Guest guest Posted September 9, 2006 Report Share Posted September 9, 2006 That sounds exactly like at 3. It also sounds EXACTLY like Dylan right now--he's 20 months. used to throw things during his tantrums and is a GREAT aim!! There was one night at bowling that he got mad about something and threw a bowling shoe at me, ending up hitting Dylan (who was a couple months old at the time), me, and then Hunter, who happened to be sitting on a chair behind me. But once he threw the shoe and hit me, he was over his mad. He couldn't understand why I handed Dyl off to a friend and escorted him to the restroom for a stern talking to. never really screamed during his fits--he was more violent and aggressive. His favorite thing to do was beat his head against a brick wall. We had the wall covered with sheet rock and padding!! : ) Dylan, on the other hand, SCREAMS bloody murder every time he gets even just a little upset over anything. He throws toys, cups, food, ANYTHING he gets his hands on when he's mad. We're seeing so much of the behaviors had before he started his Lexapro in Dylan, so we're wondering if he might be AS as well. Everything you mentioned are the behaviors that we've dealt with with our diagnosed AS and with our suspected AS. You are not alone!!! mother of /8/anxiety, GERD, asthma /6/AS, anxiety, epilepsy, asthma Hunter/4/asthma Dylan/1/NT (so far) ( ) 3yr old w/ AS Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.405 / Virus Database: 268.12.2/442 - Release Date: 9/8/2006 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2006 Report Share Posted September 9, 2006 I have a 3 yr old daughter with AS. She does all the things you mention. I am constantly being told oh she is spoiled. I have three older daughters and a son. They never acted like her and if they ever had their moments where they acted out the behavior was corrected. They seem to get the idea it was wrong and that was it. I feel like I am the one hitting my head on the brick wall. Hitting seems to be her main thing right now. Also asking the same thing over and over! It's like she thinks the answer will change. She also will repeat the last 4 words said to her. It used to be aloud but now she whispers it to herself. The last big thing now is transition. She had a friend playing today at our house. When her friends Mom came to pick her up it was a total meltdown. No amt. of talking explaining to her did any good. Then its as if she turns her head and she is over it. Good Luck, Tammie ( ) 3yr old w/ AS Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2006 Report Share Posted September 9, 2006 It's so nice to hear that what we are experiencing isn't just us. I'm sorry we all have to deal w/ it, but at least we aren't alone!! We have 3 other kids that are older and when they would act up like normal toddlers we would discipline them appropriately and it would be done. W/ Isaiah, it's like he could care less. When he started smacking me across the face i was like, that's it, I'm done. Something isn't right. I still feel like i'm in shock. We are going to have him evulated further thru our school system so see if he will qualify for the early childhood program. Im almost afraid they'll say, oh he's fine, he's just naughty or something. I guess i'm still adjusting to this. We already have a daughter that was born w/ a physical disability-her bladder was on the outside of her body. She's had 12 surgeries and we've been thru hell w/ all of that. Now I feel like here we go again just in a different realm. Does that make sense? I hear that kids w/ AS fall under being diagnosed w/ Autism which is a recognized disabiltiy.. all of that is still a mystery to me as well. Again I have rambled. Thanks for replying and listening! - -- In , " Tammie " <trloe06@...> wrote: > > I have a 3 yr old daughter with AS. She does all the things you mention. I am constantly being told oh she is spoiled. I have three older daughters and a son. They never acted like her and if they ever had their moments where they acted out the behavior was corrected. They seem to get the idea it was wrong and that was it. I feel like I am the one hitting my head on the brick wall. Hitting seems to be her main thing right now. Also asking the same thing over and over! It's like she thinks the answer will change. She also will repeat the last 4 words said to her. It used to be aloud but now she whispers it to herself. The last big thing now is transition. She had a friend playing today at our house. When her friends Mom came to pick her up it was a total meltdown. No amt. of talking explaining to her did any good. Then its as if she turns her head and she is over it. > Good Luck, > Tammie > ( ) 3yr old w/ AS > > > Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are > experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been > diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of > what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums > that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws > things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of > time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's > just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from > our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah > that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is > done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. > Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2006 Report Share Posted September 9, 2006 Hi , I wish I'd known that my son had Asperger's at 3. He scratched, bit, punched, pulled hair, screamed etc, and from the age of 2 every doctor etc I took him to said that it was just parenting issues (I was single mum to 4 kids at the time - 5 now). It took my parents to take for a while (about 6 months), partly out of desperation at the time, to get any kind of answers. He was 6 at the time. Even now I find it difficult to get health proffesionals to take me seriously (even though he was diagnosed by Dr Tony Attwood). I pretty much don't bother any more with " help " for (apart from what I arrange for myself - he gets 4 hours a week with a respite worker who takes him fishing or to the footy). Once I got the diagnosis, doctor's just wanted to have him on medication and over the next 4 years we tried heaps (ritalin - disastorous-like on speed, anti-depresants and anti-psycotic - like respiridal-used for schizophrenia). I finally realised that medication was not the answer (for anyway - I'm not dissing what works for other families), so the last 2 years has been about trying to find other things to help . We are only just starting diet now, as every doctor I have asked about diet has told me that it wouldn't make any differece and that my time would be better spent working on parenting issues! Incidentally, my other kids don't have major behavioural problems. Something else you might find interesting is that my 10 year old son (who was diagnosed at 2 as Autistic but after an intensive therapy program was considered 'normal' at 3), chucked such huge tantrums at 2 that I was bewildered as to what to do for him. He rocked and banged his head (so much that he had to wear a helmet to protect his forehead). His tantrums involved screaming for hours at a time. He would not be comforted. He would go rigid and arch his back when I picked him up, and just scream and scream. The tantrums stopped when he was about 3 and a half, but were replaced by night terrors, sleep walking and restless sleep. What I want to say to you is that it will get better. Also you have the benefit of knowledge (about Asperger's) and some very experienced parents to communicate with in this support group (I'm a newie to the group too). is 13 now and has temper problems, anxiety and anger/aggression, etc. I have had an email from another mum who has told me that there are 2 kinds of AS kids - quiet and placid (doctor's seem to be under the impression that all AS kids are like this) and the kind my son is (active, loud, behaviour issues, etc). Lots of mums in this group have reminded me that they call it Autism spectrum for a reason - that all kids on the spectrum from Autistic to high functioning to Asperger's and everything in between are individual and no 2 are exactly the same. My own take on this has always been that Asperger's does not mean that doesn't have a unique personality. I have literally been told by some doctors/ psycologists that that is exactly what they think it is! Anyway, LOL Jenner (from Queensland, Australia) > > Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are > experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been > diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of > what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums > that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws > things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of > time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's > just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from > our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah > that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is > done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. > Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2006 Report Share Posted September 10, 2006 What state are you in? I am not sure about other states but I am in Texas. Here the schools give our kids the PDD-NOS diagnosis. It's where they get their funding from (I was told) Did your Dr that diagnosed him give any things in his/her report about therapies he will need or any type of schooling? Ours did so I took that to the school with me. A trained psychologist will be able to see his problems that will qualify him for the school program. Yes, it makes sense my 15 yr old has a physical disability (OI) and I have battled the school for services for her since she was 5. Tammie ( ) 3yr old w/ AS > > > Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are > experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been > diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of > what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums > that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws > things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of > time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's > just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from > our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah > that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is > done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. > Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2006 Report Share Posted September 11, 2006 - Well my AS son is not throwing tantrums yet. He has always been the quiet and placid type but I just wanted to tell you that I can relate to having two children with special needs. My first child was born with Down Syndrome and had 4 open heart surgeries and 2 abdominal surgeries and then we lost her at 13 months to a brain hemmhorage. I am pregnant with my third and just praying that I might get to experience an NT child although I love my special kids so much and will take what God gives me. When did Isaiah start the angry outbursts? I just wonder because my AS son is only two but he has started getting a tad more agressive lately which isn't like him. Take Care- Heidi > > It's so nice to hear that what we are experiencing isn't just us. I'm > sorry we all have to deal w/ it, but at least we aren't alone!! We > have 3 other kids that are older and when they would act up like > normal toddlers we would discipline them appropriately and it would > be done. W/ Isaiah, it's like he could care less. When he started > smacking me across the face i was like, that's it, I'm done. > Something isn't right. I still feel like i'm in shock. We are going > to have him evulated further thru our school system so see if he will > qualify for the early childhood program. Im almost afraid they'll > say, oh he's fine, he's just naughty or something. I guess i'm still > adjusting to this. We already have a daughter that was born w/ a > physical disability-her bladder was on the outside of her body. She's > had 12 surgeries and we've been thru hell w/ all of that. Now I feel > like here we go again just in a different realm. Does that make > sense? I hear that kids w/ AS fall under being diagnosed w/ Autism > which is a recognized disabiltiy.. all of that is still a mystery to > me as well. Again I have rambled. Thanks for replying and listening! > - > > > > > > -- In , " Tammie " <trloe06@> wrote: > > > > I have a 3 yr old daughter with AS. She does all the things you > mention. I am constantly being told oh she is spoiled. I have three > older daughters and a son. They never acted like her and if they ever > had their moments where they acted out the behavior was corrected. > They seem to get the idea it was wrong and that was it. I feel like I > am the one hitting my head on the brick wall. Hitting seems to be her > main thing right now. Also asking the same thing over and over! It's > like she thinks the answer will change. She also will repeat the last > 4 words said to her. It used to be aloud but now she whispers it to > herself. The last big thing now is transition. She had a friend > playing today at our house. When her friends Mom came to pick her up > it was a total meltdown. No amt. of talking explaining to her did any > good. Then its as if she turns her head and she is over it. > > Good Luck, > > Tammie > > ( ) 3yr old w/ AS > > > > > > Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are > > experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been > > diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea > of > > what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has > tantrums > > that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, > throws > > things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods > of > > time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh > he's > > just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior > from > > our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show > Isaiah > > that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his > episode is > > done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to > off. > > Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2006 Report Share Posted September 13, 2006 This sounds very familiar. One thing I have to remember with the behavior is that its is not the problem, it is the symptom. Now that Devin is almost six the tantrums have gotten less frequent but more explosive. Usually if I watch and figure out the triggers I can stop the situation completly avoiding the meltdown. Sometimes I miss it and I can't stop it. I can not be with him all of the time now that he is in school so the teachers are having to learn to watch for these things. It is a process and I won't say a fun process. But I have found that if we tackle it one meltdown at a time we can get through it. Hope that helps. Lenore > > Would anyone be willing to share the things they have or are > experiencing w/ their toddler that has AS? My son has just been > diagnosed and I can't seem to find anything that gives me an idea of > what we are dealing w/ is typical for kids w/ AS. Isaiah has tantrums > that are out of this world, he hits us, pinches me, slaps me, throws > things, clears off a table w/ one hand.. screams for long periods of > time when he doesn't get his way.... some I guess would say, oh he's > just spoiled or he's naughty. We have never allowed this behavior from > our other 3 kids, and have done everything under the son to show Isaiah > that this isn't acceptable. It doesn't matter. Then when his episode is > done, it's done, that's it. It's like the switch flipped back to off. > Any of this sound familiar?? Thanks, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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