Re: My son is obsessed with Star Wars

[Guest guest]

you might want to take the interest and expand on it with him...or try floor

time around the interest. You could ask him questions and begin a

conversation around the interest. Also help him create elaborate play themes

with his

figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations " with each

other. Pam

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My experience has always been that if you take it away you will only

have another obession follow suit - perhaps this one not so nice.

As long as you can live with it, and he is able to detach enough to

form some friendships and do OK in school, then what the heck.

My son's Star Wars obsession lasted 4 mos. It transitioned on it's

own to legos and then to Walt Disney World. It seems like as my son

gets older his obsessions last less time (trains lasted 4 years,

rescue heroes 2 years, and then a multitude of obsessions have

followed.)

>

> I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I

went

> to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his

legos.

> I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's

world (a

> jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource

they

> don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It

is

> amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with

Lego

> blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am

quite

> impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

imagination

> and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he

really

> thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me

that he

> has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no

your

> daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my

husband

> does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

> always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you

guys

> think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave

him

> be. He is only 5 not 20.

>

> Lenore

>

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Needless to say my son age seven has been obsessed with Star Wars for

almost two years now. No matter what is going on in the world around

him he always relates everything to Star Wars. If we do something a

certain way it is just like something that they do on star wars or

what have you.My son has had other small obsessions in between such

as the rock with the smiley face and the new cars movie, but nothing

has been important enough to take the place of Star Wars. Unlike your

son, my son likes Darth Vader and General Grevious. He is not much

for the jedi's and often says things like " Im from the dark side "

whatever that means.... My son owns several action figures and sits

for sometimes hours lining them up and touching them to his chin. He

touches everything to his chin and mouth and does it repeatedly while

rocking. He also has a star wars lego video game which I have to

limit due to his inability to sleep after playing it. Overall I am

not too bother by his obsession because it is not the first one and I

am sure it won't be the last one. Before this one we had the

grouch, the wiggles, bob the builder, Mosters Inc (Mr Waternoose),

and several others. Monsters Inc was the worst because he lost his

Mr. Waternoose and cried nonstop until we bought another one. I would

not really worry too much about your son. I think that this is a

normal thing for Aspergers kids.

Janie

> >

> > I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I

> went

> > to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his

> legos.

> > I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's

> world (a

> > jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource

> they

> > don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It

> is

> > amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with

> Lego

> > blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am

> quite

> > impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

> imagination

> > and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he

> really

> > thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me

> that he

> > has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no

> your

> > daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my

> husband

> > does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

> > always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you

> guys

> > think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave

> him

> > be. He is only 5 not 20.

> >

> > Lenore

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Pam has a great idea. My sons Preschool teacher used star wars to help

him interact with others at school. She would start by saying to

another child " Garrett likes star wars do you " then she would tell

Garrett to tell the child about Star Wars and it worked. He was willing

to relate to the child on that level. Pretty soon he was talking about

other things as well. Also his speech therapist used Star Wars cards as

his reward for a job well done. One of his speech goals was three

exchanges of conversation without prompting and he met and exceeded it

in no time when given a reward related to his obsession.Just a thought.

Janie

>

> you might want to take the interest and expand on it with him...or

try floor

> time around the interest. You could ask him questions and begin a

> conversation around the interest. Also help him create elaborate play

themes with his

> figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations " with

each

> other. Pam

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That sounds ok to me.

Tell dad that he is just playing. I know, dads can be so upset when

kids say stuff like that.

Hey Star Wars was MY thing back in the seventies.

Everything was about star wars.

Maybe you can play with him sometime, but he is five.

As long as he doesn't take up TOO much time, I say let him enjoy it.

I did FOR YEARS.

Gotta Love S.W. and THANK YOU GEORGE LUCAS!!

>

> I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I

went

> to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his

legos.

