A week with the in-laws (infuriating!!!!)

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Hello all,

just wanted to vent a bit about a visit with my inlaws. We only see

them once a year for a week at our son's birthday. We live in PA and

they live in WA. We communicate by email and occasionally by phone

but they believe that they are the foremost authority on !

LOL Just wondering if anybody else has had experiences with family

members making inappropriate comments and how you handle them!

Day #1 we went to their hotel and within 5 minutes, things started to

get dicey! was great, greeted them with hugs and kisses and

then was playing with my FIL's laptop. My son loves to use the

internet (he just turned 4) and he can type in the url's of his

favorite sites. He went to the Wiggles website and FIL says (in his

most professional tone), " So, do you think his AS 'thing' is going to

be The Wiggles? " My husband and I both disgusted that he would come

out and say that sneered and said, " No " and he said, " So what do you

think it'll be? Music? " DH says, " Yeah, maybe. " to shut him up!

Then the doozie of them all- out of the blue he says, " If I was just

meeting him for the first time, I wouldn't know. " Again, I squint at

him and say, " Know what? " and he says, " That he has 'issues' " . I was

ready to pack up my kid and leave them there-he's not a circus side

show to be gawked at. Would it have been more appropriate if he had

been banging his head against the wall or throwing a fit on the floor?

We invited 's TSS worker to his party and FIL spent a good

part of the afternoon grilling her to the point of her being

uncomfortable. He just won't let it go!

A couple days later, we were all at the mall, was eating his

ice cream and for some reason the 'odd' uncle in MIL's family came

up. Anti social, didn't like change, etc...FIL says " Maybe he has

the same developmental problems does. " That was the last

straw. DH finally told him NOT to talk about that stuff in front of

. Come on! How rude can you get!!!!!

The last day they were here was a tough day. We went to the Crayola

Factory in Easton which is almost 70 miles from us. was in

good spirits but was clearly on sensory overload, buzzing around and

not listening. We left and drove the 70 miles back home and promptly

went to a sit down restaurant to eat. Not good for an active kid who

just spent an hour and a half riding in the car. DH and I can handle

him and we give him a little extra leway on tough days. He was

blowing bubbles in his soda. I personally don't object to it, we

were in a loud, family oriented restaurant and he wasn't bothering

anybody. If it's blowing bubbles in his soda or running circles

around the table, I'll take the bubbles, TYVM!! LOL FIL starts

barking at him about how rude it is to blow bubbles in his soda and I

tell him that it's OT. LOL!! FIL then again in his most

professional voice says, " He's really testing you tonight. " Yeah,

he's a four year old boy, not a friggin robot. I was so ready for

them to go, I can't even tell you.

Ahhh, I feel much better...I hope someone else has a story for me so

I know that we're not alone!!!