Name Calling

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She wasn't the real source for my answers, only a watered down version. I

apologize for her, but realize she was talking to me, and only me, not you.

I posted her comment to me on the post! Read the final verdict, and that

will be the end of your negativity towards BodyBalance! Don

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> Thanks for cutting and pasting the comments of your mentor Juli

> Ferrante stating that I am an " idiot " and " a creep " . I guess name

> calling is the final attempt of a feeble mind to win an arguement.

> It's good to see the people you are trusting reveal themselves for

> what they are.

> Bless you,

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[Guest guest]

Oh, quite the contrary Don. I've posted the information on a number of

other news groups and the reaction from MD's, PhD's and the like has

been of astonishment.

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She wasn't the real source for my answers, only a watered down version.

I

apologize for her, but realize she was talking to me, and only me, not

you.

I posted her comment to me on the post! Read the final verdict, and

that

will be the end of your negativity towards BodyBalance! Don

[ ] Name Calling

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> Thanks for cutting and pasting the comments of your mentor Juli

> Ferrante stating that I am an " idiot " and " a creep " . I guess name

> calling is the final attempt of a feeble mind to win an arguement.

> It's good to see the people you are trusting reveal themselves for

> what they are.

> Bless you,

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> I encourage the exchange of

> information. Let's do it without name calling or slandering.

Yes indeed. Perhaps " low_emf " doesn't realize that his

credibility suffers with the continued name calling

and swearing?

In any case, this sort of behavior is unacceptable

to me, so " low_emf " will be moderated from this point

forward.

So if you wish to see any of your posts make it to this

list " low_emf " , you will have to do it without name

calling, slander, or swearing. Otherwise, they will be

deleted.

Marc (list moderator)

[Guest guest]

My one offering on the name calling is this, our children are extremely

imitative, which doesn't make it ok, but your Nic heard it somewhere else

first. I would just make sure folks at school remember that. Sometimes

kids have gotten my daughter to say or do things because they think it's

funny, but she's the one who gets into trouble.

Just my .02.

Eleanor

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From: [mailto: ] On Behalf

Of Di

Sent: Tuesday, October 04, 2005 12:26 PM

Upsndowns

Subject: name calling

Nic has been calling people " Hiney-Butt " and " Stupid " at school he also will

blurt out " stinky-poo poo " for no reason...other than he thinks it funny.

I spoke with our wrap-around people on Friday about it. they said it's age

appropriate potty talk and that I should down-play it. I tried that but

yesterday I got a note from school saying he called some kids hiney butt and

wouldn't stop when told to. Today she sent me an email saying he called the

Art teacher " stupid " . Which I don't know where he got because we do not use

that word here at home.

She said she would do whatever I think is best. I think he should lose a

privilege and apologize of course but told her it had to be immediate or

he'd forget what the punishment was for.

Any suggestions????

Di

[Guest guest]

our children are extremely

imitative, which doesn't make it ok, but your Nic heard it somewhere else

first. I would just make sure folks at school remember that.

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And you think it's bad in elementary, wait till they get to High School.

You'll be learning words you never knew existed.

We are having major issues with that right now also.

One day the assistant principal was on the phone with me regarding a name

that Mav had called the bus aide.

At the same time, was at the HS to pick Maverick up. He said that

walking from his car to the parking lot he saw numerous students making out

and heard the word that Mav was accused of using several times.

It's NOT right, and Mav knows it, but he also sees the kids that he is

supposed to be like using it.

It's a challenge.

[Guest guest]

it's very frustrating too. I have our private BS saying to ignore it and his

teacher , who has a degree in behavior modification, asking ME what she should

do....I felt like saying " You're the one with the degree " .

I think there's a big difference between saying things like that at home and at

school. At home he kinda shouts the words at, not really at anyone in

particular. At school he's directing them at people. I've been saying things

like " that's a bad word " or " that's not nice " but the BS wants me to just ignore

it, which I can't!!!!

Di

Re: name calling

our children are extremely

imitative, which doesn't make it ok, but your Nic heard it somewhere else

first. I would just make sure folks at school remember that.

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And you think it's bad in elementary, wait till they get to High School.

You'll be learning words you never knew existed.

We are having major issues with that right now also.

One day the assistant principal was on the phone with me regarding a name

that Mav had called the bus aide.

At the same time, was at the HS to pick Maverick up. He said that

walking from his car to the parking lot he saw numerous students making out

and heard the word that Mav was accused of using several times.

It's NOT right, and Mav knows it, but he also sees the kids that he is

supposed to be like using it.

It's a challenge.