> I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's

world (a

> jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource

they

> don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It

is

> amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with

Lego

> blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am

quite

> impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

imagination

> and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he

really

> thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me

that he

> has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no

your

> daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my

husband

> does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

> always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you

guys

> think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave

him

> be. He is only 5 not 20.

>

> Lenore

>

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We have been having problems with learning letters. He is so

disinterested that it is almost impossible to even get him to sit

down and listen. Over the summer I went online and gathered pictures

of Star Wars characters. One for every letter. I made Flash Cards

with the character pictures. Everyone thought I had gone mad. I will

say that he doesn't know all of the letters but he know over half

now. I have thought about sending the cards to school but I don't

know what the teachers would think about that.

> >

> > you might want to take the interest and expand on it with

him...or

> try floor

> > time around the interest. You could ask him questions and begin

a

> > conversation around the interest. Also help him create elaborate

play

> themes with his

> > figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations "

with

> each

> > other. Pam

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

There are also cards you can make with the obsessive interest as a character of

the story. Say you want to teach a social skill - Darth could become the lead

character and do something wrong. Then Luke would finish the story by coming up

with the " rules " for the situation. You put them on a card with Luke's picture

and the short rules the size of a playing card so he can carry those around.

They are actually called something but I can't think of the name at this moment!

I saw a kid do well with this once and he would tap the card to his forehead to

give him the strength. It was really cute and it did encourage him to try

harder to mind his manners.

Roxanna

Re: ( ) My son is obsessed with Star Wars

Pam has a great idea. My sons Preschool teacher used star wars to help

him interact with others at school. She would start by saying to

another child " Garrett likes star wars do you " then she would tell

Garrett to tell the child about Star Wars and it worked. He was willing

to relate to the child on that level. Pretty soon he was talking about

other things as well. Also his speech therapist used Star Wars cards as

his reward for a job well done. One of his speech goals was three

exchanges of conversation without prompting and he met and exceeded it

in no time when given a reward related to his obsession.Just a thought.

Janie

>

> you might want to take the interest and expand on it with him...or

try floor

> time around the interest. You could ask him questions and begin a

> conversation around the interest. Also help him create elaborate play

themes with his

> figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations " with

each

> other. Pam

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would let him go. He sounds like he is using his imagination when he plays

which is a good thing. And perhaps you culd use his lego to tech him social

concepts. Kind of like puppets modelling what you want modelled. My 5 year old

son watched Star Wars for the first time the other day and loved it. When we

went back to the video store I asked him if he wanted to hire out another one

and showed him teh cover. He said " I watch yesterday " (Note he always says

yesterday for something that happened in the past. I tried to explain that it

was a different episode but he wasn't buying it. He just got upset and kept

saying " I watch yesterday " ! So I don't think we have any danger of a Star Wars

addiction here. lol

Beck

( ) My son is obsessed with Star Wars

I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I went

to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his legos.

I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's world (a

jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource they

don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It is

amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with Lego

blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am quite

impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his imagination

and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he really

thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me that he

has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no your

daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my husband

does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you guys

think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave him

be. He is only 5 not 20.

Lenore

[Guest guest]

Ohhhh - just thought of the answer - they are called " Powercards. " There is a

book that helps you learn how to put them together.

Roxanna

Re: ( ) My son is obsessed with Star Wars

Pam has a great idea. My sons Preschool teacher used star wars to help

him interact with others at school. She would start by saying to

another child " Garrett likes star wars do you " then she would tell

Garrett to tell the child about Star Wars and it worked. He was willing

to relate to the child on that level. Pretty soon he was talking about

other things as well. Also his speech therapist used Star Wars cards as

his reward for a job well done. One of his speech goals was three

exchanges of conversation without prompting and he met and exceeded it

in no time when given a reward related to his obsession.Just a thought.

