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Beck,

I have the book and did read it. I found that the first half of it was

relative to my teenage Aspie. I was disappointed in the second half. The

way the story went towards the end, in how the boy figured out about his

mother's " death " and how his dad dealt with the situation was not what I

would have expected while reading it. Let me know what you think when you

are finished. I am always curious how others feel about the book.

Janelle

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Speaking of books have any of you read

" the curious incident of the dead dog in the night time " It is meant to be

written from the perspective of a teenage boy with Aspersers and I was

wondering if anyone thought it was even remotely close. I am finding it

very interesting reading so far.

Beck

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Janelle,

I think that people with HFA can learn to behave more appropriately if

they are taught how. The thing is, people do not bother. They assume that a

person with Apergers or HFA are either not capable, or just give up on

trying to teach them.

Social skills are the most vital employment skill you can have. I have

three college degrees and cannot keep a job because I don't understand

what people are " getting at " when they speak. People assume you know what

they are saying when they use, improper English, indirect commands, and

body language. Many times non aspies use it in a combination and expect us

to decipher the code and know what they mean, otherwise they say, we don't

listen, are insubordinate, just incapable of doing the job, or my favorite

" You are just trying to be difficult " .

I find that when people explain to me, some social rules, customs, and

how others think, it directly improves my ability to communicate with

others. Most people are very direct in their communication. But many others

are not. The best way to help people with Aspies is to explain to them the

social rules. Explain that these social rules DO NOT make any sense, they

are not logical, but they need to memorize them and act accordingly so that

they can keep a job, have friends, and get along with others, they don't

have to agree with them or like them.

I also think that, and pray to God that, someone would create a book

that explaines social rules to people with Aspies. Nobody does. They just

expect us to learn after we anger 100s of people in our lives as we try to

figure them out one by one making their lives, and the lives of others they

come in contact with more unpleasant then need be.

Aspies are like Shasta of the Wolves, we understand a different set of

social rules than human society.

Take Care,

Donovan J Arnold