Re: Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

[Guest guest]

We do a lot of social type stories with my son. He doesn't do it a lot but

sometimes I just cringe. I know there are books out there with the stories but

right now I make them up and put them in first person for him. Usually, it is a

scenerio that just went wrong. I explain why it was wrong and then I set the

situation up and ask him what he could have done differently.

( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

see what was wrong with what she said.

I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

people, ask me in private).

Any ideas? Resources?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

I hate to tell you this, but we STILL do social stories, and my son is 18!

Mostly, he functions pretty well and doesn't need them, but he HATES

talking on the phone. Hence, the social stories/rehearsals of what to say.

By the way, 's psychology teacher made the class vote on 4 people to

take the psych quiz yesterday. The grade received (jointly) by those 4

people would be the grade received by the whole class. The class voted for

as one of the four. Together, the four kids got 100%! BTW, he said

he has hardly ever felt so nervous in his whole life! I expect they will

talk about it tomorrow in class.

Liz

> We do a lot of social type stories with my son. He doesn't do it a lot but

> sometimes I just cringe. I know there are books out there with the stories

> but right now I make them up and put them in first person for him.

> Usually, it is a scenerio that just went wrong. I explain why it was wrong

> and then I set the situation up and ask him what he could have done

> differently.

[Guest guest]

Maybe I need to start doing social stories with my boys. They say some things

they call joking that are just plain NOT funny and sometimes offensive.They told

me last night I was two faced and I asked them why? and n said oh, we're

just teasing and kissed me goodnight then said ok turn your other face over here

so I can kiss that face too. That is not as bad as some of the things they say,

just a tiny example.

Toni and Wa-hya http://www.dogster.com/?370577

Re: ( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

I hate to tell you this, but we STILL do social stories, and my son is 18!

Mostly, he functions pretty well and doesn't need them, but he HATES

talking on the phone. Hence, the social stories/rehearsals of what to say.

By the way, 's psychology teacher made the class vote on 4 people to

take the psych quiz yesterday. The grade received (jointly) by those 4

people would be the grade received by the whole class. The class voted for

as one of the four. Together, the four kids got 100%! BTW, he said

he has hardly ever felt so nervous in his whole life! I expect they will

talk about it tomorrow in class.

Liz

> We do a lot of social type stories with my son. He doesn't do it a lot but

> sometimes I just cringe. I know there are books out there with the stories

> but right now I make them up and put them in first person for him.

> Usually, it is a scenerio that just went wrong. I explain why it was wrong

> and then I set the situation up and ask him what he could have done

> differently.

[Guest guest]

I have the opposite problem. My son doesn't understand when someone says a

" joke " and takes it totally litterally. If it's something that's not true but

just a joke he calls it a black lie.

Toni <kbtoni@...> wrote: Maybe I need to start doing social

stories with my boys. They say some things they call joking that are just plain

NOT funny and sometimes offensive.They told me last night I was two faced and I

asked them why? and n said oh, we're just teasing and kissed me goodnight

then said ok turn your other face over here so I can kiss that face too. That is

not as bad as some of the things they say, just a tiny example.

Toni and Wa-hya http://www.dogster.com/?370577

Re: ( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

I hate to tell you this, but we STILL do social stories, and my son is 18!

Mostly, he functions pretty well and doesn't need them, but he HATES

talking on the phone. Hence, the social stories/rehearsals of what to say.

By the way, 's psychology teacher made the class vote on 4 people to

take the psych quiz yesterday. The grade received (jointly) by those 4

people would be the grade received by the whole class. The class voted for

as one of the four. Together, the four kids got 100%! BTW, he said

he has hardly ever felt so nervous in his whole life! I expect they will

talk about it tomorrow in class.

Liz

> We do a lot of social type stories with my son. He doesn't do it a lot but

> sometimes I just cringe. I know there are books out there with the stories

> but right now I make them up and put them in first person for him.

> Usually, it is a scenerio that just went wrong. I explain why it was wrong

> and then I set the situation up and ask him what he could have done

> differently.

[Guest guest]

How do you get your child to want to do the social stories? Anytime I want to do

anything related to AS, like social stories, or a " feelings " book, he so does

not want to.

Beth Krepps <kreppsb@...> wrote: We do a lot of social type

stories with my son. He doesn't do it a lot but sometimes I just cringe. I know

there are books out there with the stories but right now I make them up and put

them in first person for him. Usually, it is a scenerio that just went wrong. I

explain why it was wrong and then I set the situation up and ask him what he

could have done differently.

( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

see what was wrong with what she said.

I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

people, ask me in private).

Any ideas? Resources?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

The school does them for us..... The resistance is then much less than " mom " or

" dad " talking about it

( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

see what was wrong with what she said.

I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

people, ask me in private).

Any ideas? Resources?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

Well, we do a lot of talking in the car. He doesn't have to make eye contact but

I can see him in the rearview and see if he is listening. So since we aren't

formally sitting down and we discuss a lot in the car I don't think it occurs to

him that we are doing something important. I find out a lot of what he is

thinking and feeling in the car but if I were to sit him down on the couch I

wouldn't get that information out of him.

( ) Social Skills-inappropriate public comments

How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

see what was wrong with what she said.

I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

people, ask me in private).

Any ideas? Resources?

Thanks!

[Guest guest]

I have asked my son to " whisper " those kinds of comments in my ear or save

them until we are alone. He is 9 and it works a little now, but when he was

younger it didn't. Pam

[Guest guest]

,

That's a hard one. I think it comes over time. I would take the

opportunity to get books out of the library about " brown people, "

Asian American people, African American people, and every other sort

of hyphenated-American people. Use every time she makes a social gaff

as a teaching tool. Make a social story about it when you get home.

We took a LONG camping trip with some Indian-American friends of ours

when was about seven. Our daughter wanted to ride in the car

with their son, so rode in their car, and their son rode in

our's. Apparently, they had a long conversation (at 's

initiation) about why their skin was so brown. I was mortified, but

they handled it very matter of factly, explaining that they came from

India, close to the equator,, and their skin had lots of melanin in

it to protect it from the sun's powerful rays.

Liz

On Sep 20, 2006, at 11:18 PM, wrote:

> How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

> isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

> understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

>

> One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

> when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

>

> Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

> LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

> kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

> see what was wrong with what she said.

>

> I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

> said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

> people, ask me in private).

>

> Any ideas? Resources?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

When I had my IEP meeting, the sped teacher said the whole 9th grade has

been inappropriate with the sounds of passing gas, and all that goes with it,

seems to be a pretty funny subject for all the kids, even the Teachers are

getting some laughs. :-O

[Guest guest]

I have tried to find a really simple rule with my son -- don't make any comments

about anyone's appearance (until he learns to distinguish between a nice comment

and an insulting one -- because he tries to say nice things but frequently

misses, like " your armpits smell great! Or your eyebrows look like crayon

lines!). Or don't say things about differences (including disabilities) that

other people can hear. The explanation of why might have to wait until they're

older, and can understand how their desire to speak the truth can hurt people.

Liz Bohn <lbohn@...> wrote:

,

That's a hard one. I think it comes over time. I would take the

opportunity to get books out of the library about " brown people, "

Asian American people, African American people, and every other sort

of hyphenated-American people. Use every time she makes a social gaff

as a teaching tool. Make a social story about it when you get home.

We took a LONG camping trip with some Indian-American friends of ours

when was about seven. Our daughter wanted to ride in the car

with their son, so rode in their car, and their son rode in

our's. Apparently, they had a long conversation (at 's

initiation) about why their skin was so brown. I was mortified, but

they handled it very matter of factly, explaining that they came from

India, close to the equator,, and their skin had lots of melanin in

it to protect it from the sun's powerful rays.

Liz

On Sep 20, 2006, at 11:18 PM, wrote:

> How did you teach your Asperger kids what was appropriate and what

> isn't appropriate to say in public? My daughter doesn't seem to

> understand even with simple explanation what she did wrong.

>

> One day, she demanded at a gas station why theydidn't have icee's

> when SHE wanted an icee? She was no polite.

>

> Today, at target, she announced that brown people confuse her.

> LOUDLY. I am not a predujice person and take pride in raising my

> kids the same way, heck, me eldest is biracial. She honestly didn't

> see what was wrong with what she said.

>

> I can't seem to get her to understand that somethings just aren't

> said in public and if she had such questions (like about " brown "

> people, ask me in private).

>

> Any ideas? Resources?

>

> Thanks!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

too funny!

>

> When I had my IEP meeting, the sped teacher said the whole 9th grade

has

> been inappropriate with the sounds of passing gas, and all that goes

with it,

> seems to be a pretty funny subject for all the kids, even the

Teachers are

> getting some laughs. :-O

>

>

>