[Guest guest]

AMEN to that...we have an issue with " stupid " and our behaviorist says to

use the " extinction method " of ignoring the word by not making any response

to it...but the bottomline is someone at school has either told him he's

stupid or the kids are using the word and no one is hearing them...we happen

to be in a school that sends home when he calls someone " stupid " and

have had to have our advocate call to remind them about " systematic

exclusion " in an inclusive environment...

Marcia

7yo

name calling

Nic has been calling people " Hiney-Butt " and " Stupid " at school he also will

blurt out " stinky-poo poo " for no reason...other than he thinks it funny.

I spoke with our wrap-around people on Friday about it. they said it's age

appropriate potty talk and that I should down-play it. I tried that but

yesterday I got a note from school saying he called some kids hiney butt and

wouldn't stop when told to. Today she sent me an email saying he called the

Art teacher " stupid " . Which I don't know where he got because we do not use

that word here at home.

She said she would do whatever I think is best. I think he should lose a

privilege and apologize of course but told her it had to be immediate or

he'd forget what the punishment was for.

Any suggestions????

Di

[Guest guest]

My son also went threw a time like that. We did the apologizing

and privilage loss. But the best thing that happened was the teachers

looked for stories about manners, feelings and good behaviors to share

with to help him learn how to behave. loves books so this

worked very well with him. Sometimes it was a whole class lesson.

It was an ongoing

education for who is in 8th grade this year and called a girl

fat. But when he was told how unkind he was being, he understood and

apologized, wrote I must be nice to people, 10 times. But most

important he understood it wasn't nice to call names after years of

school and home teaching. So get your sons team at school involved in

character teaching. The school should help in teaching the kids how

to behave good. Instead of only focusing on the behavior at the bad

time. I hope this makes sense. Pam , " Di "

<drf218@p...> wrote:

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> Nic has been calling people " Hiney-Butt " and " Stupid " at school he

also will blurt out " stinky-poo poo " for no reason...other than he

thinks it funny.

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> I spoke with our wrap-around people on Friday about it. they said

it's age appropriate potty talk and that I should down-play it. I

tried that but yesterday I got a note from school saying he called

some kids hiney butt and wouldn't stop when told to. Today she sent me

an email saying he called the Art teacher " stupid " . Which I don't know

where he got because we do not use that word here at home.

> She said she would do whatever I think is best. I think he should

lose a privilege and apologize of course but told her it had to be

immediate or he'd forget what the punishment was for.

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> Any suggestions????

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> Di

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[Guest guest]

I have an almost 3 yr old daughter with an AS diagnosis. As most of you know

things come and go that we deal with our kids. Our problem of the week is " name

calling " She is the one doing the name calling and we are about at wits end on

how to stop it.

Ex. You need to stop doing xyz....... her reply you little poney do or you gor

dee. The words aren't even words and sometimes they are. I have tried time out

chair and explaining we don't call names but it is getting constant everytime

she is corrected. Her vocabulary is VERY good and she is very smart.

Any helpful insight?

Tammie

[Guest guest]

My 6 yo aspie gets called the names - my 4 yo aspie is

the name caller!

Some days you could tear your hair out he is so

relentless. So far I have effectively used the

following techniques.

Cause a distraction to get the kid off track

Time out - tough one but give it a few sessions and it

can work

In severe cases time out and favorite toy taken away.

We also ask him to apologise

He's still relentless some days but not as bad as he

has been. 3 even with an NT child can be a difficult

time for testing limits!

Best,

a

--- Tammie <trloe06@...> wrote:

> I have an almost 3 yr old daughter with an AS

> diagnosis. As most of you know things come and go

> that we deal with our kids. Our problem of the week

> is " name calling " She is the one doing the name

> calling and we are about at wits end on how to stop

> it.

> Ex. You need to stop doing xyz....... her reply you

> little poney do or you gor dee. The words aren't

> even words and sometimes they are. I have tried time

> out chair and explaining we don't call names but it

> is getting constant everytime she is corrected. Her

> vocabulary is VERY good and she is very smart.

> Any helpful insight?

> Tammie

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for the replies. I have tried both and it seemed to work some. Yesterday

she tried you ole panty waist to her sister. See they aren't bad names still

they drive us nuts. Anyhow I explained that we don't call names and how it hurt

feelings, etc. I said hmmmmmmmm if lets see if we can think of a nice way to

describe your sister. She thought then her answer........She's a BOY!!! lol

still a name call but she thought she could get away with it.

I think I am really going to start monitoring her TV shows. Problem is she may

not be watching it is just on but she seems to absorb whole episodes. Last night

her nose was stuffy and she tells me she is the worst child in the world. I

explain again no you aren't you have a cold it's not you fault etc...........

But its the phrases she comes up with that get me. We have seen a pattern in

some of the phrases and have identified them from shows.

Also I meant to say she is almost 4 in two months.

Thanks,

Tammie