Janie

>

> you might want to take the interest and expand on it with him...or

try floor

> time around the interest. You could ask him questions and begin a

> conversation around the interest. Also help him create elaborate play

themes with his

> figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations " with

each

> other. Pam

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Seth spent about a year specifically obsessed with Star Wars Legos

itself. I mean he likes the movies but it was the game that consumed

his thoughts. Once before we wnt in for a dx I decided to see how

long he could play wihtout stopping and he played for SEVEN hours

before I made him stop. He probably would have sat there until he

starved to death. Popular game at our house.

Amber

Needless to say my son age seven has been obsessed with Star Wars for

> almost two years now. No matter what is going on in the world around

> him he always relates everything to Star Wars. If we do something a

> certain way it is just like something that they do on star wars or

> what have you.My son has had other small obsessions in between such

> as the rock with the smiley face and the new cars movie, but nothing

> has been important enough to take the place of Star Wars. Unlike your

> son, my son likes Darth Vader and General Grevious. He is not much

> for the jedi's and often says things like " Im from the dark side "

> whatever that means.... My son owns several action figures and sits

> for sometimes hours lining them up and touching them to his chin. He

> touches everything to his chin and mouth and does it repeatedly while

> rocking. He also has a star wars lego video game which I have to

> limit due to his inability to sleep after playing it. Overall I am

> not too bother by his obsession because it is not the first one and I

> am sure it won't be the last one. Before this one we had the

> grouch, the wiggles, bob the builder, Mosters Inc (Mr Waternoose),

> and several others. Monsters Inc was the worst because he lost his

> Mr. Waternoose and cried nonstop until we bought another one. I would

> not really worry too much about your son. I think that this is a

> normal thing for Aspergers kids.

>

> Janie

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > > I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I

> > went

> > > to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his

> > legos.

> > > I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's

> > world (a

> > > jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource

> > they

> > > don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It

> > is

> > > amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with

> > Lego

> > > blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am

> > quite

> > > impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

> > imagination

> > > and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he

> > really

> > > thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me

> > that he

> > > has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no

> > your

> > > daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my

> > husband

> > > does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

> > > always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you

> > guys

> > > think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave

> > him

> > > be. He is only 5 not 20.

> > >

> > > Lenore

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for that Roxanna

I think I have heard of those! I am checking that one out:)

*smiles*

lisa b

>

> Ohhhh - just thought of the answer - they are called " Powercards. "

There is a book that helps you learn how to put them together.

>

[Guest guest]

The developmental pediatrician that dx'ed suggested the power cards

since he's so obsessed with Pokemon. She said since he memorizes the cards and

knows all of the Pokemon, this might be a good way for him to learn social

skills. Unfortunately we haven't found the time to try to find the book and

living here on the Island, there aren't many places that carry books on autism

or Asperger's. Looks like it's time to hit the library!! : )

( ) Re: My son is obsessed with Star Wars

Thanks for that Roxanna

I think I have heard of those! I am checking that one out:)

*smiles*

lisa b

>

> Ohhhh - just thought of the answer - they are called " Powercards. "

There is a book that helps you learn how to put them together.

>

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The Lego Star Wars game is played everyday at my house also. We

recently found out the the Star Wars Lego 2 is coming out September

12. I downloaded a screansaver from the web site that scrolls

pictures of the new game along with a count down clock on the bottom

of the screen. It's real funny. It counts days, hours, minutes, and

seconds until the games release.

Lenore

> > > >

> > > > I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond

so I

> > > went

> > > > to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with

his

> > > legos.

> > > > I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in

Quigon's

> > > world (a

> > > > jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of

cource

> > > they

> > > > don't look like anything because the legos are square

blocks. It

> > > is

> > > > amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships

with

> > > Lego

> > > > blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I

am

> > > quite

> > > > impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

> > > imagination

> > > > and some people thing I should try and make him stop because

he

> > > really

> > > > thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told

me

> > > that he

> > > > has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell

him no

> > > your

> > > > daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that,

my

> > > husband

> > > > does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys

and he

> > > > always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do

you

> > > guys

> > > > think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just

leave

> > > him

> > > > be. He is only 5 not 20.

