Re: GODZILLA! AAAAGGH!

[Guest guest]

First of all, what's wrong with being a nerd? Bill Gates is a nerd, and he's

done pretty well for himself!! LOL

Secondly, why can't you say " hey guys, knock it off. He has Asperger's? "

It's been my experience that kids are more understanding of my kids once they

realize that they have a specific disability, and are not just generically

wierd. I try to explain to them about my kids strengths and weaknesses and

they're usually pretty good about trying to adapt to my kids strengths and

interests.

Lastly, be glad your son is into something " boyish! " My almost 17 yo son is a

Mickey Mouse fanatic. Our home is truly the " house of mouse " !LOL I've given up

trying to explain to him that Mickey Mouse is not an age appropriate idol for

him. At least it makes present buying simple. Anything with the Mouse and he's

happy.

Pat- Mom to Josh and Sara (16 yo and 13 yo, both AS)

<bluefancy@...> wrote:

Hi all,

Been lurking for awhile and thought I'd pop back on after a long

hiatus. My almost 10 YO son, Max has AS and will be entering the

4th grade. Like mnost Aspies he's very precocious and smart but so

preoccupied with his obsession he's no fun for other kids or

teachers. Last year, the obsession was POKEMON, which was actually

great B/C it seemed most of the other boys in his class liked it too

and he made friends for the first time at school. This year

Godzilla has stormed into our lives and he talks, draws, reads and

breathes the beast.

I had the opportunity to take him to work with me ( I am a crafts

instructor and had a summer program for children) and got to watch

him in action--or inaction I should say. all he did was draw or

talk about Godzilla or the other japanese monsters. Any time he was

forced to do another activity with the class he rushed thru it just

to get back to Zilla. All the other kids thought he was totaly

wierd. No one knew (or cared) what the heck a Gamera or Mothra was.

It didn't matter to him what the other kids thought but it broke my

heart! He's getting to the age where the other kids can be sooo

mean and eventually the teasing will go too far. I'm so nervous

about the upcoming school year.

I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age and

how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not like

I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

Am I ranting? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else has

these mixed feelings towards their child of wanting to protect them

from the world and wanting them to fit in with it.

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

Hi , let me share a little...my Aspie is 14, and wasn't dx'd until he was

10. His perseverations have always been off the beam, although when his beam

happens to cross the norm, look out.

I wish I had some tidbit of amazing advice or some shining beacon, but the

truth is that the next few years are going to be hell for both of you. The best

thing I did for was to allow the school to put him in a self-contained

class for most of the day--and it wasn't an aspie class, it was all sorts of

pdd's, and such. BUT the kids there accepted him without question! The teachers

were ready for the unexpected, and he was given the time & space he needed to do

his own thing within the frame of the class.

There was no positive interaction with non-classmate peers. A few times I

invited a classmate or two to the pool (with their parents of course!) and I

encourage him to talk on the phone with his friends (very non-typical teen) We

did have one sleepover, but word to the wise...take your son's quirks, double

them for each child invited, --one will hate the bright light, another will

crave it) and take it to a power of 10 (They " feed " of each other)

The best thing I did for during his tween years was to pump up his

self-esteem each & every chance I had, loving him unconditionally, AND giving

HIM the understanding of his differences & helping him voice to others what he

needed...teaching him how to advocate for himself.

Now, as he's entering High School this year (BOOOOO HOOOOOO...MY

BAAAAAAYYYBEEEEEEEE) He's got a few friends, and the confidence that there are

other kids out there that will like some of the things he's into. He's already

gotten permission to start a new club at the hs...for dungeons and dragons.

Now he's learned that it's ok to be geeky (his words not mine) Because the

Geeks will rule the world after school's just a memory!

