Re: My son doesn't want to go to school

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Try to find out if someone is mistreating him in the small class or is it

because he

is seeing himself as " different " now. Has anyone made a reference that this

class

is for ( slow...retarded...different...etc) kids? Is he preceiving himself as

not like

everyone else? What?

Preschool is NOT like the bigger schools. He could have heard a reference on

the play ground, or during the walk out, or (heaven forbid) from a staff member

that this class will help kids like him. (Whatever that may mean).

My husband bid at a school auction to raise money for our son to be " Principal

for a Day " . Since he was a kindergardener at the time he was only Principal

for

half a day but that was plenty. He and the principal went around doing things

that morning (he was Principal and she was the " assistant " ), she introduced him

as Principal Boone and the kids were very well mannered and polite. When he

came home and I asked him how he liked being Principal he said said looked sad

and said he was not Principal. I said, Yes you were, Mrs Balk was your

Assistant

for the day. He shook his head and said, No. I wasn't the Principal, I was a

freak.

My heart broke into a pieces ! At the innocent age of 6 years old these kids

are so

observant of everything around them and with such a strong desire so early to

fit

in and just be like everyone else.

My greatest mistake was to think that school was the best place for him. By

the

end of second grade there were even more things he noticed that was different

between himself and others. He could not write a neat as others due to gross

and

fine motor issues with Aspie's. He had always been eager to learn then in

second

grade began the I am different, I am stupid talk.

I thought an IEP at school was the answer. This would force the school to give

him

extra help so that " no chld is left behind " right? HA ! They are not left

behind but

they are pushed through without begin taught the same curriculum as other

students

and before you know it they are 3 or 4 grade levels behind on what the national

average

is. Now I am strugging to home school my child and discovering that he has

never

learned basics and he has no concept of how to study or why to study. (He had

been

put in a special resource class - rather than an elective - so teachers could

help him

do his homework at school and have none at home. Do not fall for that. It was

a ploy

to keep parents ignorant that their child was NOT being taught the same material

as

others. Material that prepare you for college! Someone needs to work at

Mc's,

right? Sorry....my BP has risen again just thinking about how they pulled the

wool over

my eyes and I fell for it. DUMB ME!

Please, be very careful what you sign up for and allow. Do not trust the school

to teach

your child. YOU need to know exactly what he is being taught and how. You need

to know

what " normal " kids are being taught and insist your child is taught the same

material. It is

far better for you to help him with home work. YOU know his language. YOU know

how to

talk to him. YOU care about his future. THEY have no vested interest in any

student.

Dee

>

> HI,

>

> I am so upset here, I really am. I feel so overwhelemed with my

> son's issues. I want him to be happy but that isn't so easy.

>

> My son loves school, he always loved school. He never ever gave me

> a hard time separating. Well 1st grade hit and it is so different

> now.

>

> Jonah has a hearing loss too that is not related to his aspergers.

> Well, they realized because of the hearing loss he missed a few

> things like sounds when he was younger. So he gets pulled out for

> language arts every morning. Being pulled out has never been an

> issue for him, before the hearing loss and the asperger's dx he was

> being pulled out at age 3 at a special preschool thru the state for

> services. He has the same teacher this year as last year (she

> looped) and he loves her and she loves him.

>

> He says he doesn't want to go to the language arts class and he

> doesn't want to do the homework, he is pretty resistant but he goes

> eventually and he eventually does his homework. HERE is the thing,

> would he be picking on anything and saying he doesn't want to go and

> do the work, or is he really not liking something and I have to try

> to change it. I am at a loss here. I have a call into the CST and

> I am not sure what to push for. The class he gets pulled into is a

> special ed class. This is not for his AS stuff, ,they don't even

> agree with me that he has aspergers. He gets 100's on the tests,

> she said he reads the best, writes the best and now I don't even

> think he should be in there. I mean the smaller class helps him but

> i don't know if he should be in there. I think he should just have

> an aid in the regular class, but they don't starts aids until 2nd

> grade.

>

> I spoke with a person who works with Autistic kids and she said he

> needs an educational assessment and then the school should fit the

> necessary changes into his IEP. Ofcourse her assoc. can do it for

> $200, i can't afford that. I will talk to the teachers today and

> see if I can make sense of this.

>

> Please anyone going thru or has been thru this, reply!

>

> thanks

> melissa

>