> > > >

> > > > Lenore

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

That is a great idea. I never thought of that. We have tried playing

out things but Devin does not seem very interested in that at all. I

will definitley look into Powercard. Thanks a lot Roxannna.

Lenore

> >

> > you might want to take the interest and expand on it with

him...or

> try floor

> > time around the interest. You could ask him questions and

begin a

> > conversation around the interest. Also help him create

elaborate play

> themes with his

> > figures or legos and have the characters " have conversations "

with

> each

> > other. Pam

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Isaac is that way with any game systems. He would sit there all day if I let

him. He isn't too into lego though because he will only make what the

instructions tell you the lego can make. And he gets upset if anyone tries to

make anything else. We bought him a police station lego for Christmas last year

and we helped him set it up. He refused to play with it because he didn't like

bits being accidently broken off. It just sat in the corner of his room

gathering dust. If his sister went anywhere near it he'd get hysterical because

" it broken! "

Beck

( ) Re: My son is obsessed with Star Wars

Seth spent about a year specifically obsessed with Star Wars Legos

itself. I mean he likes the movies but it was the game that consumed

his thoughts. Once before we wnt in for a dx I decided to see how

long he could play wihtout stopping and he played for SEVEN hours

before I made him stop. He probably would have sat there until he

starved to death. Popular game at our house.

Amber

Needless to say my son age seven has been obsessed with Star Wars for

> almost two years now. No matter what is going on in the world around

> him he always relates everything to Star Wars. If we do something a

> certain way it is just like something that they do on star wars or

> what have you.My son has had other small obsessions in between such

> as the rock with the smiley face and the new cars movie, but nothing

> has been important enough to take the place of Star Wars. Unlike your

> son, my son likes Darth Vader and General Grevious. He is not much

> for the jedi's and often says things like " Im from the dark side "

> whatever that means.... My son owns several action figures and sits

> for sometimes hours lining them up and touching them to his chin. He

> touches everything to his chin and mouth and does it repeatedly while

> rocking. He also has a star wars lego video game which I have to

> limit due to his inability to sleep after playing it. Overall I am

> not too bother by his obsession because it is not the first one and I

> am sure it won't be the last one. Before this one we had the

> grouch, the wiggles, bob the builder, Mosters Inc (Mr Waternoose),

> and several others. Monsters Inc was the worst because he lost his

> Mr. Waternoose and cried nonstop until we bought another one. I would

> not really worry too much about your son. I think that this is a

> normal thing for Aspergers kids.

>

> Janie

>

>

>

>

> > >

> > > I was calling for him the other day and he would not respond so I

> > went

> > > to find him. He was sitting in his room playing battle with his

> > legos.

> > > I asked why he didn't reply and he told me he was in Quigon's

> > world (a

> > > jedi). He builds lego stormtroopers and jedi knights. Of cource

> > they

> > > don't look like anything because the legos are square blocks. It

> > is

> > > amazing how he constructs the worlds and people and ships with

> > Lego

> > > blocks. He knows everything about Star Wars; I have to say I am

> > quite

> > > impressed sometimes with his knowledge. I go along with his

> > imagination

> > > and some people thing I should try and make him stop because he

> > really

> > > thinks that we live in Star Wars when he plays. He has told me

> > that he

> > > has another father that was killed in a battle and I tell him no

> > your

> > > daddy is the only one you have ever had.I laugh about that, my

> > husband

> > > does not. I think that there are good morals in the storys and he

> > > always says he is a jedi. So hey thats a good guy. What do you

> > guys

> > > think should I try to ween him away from Star Wars or just leave

> > him

> > > be. He is only 5 not 20.

> > >

> > > Lenore

> > >

> >

>

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I never find that many books in stores. I usually get them off the internet.