<bluefancy@...> wrote:

Hi all,

Been lurking for awhile and thought I'd pop back on after a long

hiatus. My almost 10 YO son, Max has AS and will be entering the

4th grade. Like mnost Aspies he's very precocious and smart but so

preoccupied with his obsession he's no fun for other kids or

teachers. Last year, the obsession was POKEMON, which was actually

great B/C it seemed most of the other boys in his class liked it too

and he made friends for the first time at school. This year

Godzilla has stormed into our lives and he talks, draws, reads and

breathes the beast.

I had the opportunity to take him to work with me ( I am a crafts

instructor and had a summer program for children) and got to watch

him in action--or inaction I should say. all he did was draw or

talk about Godzilla or the other japanese monsters. Any time he was

forced to do another activity with the class he rushed thru it just

to get back to Zilla. All the other kids thought he was totaly

wierd. No one knew (or cared) what the heck a Gamera or Mothra was.

It didn't matter to him what the other kids thought but it broke my

heart! He's getting to the age where the other kids can be sooo

mean and eventually the teasing will go too far. I'm so nervous

about the upcoming school year.

I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age and

how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not like

I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

Am I ranting? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else has

these mixed feelings towards their child of wanting to protect them

from the world and wanting them to fit in with it.

Thanks,

Hugs & Peace,

Sheri Briley

http://my2.tupperware.com/johnbriley

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[Guest guest]

>

>

> I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

> becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

> better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age and

> how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not like

> I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

>

How about " knock it off-you may not be interested in Godzilla, but teasing is

never okay. "

Jackie

[Guest guest]

,

why couldn't you say knock it off he has aspergers? Perhaps then you'd have an

opportunity to educate a few kids.

Beck

( ) GODZILLA! AAAAGGH!

Hi all,

Been lurking for awhile and thought I'd pop back on after a long

hiatus. My almost 10 YO son, Max has AS and will be entering the

4th grade. Like mnost Aspies he's very precocious and smart but so

preoccupied with his obsession he's no fun for other kids or

teachers. Last year, the obsession was POKEMON, which was actually

great B/C it seemed most of the other boys in his class liked it too

and he made friends for the first time at school. This year

Godzilla has stormed into our lives and he talks, draws, reads and

breathes the beast.

I had the opportunity to take him to work with me ( I am a crafts

instructor and had a summer program for children) and got to watch

him in action--or inaction I should say. all he did was draw or

talk about Godzilla or the other japanese monsters. Any time he was

forced to do another activity with the class he rushed thru it just

to get back to Zilla. All the other kids thought he was totaly

wierd. No one knew (or cared) what the heck a Gamera or Mothra was.

It didn't matter to him what the other kids thought but it broke my

heart! He's getting to the age where the other kids can be sooo

mean and eventually the teasing will go too far. I'm so nervous

about the upcoming school year.

I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age and

how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not like

I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

Am I ranting? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else has

these mixed feelings towards their child of wanting to protect them

from the world and wanting them to fit in with it.

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

I recently read in a book called " learning to live with high functioning Autism "

that young adults who have come to accpet their disability and are open and

honest about it with others in general fair better in society than those that

try to be " normal " . If we are afraid to mention that our children have ASD

what message does that then send to them about their diagnosis. My son is only

5 and I am already teaching him about ASD. It is a part of who he is and he has

to learn to live with. Denying/Ignoring that he has it will only make it harder

for him.

Beck

Re: ( ) GODZILLA! AAAAGGH!

First of all, what's wrong with being a nerd? Bill Gates is a nerd, and he's

done pretty well for himself!! LOL

Secondly, why can't you say " hey guys, knock it off. He has Asperger's? " It's

been my experience that kids are more understanding of my kids once they realize

that they have a specific disability, and are not just generically wierd. I try

to explain to them about my kids strengths and weaknesses and they're usually

pretty good about trying to adapt to my kids strengths and interests.

Lastly, be glad your son is into something " boyish! " My almost 17 yo son is a

Mickey Mouse fanatic. Our home is truly the " house of mouse " !LOL I've given up

trying to explain to him that Mickey Mouse is not an age appropriate idol for

him. At least it makes present buying simple. Anything with the Mouse and he's

happy.

