Socially inept isn't always a bad thing...

[Guest guest]

I happened to take a quick glance at my 6th grader's grammar

worksheet at the last minute this morning.

He had done it at school. The exercise was to fill in clauses to

make interesting sentences.

I can't remember them, but mostly he would add stuff like " The woman

---with three heads--- was a good chef. " <rolling my eyes>

However, he put " The book-- with porn in it --- was not

suitable for children.

Great sentence, but uh, not appropriate. I didn't know he knew

what that meant. On the drive to

school, DH said he said kids talk about that alot at school. Sigh.

Then DH just told me last year when the 3rd graders went to overnight

camp, there were

poles in the cabins. The kids were talking about stripper poles and

various sexual acts.

8 year olds. My son was clueless. He knows how to make babies

and how to get them

out, but it's all a serious matter to him.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

Hi Jackie,

Yes, this kind of thing is very sad. My organization just did a

presentation on AS and sexual development, and one of our themes was

Rethinking the Value of " Mainstream " ? NT children learn rules,

especially sexual rules, by repeatedly breaking them. This is not a

learning option for ASD kids, regardless of family culture.

But you're so right that this is one of the bright sides to AS.

Hundreds of thousands of parents struggle with options like home-

schooling in order to have better control over the culture of their

children. Parents of aspies have much more power to protect

innocence until an appropriate age. The problem is that NT parents

have naturally edited their own memories of how socially repulsive

children can be (most of this is not new -- it's just happening

younger), so it's crucial when parents like you remind the rest of

us what is out there. 8 year-olds! Sheesh!

Sincerely,

Mayshar

aspergersociety.com

jmayshar@...

[Guest guest]

Hi Again.

Actually, I'm wondering if you would be willing to send a copy of this

worksheet to me. I'm more interested in the questions than in your

son's answers. If they have a sentence fill-in that says " The

book__________was not suitable for children, " then they're kind of

asking for trouble from any type of child. It sounds perfect for my

education foolishness file.

Sincerely,

Mayshar

aspergersociety.com

jmayshar@...

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--- Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote:

> My son was clueless. He knows how

> to make babies

> and how to get them

> out, but it's all a serious matter to him.

>

> Jackie

Jackie,

I know. My son was being bullied at the end of

6th-grade and a kid was calling him a " faggot " . He had

no clue what that was. They guy was also saying that

my son " sucked balls. " He had no idea what he meant.

Then, at the beginning of 7th, the same guy hit my son

in the back of the head while the teacher was out of

the classroom. Of course, they were both hauled up to

the dean's office. The kid said that called him

a " player. " He had NO idea what the meant. Or that it

was bad. The dean sure did. I asked my son if he knew

what it meant and he said, " Like a baseball 'player'? "

Kind of ridiculous to think that both boys were given

lunch detention-one for supposedly calling someone a

" player " , and the other one for physically hitting the

other????????!!!! Needless to say, after a phone call

to the school, the dean went back to the class and

THEN asked the class what happened and everyone in

there told her that had said NOTHING to the

other kid!!!

Ah, Life.

Melinda

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On Mar 16, 2006, at 9:22 AM, Hall Melinda wrote:

>

> . Of course, they were both hauled up to

> the dean's office. The kid said that called him

> a " player. " He had NO idea what the meant.

Well, call ME clueless. What does it mean?

I would take it mean someone who takes advantage

of another person....someone who tries to take an

undeserved advantage by deceit or lying.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

My son also knows about how babies are made, how they come out etc.

Right now he thinks its gross and informed me when he needed more info

on intimate relatinships he would let me know. The other day at the

grocery store while Stuart was helping me w/ the list, (he is in

charge of marking off items and telling me whats next) he noticed

Tampax on the list. " Mom I dont know what this is. " " Dont worry about

it Stuart its a mom thing " " But what is it mom? " " Its a femine hygene

product Stuart " " Oh that is just gross mom " .

Sometimes I think my son in more socially adjusted than the rest of

the world.

>

> >

> > . Of course, they were both hauled up to

> > the dean's office. The kid said that called him

> > a " player. " He had NO idea what the meant.

>

> Well, call ME clueless. What does it mean?

> I would take it mean someone who takes advantage

> of another person....someone who tries to take an

> undeserved advantage by deceit or lying.

>

> Jackie

>

[Guest guest]

A player is a guy that dates and " hooks up " with a lot of girls at one time.

Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote:

On Mar 16, 2006, at 9:22 AM, Hall Melinda wrote:

>

> . Of course, they were both hauled up to

> the dean's office. The kid said that called him

> a " player. " He had NO idea what the meant.

Well, call ME clueless. What does it mean?

I would take it mean someone who takes advantage

of another person....someone who tries to take an

undeserved advantage by deceit or lying.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

I'll add that my personal dictionary. I guess I don't get out much. LOL

Jackie

On Mar 16, 2006, at 12:46 PM, Glenna wrote:

> A player is a guy that dates and " hooks up " with a lot of girls at

> one time.

>

[Guest guest]

I thought it sorta meant in situations even other than relationships.

Kind of like a " weasel " .

On Mar 16, 2006, at 7:59 PM, wrote:

> YUP Plays on a womans emotions to get their own benefit..

>

> -- Re: ( ) Socially inept isn't always a bad

> thing...

>

> A player is a guy that dates and " hooks up " with a lot of girls at

> one time.

>

[Guest guest]

YUP Plays on a womans emotions to get their own benefit..

-- Re: ( ) Socially inept isn't always a bad thing...

A player is a guy that dates and " hooks up " with a lot of girls at one time.

Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote:

On Mar 16, 2006, at 9:22 AM, Hall Melinda wrote:

>

> . Of course, they were both hauled up to

> the dean's office. The kid said that called him

> a " player. " He had NO idea what the meant.

Well, call ME clueless. What does it mean?

I would take it mean someone who takes advantage

of another person....someone who tries to take an

undeserved advantage by deceit or lying.

Jackie