Try amazon.com or really, many discount places now carry good stuff.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1931282013/sr=8-1/qid=1156347764/ref=pd_bbs_1/0\

02-7688126-8728019?ie=UTF8 <--- here it is on Amazon.com

Roxanna

( ) Re: My son is obsessed with Star Wars

Thanks for that Roxanna

I think I have heard of those! I am checking that one out:)

*smiles*

lisa b

>

> Ohhhh - just thought of the answer - they are called " Powercards. "

There is a book that helps you learn how to put them together.

>

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My 5 yos is obsessed with Pokemon, his Gameboy (particularly Zelda and

Pokemon games) and now Spongebob. He can tell you everything you'd ever

want to know about every single of the 250+ Pokemon (points, powers,

weaknesses, description, etc.) and can quote every single Spongebob

episode even after seeing it only once. We do get the odd looks at times

because the Gameboy is glued to his fingers and I don't pull it away. I

hate the looks, but I try to remember what our neuro told us -- people

are ignorant until they have a child of their own that is different.

This morning, little guy had a big meltdown when arriving at school. Dd

had taken him because he wanted to ride his bike. He was yelling and

even told my dd exactly how 'ticked off' he was. Sigh. One mom runs by

with her kids " Don't look at him! Don't look at him! " Dd (almost 18) was

convinced it was because she didn't want ds's actions to be heard by the

little kids or to rub off on them somehow, but I told her it could have

been that she was trying to make her not feel bad by staring at him or

letting her kids stare. When people stare, I try to remind myself that

they could be thinking " is there some way I can help? " but in all

honesty, that's not usually it LOL

Tami Ober wrote:

>

> My 14 yo as child is obsessed with starwars as well... he has computer

> games and xbox games. I usually take away the computer if he behaves

> badly, but lately he's been so hard to handle.... he hates high

> school. People also think my son is Weird or a Brat... i get all kinds

> of dirty looks. I hate it. I get calls from the school about him,

> telling me that he has to do this and he has to do that and I have to

> make him. I feel like he is 14, how much punishment and what type is

> appropriate? I don't know anymore. Tami

> ( ) Re: My son is obsessed with Star Wars

>

> I do get these people and I know now that they really just don't

> understand. You have to just put those people to the last thought in

> you mind and know what you are doing for you child is the best you

> can do.I really think a lot of people just think my son is weird and

> mostly just bad; but he is not bad! He is so sweet and loving it is

> just hard for him and I have decided that all these other people can

> take their advice somewhere else. If you find away to avoid his

> meltdowns then that is wonderful. You can only take your life a day

> at a time and one small victory can keep you motivated to get

> another victory tomorrow. Your doing good:) Lenore

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Tami,

Well, I thought we would never see the lego star wars, but my son

just bought it. I guess I didn't think about that (he is 14)

But I can say that those that are giving you the problems about your

son,,,,

poo on them.

Ok, I am a little irritated with people like that.

I KNOW your son isn't a brat, and I don't even know him.

These people don't understand him.

My 13 year old is hard to handle, and right now we are working on

ways for him to 'earn ' time on things he likes (Game time, t.v.,

walmart trips, etc) and Instead of focusing on the negative, we are

just rewarding the positive.

He does ok, and hasn't agreed this is good yet, but as long as I am

consistent, I think we will do fine.

The more he doesn't just 'get game time' the better I think he will

do.

We focus on nice words, not being inappropriate, no hurting or

slamming doors, using better coping techniques. I have to check in

every 1/2 hour, but It is worth it to me. (I have 3 kids, so I do a

lot, but I need to!)

Make sense?

But always remember, he is not the brat. The ones calling him

things, or being rude about him, THEY are brats

*Grin*

B

>

> My 14 yo as child is obsessed with starwars as well... he has

computer games and xbox games. I usually take away the computer if

he behaves badly, but lately he's been so hard to handle.... he

hates high school. People also think my son is Weird or a Brat... i

get all kinds of dirty looks. I hate it. I get calls from the

school about him, telling me that he has to do this and he has to do

that and I have to make him. I feel like he is 14, how much

punishment and what type is appropriate? I don't know anymore. Tami