Where do you draw the line

[Guest guest]

The question I struggle with daily with my Aspie, is where do you draw

the line between helping your child cope and when you are hindering

their ability to cope with the adult world by defending them. Like the

question on recess, that would not work for my child because he has the

reverse problem, (he wants to skip recess and stay in with the teacher)

but how do you know when consequences are fair or just necessary? Like

with my son, his handwriting is terrible. For a while I dimissed it

because he has a few motor control problems and the teacher would go

ahead and count things correct if she could figure it out. Then I

noticed that when he was doing art projects for himself at home they

were very neat and his handwriting was wonderful. So I asked to teacher

to mark him wrong if she couldnt' read it. He likes to make good

grades, so now all the sudden he can write neat. I understand that

somethings are part of the Asperger syndrome, but I just feel that if I

don't force him to overcome some of these issues, he will never make

it. So I guess I am asking how do you know when to make allowances or

to push ten times harder?

Becky