screaming

stopped by

> the way because it was so warm and because his medicine can make him

> sensitive to the sun. But it was a hard working day for him....do I

think he

> learned anything...probably not yet except when I tell him what the

> consequence will be for a behavior he can count on it. He told me

yesterday

> that the rules at school are getting like the rules at home and I

told him

> that was because we were a team and working together and that if he

wanted

> more priveleges at school he has to show them he has changed and not

just

> tell them. We'll see when it sinks in.

> Suzanne

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