Re: My name is Josie and my 10 year old son has Asperger's

[Guest guest]

Hi and welcome,

I have a 6yo AS boy who pretty much does the same

thing - reads and remembers - he has the memory of an

elephant!

Sorry to hear about the trouble at school - maybe

someone else will have some ideas for you as I am a

homeschooling Mum.

Good luck,

a

--- joannabaskaran <tojosie@...> wrote:

> I have been fighting with the school for 2 years now

> to help me, but

> because memorizes everything he reads and his

> IQ is so high The

> county keeps telling me that he doesn't qualify for

> any outside help.

> Does anyone have any ideas? I know that he is smart,

> but he needs extra

> help mainly socially I don't know what else to do or

> what avenue to

> turn down. Now he is purposely failing everything! I

> think he is bored.

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Wish I had a solution. I think it'd be easier to get it addressed if

he was younger. In middle school I brought up socialization and

that's not the school's problem apparently. My son (now 17) also has

a great memory. I don't think it's quite as good now as when younger,

I thought back then maybe it was a photographic memory but it's not.

Anyway, he distracts a bit easier now, but still a good memory, an A

student!

Is your son in any classes there for gifted?

>

> I have been fighting with the school for 2 years now to help me, but

> because memorizes everything he reads and his IQ is so high

The

> county keeps telling me that he doesn't qualify for any outside

help.

> Does anyone have any ideas? I know that he is smart, but he needs

extra

> help mainly socially I don't know what else to do or what avenue to

> turn down. Now he is purposely failing everything! I think he is

bored.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi. You might want to use this article to back up the need for your son to

have an IEP.

_Federal Judge Rules That Asperger's Syndrome Is A Disability_

(http://www.faslink.org/AspergersJudgment.htm)

[Guest guest]

Oh, bullying and school! Wish I had more time now. But I've things

saved at home (I'm at work) that may help you with the school on

this issue. Your son does NOT have to put up with any type of

harassment, teasing, etc. Which you know, it's just getting the

school to do something about it. I was picked on growing up, so am

touchy on this subject. Yes, it stays with you always, or did me

anyway.

Oh my brother (I'm a single mom) would say similar about my kids,

the " kids are kids " thing and not to be overprotective re other kids

picking on or whatever with my sons. Now some things that bothered

some of my sons when younger (being picked last when choosing teams

for instance) they just shrug those memories off although it really

bothered them back then. Me, I can maybe shrug at the memory but

the " feeling " is still there with certain memories. OK, I'll quit

rambling on, LOL.

If your son isn't getting any positive socialization at all at

school then I wouldn't worry about socialization re homeschooling.

If he has a few friends, then that's different. There are outside

activities, clubs he could probably join/participate in for social

reasons.

I'd like to kick that specialist at school!

I'll try to remember at home to look for the info I saved on

bullying! Was researching/reading for info to use with my son if

needed back in middle school.

>

> Thanks, he is in 4th grade, but studying 7th grade curriculum.

They won't

> move him physically because of the social problem. I have been

trying to

> get help for so long now and every year it seems the school just

[Guest guest]

I know I just replied to you other, but here I am again! LOL. doesn't

have any friends. Let me tell you what has happened to him just last year.

Kids spit in his lunch, ate his snack, peed (sp?)in his shoes, beat him,

threatened to kill him ( which he takes literally) I could go on and on. I

have actually started an anti - bullying campaign at the school, but of

course that is moving slowly. I think because children don't see a physical

disability they have a tendency to be worse than " regular " bullies. I DON'T

KNOW! All I know is with the AS 's big problem is the social side and

he shows NO emotion, but NOW he freaks out when it's time for school!

-- ( ) Re: My name is Josie and my 10 year old son has

Asperger's

Oh, bullying and school! Wish I had more time now. But I've things

saved at home (I'm at work) that may help you with the school on

this issue. Your son does NOT have to put up with any type of

harassment, teasing, etc. Which you know, it's just getting the

school to do something about it. I was picked on growing up, so am

touchy on this subject. Yes, it stays with you always, or did me

anyway.

Oh my brother (I'm a single mom) would say similar about my kids,

the " kids are kids " thing and not to be overprotective re other kids

picking on or whatever with my sons. Now some things that bothered

some of my sons when younger (being picked last when choosing teams

for instance) they just shrug those memories off although it really

bothered them back then. Me, I can maybe shrug at the memory but

the " feeling " is still there with certain memories. OK, I'll quit

rambling on, LOL.

If your son isn't getting any positive socialization at all at

school then I wouldn't worry about socialization re homeschooling.

If he has a few friends, then that's different. There are outside

activities, clubs he could probably join/participate in for social

reasons.

I'd like to kick that specialist at school!

I'll try to remember at home to look for the info I saved on

bullying! Was researching/reading for info to use with my son if

needed back in middle school.

