dating or something like it

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My 9yo came home from school crying hysterically a few months ago

because she had asked to marry her and he said no. And a few

weeks aho she told me that they'd " broken up " . She's been in love with

this boy since they met the day of her interview at the school almost

two years ago. And from the way she tells it, he had been just as in

love with her. I do remember that in the first few months, when I'd

bring her to school late, he would run up to her very excited that she

was there. I guess I hadn't noticed that when I'd bring her late since

then, he stays in his seat doing his work. I suppose I'd figured he'd

gotten better control of himself. When I mentioned the " break-up " to

the teachers however they were very very confused. The head teacher

said she's never even noticed them playing together. From what she can

figure out, this almost two year relationship was completely in

's mind. I'm not yet sure how to talk to her about this

possibility. When she told me he wouldn't marry her, that one I could

deal with. I explained to her how most 11yo boys just aren't ready for

a lifetime commitment. I made it through that one okay. But this one?

That the entire love affair has been one-sided since a couple of months

after they met? I have no clue what, if anything, to do.

Meira

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> We haven't talked about " feelings " yet. but even in 3 & 4 grade my

kids are telling me which boys like which girls, and the girls run from

them, or tease them.

> I thought this conversation would be later. But later is happening

now. When they bring this up again. We will talk about that as well.

My son just told my daughter that a boy in his class likes her. she is

now asking me to buy her nice skirts. time does fly.

> I'm the same way...any child can come to our home. one boy asked

me if my son can go to his house and meet/play with his friends. I

wish I were ready. but I'm not.

> thanks for posting this. *smile*

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