Pat- Mom to Josh and Sara (16 yo and 13 yo, both AS)

<bluefancy@...> wrote:

Hi all,

Been lurking for awhile and thought I'd pop back on after a long

hiatus. My almost 10 YO son, Max has AS and will be entering the

4th grade. Like mnost Aspies he's very precocious and smart but so

preoccupied with his obsession he's no fun for other kids or

teachers. Last year, the obsession was POKEMON, which was actually

great B/C it seemed most of the other boys in his class liked it too

and he made friends for the first time at school. This year

Godzilla has stormed into our lives and he talks, draws, reads and

breathes the beast.

I had the opportunity to take him to work with me ( I am a crafts

instructor and had a summer program for children) and got to watch

him in action--or inaction I should say. all he did was draw or

talk about Godzilla or the other japanese monsters. Any time he was

forced to do another activity with the class he rushed thru it just

to get back to Zilla. All the other kids thought he was totaly

wierd. No one knew (or cared) what the heck a Gamera or Mothra was.

It didn't matter to him what the other kids thought but it broke my

heart! He's getting to the age where the other kids can be sooo

mean and eventually the teasing will go too far. I'm so nervous

about the upcoming school year.

I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age and

how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not like

I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

Am I ranting? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else has

these mixed feelings towards their child of wanting to protect them

from the world and wanting them to fit in with it.

Thanks,

[Guest guest]

Hi! I thought you might be interested in what we did. In the 4th &

5th grade, I worked with the school to create a powerpoint

presentation all about to share with his class. I went into

the class and the teacher, special education teacher and showed the

powerpoint and talked about what makes , . The kids were so

interested! They asked questions and pointed out things they had

noticed about him. Once they understood about aspergers, he didn't

seem so weird to them. Knowledge is power! I know I uploaded the

presentation to the files section, it's still there if you want to

see it.

>

> Hi all,

> Been lurking for awhile and thought I'd pop back on after a long

> hiatus. My almost 10 YO son, Max has AS and will be entering the

> 4th grade. Like mnost Aspies he's very precocious and smart but

so

> preoccupied with his obsession he's no fun for other kids or

> teachers. Last year, the obsession was POKEMON, which was

actually

> great B/C it seemed most of the other boys in his class liked it

too

> and he made friends for the first time at school. This year

> Godzilla has stormed into our lives and he talks, draws, reads and

> breathes the beast.

>

> I had the opportunity to take him to work with me ( I am a crafts

> instructor and had a summer program for children) and got to watch

> him in action--or inaction I should say. all he did was draw or

> talk about Godzilla or the other japanese monsters. Any time he

was

> forced to do another activity with the class he rushed thru it

just

> to get back to Zilla. All the other kids thought he was totaly

> wierd. No one knew (or cared) what the heck a Gamera or Mothra

was.

> It didn't matter to him what the other kids thought but it broke

my

> heart! He's getting to the age where the other kids can be sooo

> mean and eventually the teasing will go too far. I'm so nervous

> about the upcoming school year.

>

> I feel like a lousy mom because i think my cute, quirky, kid is

> becoming a text book...Nerd. (Ouch! So hard to say but lack of

> better word) It was so hard seeing other " normal " kids his age

and

> how they interact--teasing my son IN FRONT OF ME! And its not

like

> I can say " Hey guys, knock it off he has Aspergers! "

>

> Am I ranting? I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else has

> these mixed feelings towards their child of wanting to protect

them

> from the world and wanting them to fit in with it.

>

> Thanks,

>

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Hi! I thought you might be interested in what we did. In the 4th &

> 5th grade, I worked with the school to create a powerpoint

> presentation all about to share with his class.

ph's 4th grade class had a presentation about Asperger's last year, mostly

to explain his

meltdowns. We will do it again for 5th grade. The resource teacher has a

standard age-

appropriate book she uses. But I be in attendance for that this year. The kids

were really

good to him.

Jackie