>

> Thanks, he is in 4th grade, but studying 7th grade curriculum.

They won't

> move him physically because of the social problem. I have been

trying to

> get help for so long now and every year it seems the school just

[Guest guest]

--- Joanna Baskaran <tojosie@...> wrote:

Let me tell you what has happened

> to him just last year.

> Kids spit in his lunch, ate his snack, peed (sp?)in

> his shoes, beat him,

> threatened to kill him ( which he takes literally) I

> could go on and on.

That is just totally inexcusable of the school. But I

know, from experience, the schools don't really deal

with the kids that bully when it tends to be a " group "

effort vs. an individual. We had issues in the middle

school where a kid was bullying my son, but it was

because there were kids picking on this particular

student. But when I went to have his bullying my son,

he was totally punished, but the kids that pushed him

to the edge were never dealt with. They moved the kid

to another area of the school away from the kids that

were picking on him, but never addressed the issues.

Our schools have a no tolerance policy. So anyone

doing anything that could be termed " bullying " is

dealt with. has had a kid that for the past 3

years has bullied him. The first year he would take

his french fries at lunch and sometimes lunch money.

The 2nd year, he would punch in the stomach

every time he saw him.

Last year, they were at a new school, and

didn't tell us that the kid was bullying him again. I

think he was thinking that we've reported this kid for

the two previous years, the kid has had in-school

restriction as a result, and yet the kid continued to

bully him, so what was the point? But he still

harrassed during lunch last year. He would take

's books and pencil bag and wouldn't give them

back, and then he'd either throw them on the floor for

to pick up when he was ready to give them up,

or make beg for them. never said a word.

He said it started like in February. Two days before

school ended, came home and was complaining

about some marks on his arms. He was concerned (thanks

to his OCD) that he'd get lead poisoning because the

marks were made from a pencil being stuck in his arm.

He had 3 stab marks from a pencil from this kids. So

you KNOW I went to school. The school was VERY

accomodating. I had his dean that conducted the

meeting. He brought in the safety monitor at the

school and had to report it. He had the nurse come in

and inspect the wounds, and make sure they were

fine-no infection or anything. It was all written up

in a report. After I spoke to him, he had come

in and talk with him and tell him what had been going

on. The dean then had the safety specialist come in

and he relayed to the safety specialist what

had said and would ask if that was correct, so

didn't have to talk to this guy he didn't know.

And he had 's case manager in the room as well

to help feel comfortable.

After the meeting, they told him to eat lunch in the

" House " where they could monitor him so nothing would

happen. (He didn't do that because he wanted to be

with his friends). And, the dean told me to make sure

that this kid was not in 's classes this year or

lunch period. Well, unfortunately, they are on the

same lunch period and actually sit at the same table.

I have spoken to the case manager about it and

himself told him (after much prompting) how

uncomfortable he feels about the kid being at the same

table at lunch. I have been assured that he will be

monitored to make sure nothing happens. One thing they

kept telling him was that if ANYTHING happened, to go

to them immediately. I told them that my point was I

didn't want ANYTHING to happen. I didn't want it to

get to that point. But they said that they can't

assign the other kid to another table until he does

something because their policy is that the new year

begins with a " clean slate " . I am glad mentioned

the council because if anything does happen again this

year, I am glad I have that resource to contact.

The only thing is, this kid is apparently bullied at

home or has a VERY strict parent. I have heard from

the dean of the last school how the parent handled one

of the situations, and it sounded like the kid himself

was going to " get pounded " from his father. So it is

hard for me to report this kid-knowing that the

homelife is probably the reason for his " acting out " .

At least my experience with having a special needs kid

has helped me see the " other side " and be a little

more perceptive of what may be causing the problem to

begin with. Doesn't help my child's fear of this other

kid, but we have talked about how this child probably

has a hard life at home and we can have a little more

understanding as to why he acts the way he does.

IMO, your school needs to step up to the plate and

deal with the situation better and be " more on the

ball. " I wouldn't want to go to school in that type of

environment either. UGH!

Melinda

[Guest guest]

You need to get over to wrightslaw.com and do some reading there. Did the

school do an IQ test?

Roxanna

( ) My name is Josie and my 10 year old son has

Asperger's

I have been fighting with the school for 2 years now to help me, but

because memorizes everything he reads and his IQ is so high The

county keeps telling me that he doesn't qualify for any outside help.

Does anyone have any ideas? I know that he is smart, but he needs extra

help mainly socially I don't know what else to do or what avenue to

turn down. Now he is purposely failing everything! I think he is bored.

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[Guest guest]

do you have a recent evaluation stating the Asperger's diagnosis? would the

evaluator be willing to testify at a due process hearing? There is recent

case law and the new IDEA language, stating that a child does not have to be

failing academically to be eligible for an IEP. Pam